FolderWife Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 We all complain so much. What if your spouse was overseas, getting his HEAD CUT OFF. Would the problems you are having seem trivial if that were the case? I know mine would. We all have problems, and we all have valid reasons for complaining, and seeking help, but every so often, I like to take a step back, and just realize how good I have it! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 If it is financial problems, your partner who gained weight (or lost hair), a very stressful period, mother in law from hell, relatives who have problems, it makes perfect sense and I can't help agreeing with you. It also makes perfect sense if the problems are stuff like communication problems, or any other problem, that *both* partners are trying to work out. If it is your partner that keeps cheating, abusing you and acting like a jerk, no, no way. It would be like telling you have to eat sprouts and be happy for it because there is people who are starving , when you hate sprouts and have tons of yummy food around. It has some logic, but no one is going to be convinced. Link to post Share on other sites
catspajamas Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 That is why I like to watch Jerry Springer Seeing something horrible lets you appreciate what you have. I am grateful to have my family and not have to worry about them going to war. It could always be worse. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 It's amazing how, sometimes, something inconsequential can loom large. You just have to try to keep it all in perspective. Easier said than done, sometimes, but well worth the effort. Saves a lot of stressing out. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Monday, you didn't have to point to a certain incident overseas. No reason to be graphic like that. I saw that video and if you get the chance to watch the whole thing, don't! I felt sick for like an hour aftewards. Some problems are large in a relationship, some aren't. You need to pick & choose your fights. Most arguments aren't even remembered after a few days, they are just petty. But it's usually a large amount of those petty arguements which leads to bigger problems. Link to post Share on other sites
zarathustra Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 Time and emotional distance from an interpersonal problem of non-life threatening nature facilitate perspective. Unfortunately, when we're at the apex or climax of a problem most of us lack the resources to care that our "petty"relationship issues don't matter a hill of beans in this Age of Terror, AIDS, Pestilence and Famine. It is only after we've turned the corner on whatever interpersonal issue that has been vexing us--for example, my girl friend's refusal to give me a BJ or my boy friend's occasional porn viewing-- that we realize that our problems, as compared to other more serious issues, both global and personal, pale in comparasion. That wisdom or perspective, however, usually comes, if at all, after one has distanced himself or herself from the "problem." But if I'm in the agonizing death throes of an ending love affair, and I'm an open nerve, I'm really not going to care that my little matter of the Heart is unimportant as compared to Global Terrorism, etc. I'm not emotionally ready. Link to post Share on other sites
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