LynnieBear Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 when he tells me all he wants or cares about is getting laid. "You know if you spent half your time trying to make an actual emotional connection with a girl, that you do trying to get laid, you'd probably get laid." *courtesy of a similar response of another girl/guy on a different topic* Link to post Share on other sites
LurkerXX Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 If he doesn't care for a deeper connection, what good is saying anything going to do!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 What/who are you talking about? AND you sound like his mother. So he automatically is going to ignore you. "You know, if you spent as much time studying for algebra as you do complaining about it, then you would have better grades and get a scholarship!" Link to post Share on other sites
JokeMan Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 when he tells me all he wants or cares about is getting laid. "You know if you spent half your time trying to make an actual emotional connection with a girl, that you do trying to get laid, you'd probably get laid." *courtesy of a similar response of another girl/guy on a different topic* He can get laid without having to spend $300 a month on a woman so your reply to him was in fact, moot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted September 30, 2011 Author Share Posted September 30, 2011 He can get laid without having to spend $300 a month on a woman so your reply to him was in fact, moot. Falling in love requires no amount of money. Having sex without love or meaning or attachment requires compromising your own physical, mental, and emotional well being. Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted October 1, 2011 Share Posted October 1, 2011 Falling in love requires no amount of money. Having sex without love or meaning or attachment requires compromising your own physical, mental, and emotional well being. No, it doesn't. Not for everyone. Try to accept different perspectives and experiences. Working in absolutes is nothing but stifling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 2, 2011 Author Share Posted October 2, 2011 I'd be about safe to bet that it could be scientifically proven. meaning, it probably causes all sorts of emotional and health problems, which trigger certain neurons in the brain to fire the wrong way etc. Idk, because I'm not God, but according to the Christian faith, when you have sex with someone you are creating a "spiritual ghost" with everyone you sleep with. I believe it. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 "LynnieBear", are you seriously still hung up on your friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 Idk, because I'm not God, but according to the Christian faith, when you have sex with someone you are creating a "spiritual ghost" with everyone you sleep with. I believe it. Excuse me? Would you like to cite come proof of this claim, because this is the first I have ever heard of it?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 3, 2011 Author Share Posted October 3, 2011 Excuse me? Would you like to cite come proof of this claim, because this is the first I have ever heard of it?? go to any church and talk to a pastor Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 Forget this guy. He isn't interested in a relationship. Only sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 go to any church and talk to a pastor I have to disagree. The Christian beliefs that I was taught by mainstream churches were pretty straightforward. #1 Do not have sex with anyone except for your spouse. #2 Do not have premarital sex. #3 Don't feed your fleshly desires by sinning, because that ticks God off. Sex within marriage may be considered a "spiritual union", but since the body is considered to be a vessel of God and since one should keep that vessel pure and uncorrupted, then sex outside of marriage would be defiling your body and, by extension, defiling God. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 was just explaining how sex bonds 2 people for life Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 But sex doesn't bond two people for life. And bringing Christianity into it was ludicrous. So what are you trying to convince this boy of? That he should have sex with you, instead of sex with all the other women that he is trying to bed? And for some reason, you believe that if he has sex with you that it will bind him to you for life, but he won't be bound for life to any other woman that he has screwed or will screw in the future? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 But sex doesn't bond two people for life. LOL you have a lot to learn Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 But sex doesn't bond two people for life. LOL you have a lot to learn Really? Ask any hooker, or ask any guy who's paid a hooker. Ask any college co-ed who got so drunk at her first frat party and slept with the president of Sigma Chi if they are bound for life. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 But sex doesn't bond two people for life. LOL you have a lot to learn You have alot of reprogramming to do. You may get bonded with every guy you have sex with, but they dont necessarily get bonded to you. And there certainly isnt anything spiritual about it. Theres no proof of it, and you dont have any. Id be wiling to bet this is the reason your guy doesnt want to be in a relationship with you, if hes not religious like you, he certainly doesnt want to hear such ignorant talk as what you believe your pastor says. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 9, 2011 Author Share Posted October 9, 2011 According to any doctor, when you sleep with someone, you are sleeping with everyone they have ever slept with. That is why and how STD's and AIDS get spread. It is no "casual" thing to sleep with someone. It requires exchanging bodily fluids and being completely vulnerable to each other. It bonds you. Whether you like it or not. And you wanna talk about ignorant? I just had a person use hookers as a defense... because we all know that's legal. And nobody ever gets arrested for it. Look at the law for an example. Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 the law is different in amsterdam. yet people apparently live there happily. this is the trouble you're having. you deal in absolutes and refuse to try to understand or acknowledge that any opinion other than your own might be just as reasonable and rational. consider that you will never find anyone you 100% agree with on everything. it will NEVER happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Floridaman Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 You have alot of reprogramming to do. You may get bonded with every guy you have sex with, but they dont necessarily get bonded to you. And there certainly isnt anything spiritual about it. Theres no proof of it, and you dont have any. Id be wiling to bet this is the reason your guy doesnt want to be in a relationship with you, if hes not religious like you, he certainly doesnt want to hear such ignorant talk as what you believe your pastor says. Actually, LynnieBear may be onto something. Of course, not everyone equates sex with love. While someone who may have had sex with many people may not be emotionally "bonded" to another and may forget some details, there certainly is a closeness intercourse brings. Else wise, why do some blush or act differently when later they see the other in public -- particularly in a group of people? Long after the two have parted-- that "uncomfortable" feeling remains. They've given a part of themselves to the other. Sex is more than just a physical act. One never forgets who they had sex with. Trust me on this one. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3652791&postcount=316 You think I've gotten that woman out of my memory? No, we weren't emotionally bonded, but we experienced a physical closeness reserved for those who.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 Actually, LynnieBear may be onto something. Of course, not everyone equates sex with love. While someone who may have had sex with many people may not be emotionally "bonded" to another and may forget some details, there certainly is a closeness intercourse brings. Else wise, why do some blush or act differently when later they see the other in public -- particularly in a group of people? Long after the two have parted-- that "uncomfortable" feeling remains. They've given a part of themselves to the other. Sex is more than just a physical act. One never forgets who they had sex with. Trust me on this one. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3652791&postcount=316 You think I've gotten that woman out of my memory? No, we weren't emotionally bonded, but we experienced a physical closeness reserved for those who.... are married. Finished it for you. Link to post Share on other sites
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 (edited) According to any doctor, when you sleep with someone, you are sleeping with everyone they have ever slept with. That is why and how STD's and AIDS get spread. It is no "casual" thing to sleep with someone. It requires exchanging bodily fluids and being completely vulnerable to each other. It bonds you. Whether you like it or not. And you wanna talk about ignorant? I just had a person use hookers as a defense... because we all know that's legal. And nobody ever gets arrested for it. Look at the law for an example. Oh Lynnie... there are ways to stimulate one another without exchanging bodily fluids --- and even when it comes to intercourse, condoms (if they remain in tact) can prevent pregnancies and STDs... and essentially, the exchange of sexual bodily fluids. Also, AIDS and other diseases can be spread via methods that do not involve sexual interactions (think blood / needles / wounds etc). Also, what is being passed along are living organisms that can spread... I am not sure that fluids, without being "infected" with such organisms, do in and of themselves. While there is some remote possibility that every persons bodily fluids carry some kind of component or another that, when in contact with another persons, will mingle and remain inside of them indefinitely / until death --- then still, sex is not the only way for such a thing to occur. Edited October 10, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 And you wanna talk about ignorant? I just had a person use hookers as a defense... because we all know that's legal. And nobody ever gets arrested for it. Look at the law for an example. And what does the law have to do with "sexual bonding"? You think that only "legal" sex bonds someone? What about underage kids having sex? That is illegal; so I guess by your definition underage teens don't bond. And I pity the hookers in Nevada, since because prostitution is legal there, they must bond with all of their clients. That is a big spiritual burden to carry! And then the clients themselves? To be spiritually bonded to a professional sex worker. I bet the married ones feel awfully warm and fuzzy about that when they go home and kiss their wives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LynnieBear Posted October 10, 2011 Author Share Posted October 10, 2011 The ignorance, idiocy, and stupidity on these boards is beyond tolerable. Link to post Share on other sites
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 The ignorance, idiocy, and stupidity on these boards is beyond tolerable. only on these boards? Hmm. Well, regardless... prostitutes are not illegal everywhere --- in fact, many countries and societies allow brothels / prostitution industries. But quite frankly, I do not think a "spiritual ghost" was created that bonded me and the two men whom raped me years ago ... if it did... that's pretty appalling. But if that can somehow only occur when sex is consensual... I'm still having a hard time thinking I've unwittingly bonded my spirit to people I can barely remember (from teenager excursions etc). I think chemicals that sexual stimulation induces CAN generically bond someone to someone else --- but not always. I have certainly become generically attached to men I've slept with... I learned years ago not to have sex with anyone I didn't already know I loved, in large part, because of that. But I can't define it as "spiritual"... "biological" and or "psychological", perhaps. Link to post Share on other sites
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