Johnny85 Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 Hi All! I feel somewhat silly asking this question, for I hate playing games. I was on a date on Saturday, she kissed me at the end, and she texted me when I she got home that evening. I should also add that she invited me over for breakfast the next day, but I couldn't come due to prior obligations. So I text her the next morning (Sunday), saying "Good morning." lol We text back and forth for a bit. And it naturally ends. I have not heard from her since, and I don't want to come across as pushy. Will I come across as needy if I text her now? Or should I wait until tomorrow? LOL this shouldn't be so hard!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Share Posted September 27, 2011 I suppose my concern is that if I text her tonight, I may have to text her again, when I ask her out again that is, which may be somewhat pushy. Link to post Share on other sites
youngskywalker Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 Stop dragging your feet. She asked you over for breakfast which you declined. The ball is in your court. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 she texted me when I she got home that evening. I should also add that she invited me over for breakfast the next day, but I couldn't come due to prior obligations. Will I come across as needy if I text her now? Or should I wait until tomorrow? WTF, why are you so insecure? She asked you for breakfast and you are hesitating to set up a second date. By now she has assumed you did not like her and she is setting up a date with another guy who is more assertive than you. Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:eek::mad: Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 Hi All! I feel somewhat silly asking this question, for I hate playing games. I was on a date on Saturday, she kissed me at the end, and she texted me when I she got home that evening. I should also add that she invited me over for breakfast the next day, but I couldn't come due to prior obligations. So I text her the next morning (Sunday), saying "Good morning." lol We text back and forth for a bit. And it naturally ends. I have not heard from her since, and I don't want to come across as pushy. Will I come across as needy if I text her now? Or should I wait until tomorrow? LOL this shouldn't be so hard!!!! it isn't hard, all you have to do is stop believing those bullsh*t recommendations read about how to act, because they are in fact bullsh*t. ask for a second date at the end of the first one. you're not female, you don't walk around occupied with other things wondering in passing thought if you like this woman or not, you know you want to screw her senseless, so don't delay the opportunity to do so. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 Wow! I would have dropped whatever you had to do that was more important that her and go have the breakfast.. Listen! You see your new gf is really digging you go for it and ask her out. You have nothing to loose if you do as she's like you. Man wake-up and seen how it going great for you. Don't be shy or afraid she's not going to say no too you.. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Share Posted September 27, 2011 I texted her this morning and said "Good Morning. How are you? I have been eating challenges for breakfast lately hehe" I haven't heard from her yet; granted it is a workday and she is busy. I prefer to text at this stage. Now of course I have to wait for her to get back to me before I can ask her out. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
CambridgeGirl Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 Amateur, I'd be long gone by now, unless I was under 20. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Share Posted September 27, 2011 Well I don't have time for excuses right now. Instead, I need to focus on my game plan. She is cool and I would like to go out with her again. How do I rectify this matter? Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 I texted her this morning and said "Good Morning. How are you? I have been eating challenges for breakfast lately hehe" I haven't heard from her yet; granted it is a workday and she is busy. I prefer to text at this stage. Now of course I have to wait for her to get back to me before I can ask her out. LOL You have not set up a second date yet???????????????? Are you kidding me????? Do you realize that by now this woman assumes you are not that interested. She gave you a window of opportunity and you missed it. She invited for breakfast and a quickie and you declined. She may even think you are gay. By now she is setting up a date with another guy. you lost her. Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 I texted her this morning and said "Good Morning. How are you? I have been eating challenges for breakfast lately hehe" I haven't heard from her yet; granted it is a workday and she is busy. I prefer to text at this stage. Now of course I have to wait for her to get back to me before I can ask her out. LOL So she invited you to breakfast and in responds (a few days later) you sent her a reply saying you had breakfast? You trying to piss her or what? All I can tell you is if you don't pick up the phone now and call her (oh wow, no freakin SMS ) and ask her out on a 2nd date, she'll dump you like expired food, if she hasn't already. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Share Posted September 27, 2011 (edited) So she invited you to breakfast and in responds (a few days later) you sent her a reply saying you had breakfast? You trying to piss her or what? All I can tell you is if you don't pick up the phone now and call her (oh wow, no freakin SMS ) and ask her out on a 2nd date, she'll dump you like expired food, if she hasn't already. LOL Firstly, I had a meeting the next morning at 8 am and I got home around 3 am from our date . I had the entire day booked on Sunday. My mistake, I will admit, was not setting up a second date. Secondly, "I eat challenges for breakfast," is a quote, which means that a person is up for any challenges that may come about throughout one's day. When we met online, she texted me saying exactly that: "I eat challenges for breakfast." (In other words, it was a joke). Finally, I was super busy on Sunday and Monday; I have a life with friends, family, work and school going on too. Sure, I could have been more assertive at the end of our date , but I am still going to be true to myself (in response to Pierre). A date is not a job interview; either there is a connection or there is not. Period! I felt there was, otherwise she would not have kissed me. I am going to take you up on your advice and call her tonight. Thanks!!! Edited September 27, 2011 by Johnny85 j Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 I am going to take you up on your advice and call her tonight. Thanks!!! By any chance: Where you known as the procrastinator. Call tonight????????????????? Dude! Every second counts. Being busy on Sunday is not a good excuse for avoiding sex and breakfast. Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 I'd leave everything for a second date, let alone breakfast with kisses and I don't mean sweeties... Seriously? Obviously our young friend (you must be so much young) is not that much into her, because I don't conceive in my think cranium how one could let go this hell of a chance!!!! How she must have felt when rejected!!!!!!! But even without a direct invitation, you should set up something for the next days, who says you must wait some days to call her (after she kissed you!!!!)... Good luck, man... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 I'd leave everything for a second date, let alone breakfast with kisses and I don't mean sweeties... Seriously? Obviously our young friend (you must be so much young) is not that much into her, because I don't conceive in my think cranium how one could let go this hell of a chance!!!! How she must have felt when rejected!!!!!!! But even without a direct invitation, you should set up something for the next days, who says you must wait some days to call her (after she kissed you!!!!)... Good luck, man... LOL Now you're making me feel bad. I did not reject her; I couldn't make it to breakfast the next morning. I even texted her and said I had a great time. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 LOL Now you're making me feel bad. I did not reject her; I couldn't make it to breakfast the next morning. I even texted her and said I had a great time. As a woman, I'd assume you didn't like me if you declined a date and then didn't contact me for a few days. What you should have done was say "can't do breakfast, how about dinner on Monday?" I think she's moved on, but still give her a call and simply ask her out. When I met my last ex, he texted me within 15 minutes of the date and told me he thought I was hotter in person than in my profile pictures and asked when he could see me again. It's nice not to have to play guessing games! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 As a woman, I'd assume you didn't like me if you declined a date and then didn't contact me for a few days. What you should have done was say "can't do breakfast, how about dinner on Monday?" I think she's moved on, but still give her a call and simply ask her out. When I met my last ex, he texted me within 15 minutes of the date and told me he thought I was hotter in person than in my profile pictures and asked when he could see me again. It's nice not to have to play guessing games! I contacted her the same night (by text) and said that I had a great time. The next morning, I texted her again and we texted back and forth and joked a little. I texted her this morning (no reply so far). My point is that I did contact her after the date. From a female perspective, would you think I were too pushy if I called her tonight (after I texted her this morning with no response)? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 I contacted her the same night (by text) and said that I had a great time. The next morning, I texted her again and we texted back and forth and joked a little. I texted her this morning (no reply so far). My point is that I did contact her after the date. From a female perspective, would you think I were too pushy if I called her tonight (after I texted her this morning with no response)? NO! I think the reason she is ignoring you is because she feels like you rejected her by saying no to breakfast and not trying to set up an alternative date. She asked you out initially, so I doubt she'd see you asking her out as pushy. If you like her, you should give it a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 (edited) NO! I think the reason she is ignoring you is because she feels like you rejected her by saying no to breakfast and not trying to set up an alternative date. She asked you out initially, so I doubt she'd see you asking her out as pushy. If you like her, you should give it a shot. I did let her know that I had stuff to do the following morning (early on in the date). The next day when I texted her, she texted back almost immediately. But point well taken! I can definitely see why she would have felt rejected. Thanks D-Lish! Oh and I do like her. : - ) Edited September 28, 2011 by Johnny85 kjkj Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 I did let her know that I had stuff to do the following morning (early on in the date). The next day when I texted her, she texted back almost immediately. But point well taken! I can definitely see why she would have felt rejected. Thanks D-Lish! The clock is ticking and you have not called her. The more time passes the harder it gets, ahh!!!!!! I have the feeling you will not call. You realize you blew it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 The clock is ticking and you have not called her. The more time passes the harder it gets, ahh!!!!!! I have the feeling you will not call. You realize you blew it. LOL I will call; seriously though, it did not even cross my mind that she felt rejected. I even told her I had a great time. Wow, I just wish she would respond to my fracking text message already!!! lol Sidenote: She did this before our first date too: waited an entire day to respond. She canceled our date twice. So she seems to be a little sporadic. Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 LOL I will call; seriously though, it did not even cross my mind that she felt rejected. I even told her I had a great time. Wow, I just wish she would respond to my fracking text message already!!! lol Sidenote: She did this before our first date too: waited an entire day to respond. She canceled our date twice. So she seems to be a little sporadic. Oh, I see: You two play games. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 Ok; so I called and it went straight to voicemail, so I left a message: "Hello, this is Johnny. I was driving home from class and I was thinking about you. Just wanted to say that I had a great time on Saturday and I would like to see you again. Plz call me back when you get this message." So now the ball is in her court. I tried and that is all I can do!! What do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnny85 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 She liked me enough to kiss me, so I would assume she likes me enough to go out with me again. People don't just move on after two days. Hopefully not??!!! Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 If you like her, I suggest setting up the next date at the end of each date. And talking about alternatives if one of you can't make the first suggested date and time. All this texting back and forth seems like a waste of time when you could be having these discussions face-to-face. But then I'm old school. To be honest, if I were in this situation then I'd seriously question the interest of the other party and whether they had any room in their life for dating when it's so difficult to get together. But, enough lecturing. You've left her a message and so the ball is in her court. Link to post Share on other sites
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