so, i sent "the txt" and my ex has left the country

[Dblock10]

so last night at work i went for it, i bit the bullet and sent the txt to say to her have a great time on your travels and take care.

 

i received a txt from her this morning, most likely before she boarded the plane.

 

she said, thanks have fun back at uni x

 

so yeah, i guess we are on talking terms etc, but it still saddens me that she didn't want to make the relationship work whilst she's away etc, we are still over and more than likely not getting back together again.

 

i really dont know how to feel to be honest. i obviously miss her, and am going to miss her an awful lot but there is nothing i can do. she is gone and wont be around for half a year, and by then, who knows what the future holds.

 

the memories we had together haunt me, like you know that feeling you get when you just want something back, but its gone

 

anyway just need some help and support on this, i cant read to much into her reply, its just short and sweet, i guess its nice she replied ?

 

what do you guys think. i know there are a few people who know my story

[antinko]

She responded in a decent way in my opinion and I think you should follow her advice: have fun at university. She's going to live her life so you should live yours as well.

 

Put it this way: you're right that you're likely not going to get back together, but if she did return and wanted to see how you were, then she'd probably be more impressed if you got on with your life and personal development.

 

You'll obviously continue to grieve for a while, but I think it ended as well as it could have done. She's been polite and friendly to you but she hasn't left you hanging or texted anything to lead you on. Hopefully you can use this to help you look to the future now more easily.

[ScienceGal]

Hi D, I would take her response as positive, but I agree with Antinko in that you need to focus on yourself right now. I know you miss her, and you are going to for a while. It sounds like you should be able to reconnect in 6 months when she gets back, at least to see how her trip went. But, try to put that thought in the future and see how you feel then. I know it seems unlikely that you might not want to talk to her then, but you can't say with 100% certainty that you will.

 

I know how hard it is, but like I've written before, feel blessed that you don't have to run into her or hear about her all the time.. Or see her with someone new! This is where I am at and it makes it so much harder.

 

You've been doing very well and I am proud of you. Everything is going to be just fine!

[Dblock10]

thanks for the replies,

 

Yeah I guess it was a positive reply, and nice of her to do so, i did think deep down that she would reply to me, and if she did i kinda knew she would have said what she said... not sure if thats a good thing or not. its not like her txt had any feelings attached in it. it was just polite and nice. i think its nice she said thanks with a smiley face to my txt.

 

I should follow her advice, uni is for fun and I hope that it brings just that, even if she isn't around right? i still have friends and lots of fun things to look forward to, like i want to go on a ski trip and i am also saving to travel the world when i leave uni to, i plan to go for a year! so haven't lost everything when you look at the big picture. if anything, being single could be a blessing, it brings true freedom even if you remove the whole being able to hook up with who ever if you choose as thats just an option that being single brings.

 

yeah I wont sit around dwelling on it (i hope). i can allow myself to miss her, but i cant become a hermit and never go out or stay being down about her not being with me. Just got to try and push forward carry on with my own life.

 

i guess it literally has ended as good as it could have, so that counts for a lot. I think chances of re-connecting when she is back is highly likely, although as you say, nothing is promised, and yeah maybe i wont want to talk to her then :S ! who knows! I think id be very interested in doing so though (thats how i feel right now anyway) i do wonder if she would like to meet once back, at least it will show how much of a genuine person she is if it does happen. as its something she said when we broke up in person.

 

yeah i do feel blessed i don't have to run into her around town or at uni and see her with another man on her arm. that would kill! but then there is face book ... :S

 

I feel quite proud for how i have handled it tbh. like i never came across as obsessed or really hurt by it to her, i never showed her my weakness. so she will recognise iv'e been mature about it to and do you think she will respect me for how iv'e been about the situation on the whole?

 

what do i do now other than live my life? do i try and stay in light contact with her, every now and again, like once every couple of months? she did mention when we broke up that we should keep each other updated with our lives, but obviously i think that means, now and again not like, lets talk all the time. otherwise there will quickly be nothing to say.

 

do you think she will contact me again now whilst on her journey?

 

i guess no one can answer these questions, but i guess i am free to leave her to it now right? send a happy birthday message to her on her bday. that kind of thing.