"It's complicated".....

[cdr146]

Hi this is my first time posting here, and I'm looking for some advice. A bit of background first:

 

I have gone thru a divorce in the last 10 months, and started hanging out with a girl I work with about 5 months ago. When I told her about my divorce, almost instantly our attitude towards each other changed, much more flirtatious, etc. It became apparent pretty quickly that we also had a lot in common, a lot of similar ideas about what is important. We spent more and more time together over the next few weeks, and some physical things happened between us. All during this time she made it well known that she was looking to move out of the area, I told her I knew that and was fine with things as is and was enjoyng spending time together and getting to know her while she was here.

 

Around June/July she made it known that we were "just friends", as she ramped up her insistence on moving, and sure enough she was offered a job and moved in early August. I struggled with this and did pursue here a little bit, I tried to back off but caved in sometimes. We still had a flirtatious relationship, but she obviously was pulling back a bit as she knew she was leaving.

 

Fast forward to a few weeks ago, she came to visit for a weekend, stayed at my house with a friend of hers. We had spoken quite a bit inbetween since she had moved but not nearly like we had been every day which is also something i'd struggled with. Long story short, we had a fantastic weekend, picked right up where we left off. Tons of chemistry, laughing, touching, dancing, just a great weekend. I had a friend as her if she was interested, she responded that "it's complicated". She also said something to the effect that she wants to give me time to get over my ex, and although I am emotionally she doesn't think I am I know that.

 

Last week I received an initial interview from the company that she works with for a job interview. Her reaction to this was not what I expected. She said I needed to strongly consider my reasons for looking there, and this created a huge argument. I am doing this 95% for professional reasons, and I would be lying if 5% of me didn't look at this as a positive that she works there as well. She said it feels like I'm following her, and this is "her fresh start", moving here to start a new job.

 

I care about this girl tremendously, and could see a future with her some day. I am torn as to what to do, I wasn't expecting her reaction after such an enjoyable weekend just two weeks back. I'm fine to play the "friend" game too, as it's blatantly obvious to anyone around us that we are more than friends but if she wants to label us as that I will respect it and take the postive affection/actions when I get them.

 

To me "it's complicated" means we are in a gray area between friends and a relationship, that's what it's felt like to me. She is waiting for me to clear up some things on my end, and she also has quite a bit on her plate although she is much less inclined to admit this. Any advice would be appreciated, sorry for the length!