IfiKnewThen Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 She seems to be tired of me not staying the night at her place now. I'm expecting to be dumped again soon. i am a bit confused. she is tired of you NOT spending the night at her place? so she wants you to stay longer? be at her house? or was that a typo and you meant to say she is tired of you '" staying" the night at her place. is she clingy and wants you there all the time? or just lovingly wants you to stay? or does she not want you there? all i can say this this blindrage. balance. dont go too fast...and dont go too slow because you are still healing from your ex. i think moderation helps. and less discussions about your ex. all your new g/f really needs to know is that you're healing ..but very open to her and she makes a difference for the better in your life and that you want to make her happy too. and read men are from mars women are from venus....because we tend to communicate differently, and you might be interpreting her different that she is intending to be heard. i promise you, this book helps really put perspective on men and women's needs and differences and how to translate things. it might not be the beginning of the end, and you dont want to think too negatively yet. so hope that can help some. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 Maybe the dumper is experiencing some detachment issues and is calling to allow the dumpee some closure.... Not in my experience. Just to try and play me some more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 So just a random update on my "love life". Things have been going great with this girl and I'm just appreciating this new relationship for what it is without comparing her to my ex. Tomorrow is my birthday and she wants to take me out somewhere . Thoughts do pop-up in my head which reminisce of my ex but they are further apart now. Not that I have forgotten about her I just feel that now I can move on. I have cut ALL contact with the ex even though she knows how to get a hold of me she hasn't. Its time to begin my new life. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 I thought I could be friends with my ex. But I cannot. I just cannot. I want him out of my life. I went full NC a few days ago and I keeping doing NC. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 blindrage ... i am so happy for you youre LS friend IfiKnewThen yippie!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what a blessing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted November 13, 2011 Author Share Posted November 13, 2011 blindrage ... i am so happy for you youre LS friend IfiKnewThen yippie!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what a blessing. ThankS!! I am noticing that there's more to life and I don't want to waste it anymore. I hope things are going well for you IfiKnewThen Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted November 13, 2011 Share Posted November 13, 2011 i'm coping. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted November 21, 2011 Share Posted November 21, 2011 hey blindrage. hows it going. last we heard looked good : ) an inspiring story indeed. but how are ya? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted November 21, 2011 Author Share Posted November 21, 2011 (edited) hey blindrage. hows it going. last we heard looked good : ) an inspiring story indeed. but how are ya? haha... not to jinx it but things are going really well with this new girl. Had an amazing weekend (which she stayed at my house) and enjoyed the warmth, affection and love of her. I already introduced her to my family and they like her a lot. Lets see where it goes from here on now. I miss the ex but it's getting easier to cope now and she has informed me of her new love. I just wish her the best. Edited November 21, 2011 by BlindRage Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 wow. i think youre on the greatest track. i am so happy for u i could almost cry. lol. really. i remember your first thread..wow ..you come such a long way. and as far as your x goes. for you to feel just well good luck to you i wish you the best............. AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she probably just says it anyway b/c she probably knows you have another love. i wonder if you told her...thinking u did or she heard about it. either way. i felt u were a good person blindrage who deserved better and would find someone soon someday. dont think negative either. no jinxes here. just good vibes. treat her right, and she needs to be good to you too. so happy for u. good deal! : ) Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted November 24, 2011 Author Share Posted November 24, 2011 wow. i think youre on the greatest track. i am so happy for u i could almost cry. lol. really. i remember your first thread..wow ..you come such a long way. and as far as your x goes. for you to feel just well good luck to you i wish you the best............. AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and she probably just says it anyway b/c she probably knows you have another love. i wonder if you told her...thinking u did or she heard about it. either way. i felt u were a good person blindrage who deserved better and would find someone soon someday. dont think negative either. no jinxes here. just good vibes. treat her right, and she needs to be good to you too. so happy for u. good deal! : ) HAHA THANKS!!!! You made my day with your post I'm trying to just move on now. She hasn't attempted to contact me so just, eh, GOOD LUCK GIRL AND FIND YOUR ONE! Right? nothing more left to do then just raise your glass and wish the dumpers a great life. And now I'm ready to start living mine without her or thoughts of her in it. THANKs buddy. I hope things are going on a better note for you also. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted December 3, 2011 Author Share Posted December 3, 2011 Everything has been going great. The new girl did friend-zone me but she's a pretty good person and I enjoy hanging out with her. Broke up with the 'girlfriend' I had. Spoke to my ex and had a friendly chat and she gave me woman advice, lol. She's cool and I'm not attracted to her any longer at all. I think we can be pals. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted December 7, 2011 Share Posted December 7, 2011 wow just read this post now. i have been so busy....and not all fun things. but anyway... you sound in control together and coping better than ever. how did the girl take the break up? curious. its good you have accepted your friendships and who knows... from there. the fact that it doesnt really matter to u and u have accepted that is a great thing. your friend ifiknewthen Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted December 21, 2011 Share Posted December 21, 2011 so hows it going now blind rage? you still in the friends zone with the new girl. just saying hi. its been a while. busy with christmas and all Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlindRage Posted December 22, 2011 Author Share Posted December 22, 2011 Hey IfiKnewThen Nice hearing from you. Hope your holiday season is going well. . Umm unfortunately yea I am still friend-zoned. I actually introduced her to my family today as my "girlfriend", and it went pleasant. But regardless of that we are just friends. And I've been talking to my ex recently as we started to get along even more. Yet, she brought up the past and she shut down on me. Even though I apologized for my wrong doing and wished her the best in future relations. I e-mailed her and she ignored me so hopefully she sees that I'm just trying to be friendly and not trying to get her back. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted December 22, 2011 Share Posted December 22, 2011 Why us it ok for the dumper to be a complete jerk? I think I should be allowed to contact my exes and tell them that just casually dating other people, has proved how badly my exes treated me. Case in point: Ex 1: dumps me by text after a year. No answers, completely unresolved. Turned everyone against me. Ex2: dumps me by text coz he wanted to "be single". Calls me months later begga me back. Arranges to meet me, then stands me up. Hilariously calls me the nutjob and verbally abuses me by text. Link to post Share on other sites
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