stop passing the blame

[dalytec]

Most of the occurrences, situations and circumstances that cause misunderstanding between couples is the act of not taking the blame. some spouses find it very difficult to say sorry to their partners which is fundamentally considered to be very bad.

Passing blame on to others have caused a lot of problems in the family today. It has ignited the fire of a great deal of animosity and separation which cannot be easily quenched.It has created a great deal of distances and gaps which cannot be easily fixed or mended. Once a united and a happy home before has been torn apart and their honey turned into bitterness instead. Many husbands have blamed themselves of ever getting married to someone of their wife's status, all because of the way their wives would never want to face the reality and take the blame for whatsoever inconveniences they might have caused the family.

 

To elucidate my point of view let me cite an instance. You will discover a kind of situation whereby the newly wedded couple living three poles away from your apartment always experience hot and hash atmosphere before they go to bed every night. If the kind of argument they always have is of that sort that could keep the neighbors awake even if they had slept. The incessant disturbance from them every night to the neighborhood would call for close examination by summoning them on what the problem could be. It is then you will discover that is either the wife was trying to shift a particular blame which she had committed by herself on her husband or that the husband was trying to do likewise. she could have used herself up and emaciated when she was single or whether she had committed a lot of abortion and she cannot easily conceive again as a result of her numerous abortion. Now that the husband had known, she is supposed to accept the blame and pacify the wrath of the husband so that they could both seek solution to their present predicament. But she was rather passing the blame on the husband asserting that he cannot perform very well as a man.

As couples, we have to be careful about how we deal with situations in the family so as to enjoy the blessing that is inherent in a peaceful family. Only little can be said of family cases whereby they have problems accepting blames on what their children might have committed either in the neighborhood or in the home as the case may be. A lot of couples fight themselves about the way their children exhibit a great deal of misdemeanor in the society by passing the blame on to each other.

You should not be surprised that some couple had even gone to the extent of passing the blame about the fact that their spouses are the ones responsible for their ill-luck and impoverishment. They always acclaim that if they had not married that particular woman in the first place that things would have been okay with their lives. Well I would say that these forms of frivolities and idle tales about one's spouse should be discontinued if their is any because it is not worthwhile and unprofitable.