CBN Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 I started dating this girl around august 24th and am falling in love with her. We spend almost all our free time together. We became officially a couple on september 12th. I used her computer recently and when I turned it on her facebook messages screen was up and curiousity got the best of me so I looked through them (wrong I know). Anyway one of the messages was from a friend of hers, and apparently on september 8th then had a dirty skype session, she showed him her tits while he jacked off, and maybe she did more im not sure. I was extremely hurt to see this, because we had been with each other basically all the time, and then i feel like the one day I wasnt there this is what she does. I woke her up, told her what i saw, told her we were done, and left. She called me crying about 60 times, texted me all night saying it was a stupid mistake, that she was insecure and it was flattering that this guy found her attractive, and that she would never do something like this again. I am trying to forgive her and move on, but now in the back of my mind im wondering how many other friends she has that she talks dirty with, or how many guys shes hooked up with that she still talks to. Also wondering if she is the type that may love me, but just cant help herself from flirting and talking dirty with other guys. I'm just paranoid now that she is going to do something like this again and hurt me. Should i give it more time to try and forget about it? Does it seem like she would do something like this again? She kept saying she felt horrible, but then at times would say, we werent officially dating, even though she always told me not to talk to other girls. I just dont know what to do because I love her but I dont want to go through something like that again, and i feel like if she was doing something she would do it in a way where she wouldnt get caught Link to post Share on other sites
Author CBN Posted September 28, 2011 Author Share Posted September 28, 2011 Also the same day she was skyping with this guy she sent me a picture she took right after she got out of the shower, and then kept texting how much she missed me. So i'm wondering if she felt bad or just has no morals or conscience Link to post Share on other sites
Mallow Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 Had she told you that she was exclusively seeing you around said time? Or were you both open to dating others until you made it offical couple status? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I would let her go. She has no moral fibre. Even if you weren't official at the tim it sounds like you were both in pretty deep. Do you really want to be with someone who is so insecure she needs attention from other guys? Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Should i give it more time to try and forget about it? absolutely not Does it seem like she would do something like this again? of course she would She kept saying she felt horrible only because she got caught. don't let the little head do the thinking for the big head. tell her that you jacked off last night to a girl with really nice big tits and see if she doesn't fume at the mouth. Link to post Share on other sites
aisle_seat Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I have to agree with PNP. I know it'll hurt and with her begging you for forgiveness it won't be easy. Her saying you weren't "officially dating", whatever that means, is beside the point. Maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't want to be with a woman who gives something so personal of herself to just anyone, whether we're dating or not. Who was she showing her tits to? Just some friend of hers? What kind of a person does that, whether they're in a relationship with someone else or not? I'm afraid that action shows something of her character; that she's willing to engage in a sexual act (makes no difference that it was online) with someone she's not even dating. If you do want to stay with her, you need to have a serious talk with her and find out why she did it then decide if you can trust her not to do it again. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Dude, you only started dating this girl a month ago, I don't think you're THAT emotionally invested into this relationship. She screwed up, but that's a mistake she has to live with because you don't. Normally, I would say something different if this relationship was, let's say, a year old. I would have looked at the dates and argue that, " Well, this happened on the 8th and you didn't offically become exclusive until the 12th...." But since this relationship is soooo new. I'd look for someone a little different. Chalk it up as lessons learned and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 If you wanna still see her---just date her, and don't start any official relationship crap----just date and enjoy life---stop worrying about what she does on her own Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 If you're interested in a monogamous relationship, she's not the one for that, no matter what she is trying to tell you now. I'd move on if I were you. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts