jerryinva Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 I just noticed she was online...she was on for about 10 minutes more...then left...and never said a word. But, I didn't IM her either... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 13, 2004 Author Share Posted May 13, 2004 I wish I could understand how women think... Link to post Share on other sites
Miss_Prolixity Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 Hi Jerry, I don't know your whole story, but why didn't you message her if she was online? Perhaps, she saw you online and didn't message you for the same reason you avoided her. Ahh, these funny things called, "games". Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 13, 2004 Author Share Posted May 13, 2004 She has requested that I leave her alone for now...she needs some time away from me. We had a fight Friday..I called several times trying to fix it (which she hates)...she told me on Friday, "if you really love me, you'll leave me alone." Sunday I messed up and called her... Monday I emailed her...and her last email said she really, really needed some time away from me. No contact on Tuesday..and then yesterday she called me to tell me about a message that was left on her voicemail (that was the number I had listed before I got my own)... As she went to get off the phone, I told her I was sorry and I missed her. I called her voicemail at work to ask a followup question. She came online last night around 9 pm to answer my question through IM, then got off. Today, no contact..although I did see her online earlier... I didn't say anything because she asked me to leave her alone...so I assumed that means she is to initiate any contact. What is making me so sad is, even though we have been through this routine before...it has not lasted 6 days..., but once maybe. Now true, 2 of those days I made contact...and 1 she did, so it really will have been only 3 days no contact at the end of today. Our fighting issue...is her fiance. She loves him, but as a friend...she has come right out and said she never sees her marrying him...but I don't think she is ready to break him away...because she is afraid to hurt him. And then there is me...who she told April 9th, she thought she was falling in love with me. It has been mixed messages for the last year or so... Link to post Share on other sites
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 You should value yourself enough to find a girl (woman) who will be only with you. I don't know your history.... And then there is me...who she told April 9th, she thought she was falling in love with me. It has been mixed messages for the last year or so... Doesn't sound like she is going to leave him for you if it's been going on for a year! Sorry to say this but you need to maybe move on... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 13, 2004 Author Share Posted May 13, 2004 I just want my friend back...that is all... Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 Since she asked to leave her alone and not contact her, I think you did very well not writing to her when you saw her online. Be strong and keep to not contact her. I suggest you take her off your online contacts, without blocking her. So next time you won't see her online anyway, won't worry whether she is writing or not, and when she'll be ready to initiate conversation she will be able to. Meanwhile try to move on and date other girls even if it is difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 13, 2004 Author Share Posted May 13, 2004 Thanks... I did feel like I did the right thing by not messaging her. I just hope that it had a positive effect. I miss my best friend. I have wondered if this isn't an attempt to get out of the habit of talking to me everyday, or her feelings for me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 13, 2004 Author Share Posted May 13, 2004 God...this hurts...I know where she is right this moment...and that she could talk...but I know I can't call her... I was even sittin here trying to think of some "legitimate" reason to call her, which is stupid, she will see right through it... Link to post Share on other sites
MESO Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 YOu really really have to be strong here pal.... YOu must request her wishes, any time you contact her it is only gonna push yourself away more I know it hurts to wonder whether she will ever contact you if you dont contact her. But if you initiate contact when she has clearly stated for you to leave her a lone for a while it is only gonna make you seem pushy and needy... I kno it is so so so tough, you just wanna here her voice, you just wanna make things right, you think if she knows this or that, then maybe she will change her mind....BUt you just gotta be strong and keep it cool for a while Give her a chance to miss you...If she doesnt....well do you wanna be with someone that doesnt love you? Link to post Share on other sites
sportsloving Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Our fighting issue...is her fiance. She loves him, but as a friend...she has come right out and said she never sees her marrying him...but I don't think she is ready to break him away...because she is afraid to hurt him. And then there is me...who she told April 9th, she thought she was falling in love with me. It has been mixed messages for the last year or so... She is engaged correct? Then respect yourself, and find someone whom can give you the quality of a relationship that you want... if she is promised to someone else, she isn't devoting herself or her time to either of you. You truly deserve more than this relationship can ever be unless she makes a decision and chooses one man or the other. To have them both on hold like this is disrespectful and rude. Don't contact her, don't find reasons to call, don't IM her, stay away. And let her decide what is really important in her life ... while you are busy rebuilding yourself and your life to not include her. You don't need to be the extra in her movie. Best of luck to you, I hope it all works out well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 I hope you all are right...I made a mistake tonight...I just hope she realizes that I know it was that... Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I'd wager to say bad. It'd be best to move on. Anyone who says, "If you really love me, you'll leave me alone," doesn't love you. No one who loves you would say something like that to you or play that kind of ridiculous game. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 I think what she means with the love part, is because I have professed my love for her so many times....if I love her, I should love her enough to cut her some slack... Link to post Share on other sites
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