one goal Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 So I'm at the university this year. Anyways in one of my classes we're doing a group project and one of the girls in my group is super cute! Anyways I don't want to make the same mistakes as I did in the past and just start texting her like I did with the other girl. So how do I get to know her better and see if she wants to hangout outside of the class? Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Write her a love note. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 29, 2011 Author Share Posted September 29, 2011 Seriously can you give me advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Talk to her in class. Link to post Share on other sites
wolfess Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Just strike up a conversation about anything, make her laugh if you can, ask her to go somewhere casual, coffee, lunch? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 29, 2011 Author Share Posted September 29, 2011 Just strike up a conversation about anything, make her laugh if you can, ask her to go somewhere casual, coffee, lunch? ask her to lunch when we dont even know each other really? Also would it be best to text her about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 Don't text her. We already know how you can get carried away with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 29, 2011 Author Share Posted September 29, 2011 Don't text her. We already know how you can get carried away with that. It's the only way I can ask her in private though. Link to post Share on other sites
Cracker Jack Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 No, it's not. When your class is finished, talk to her outside or something. I'm sure no one around you really cares if you're asking her out. Just don't text her. Srsly. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 What makes you think she thinks about you in any way shape or form or knows you exist, much less is someone you can just text or start asking to lunch? She's trying to go to school and just be a young woman. Be good at what you do and act if she gives you an opening. Otherwise, just leave her alone. If she's cute, every guy is thinking the same thing and if you don't act like a gangling dufus like they do over her, she might think you're an exception worth getting to know. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Also would it be best to text her about it? No. Ask her. Just casually say, at the end of class, "hey Lisa, Do you want to grab a coffee with me?" (only, try to remember her name since it probably isn't Lisa) Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Woah, Déjà vu Link to post Share on other sites
counterman Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Frisky has a good point. I've been in this situation a few times before, and there were always douchebags and doofuses around who tried to make it a point to outdo each other in order to impress the girl, they would pay out each other in front of her, etc. Just be a top student and really know your stuff, back your own opinions in the group but also ask for others. I had group work before and there was this girl in my group. On top of contributing a lot to the group, during a presentation, I really stood out and we scored top marks for it - she went up to me afterwards and said "I'm really impressed! And never seen you in that light before!" Too bad I wasn't attracted to her. Don't text her... it's a bit weak. I'm guessing you were put in this group, even if you chose to form this group, if you do ask her out and she rejects you, it may make it awkward for her being in the group, that my opinion anyways. So, stand out academically, when you get the chance to talk to her, ask her about herself, tease her a little but don't ask her out yet. Plant the seeds first and when an opportunity arises, ask her out casually to lunch. But, if you do ask her, which I probably would do if I were me now, ask her directly in person and if she says no, shrug it off and say you'll see her in class. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 30, 2011 Author Share Posted September 30, 2011 Frisky has a good point. I've been in this situation a few times before, and there were always douchebags and doofuses around who tried to make it a point to outdo each other in order to impress the girl, they would pay out each other in front of her, etc. Just be a top student and really know your stuff, back your own opinions in the group but also ask for others. I had group work before and there was this girl in my group. On top of contributing a lot to the group, during a presentation, I really stood out and we scored top marks for it - she went up to me afterwards and said "I'm really impressed! And never seen you in that light before!" Too bad I wasn't attracted to her. Don't text her... it's a bit weak. I'm guessing you were put in this group, even if you chose to form this group, if you do ask her out and she rejects you, it may make it awkward for her being in the group, that my opinion anyways. So, stand out academically, when you get the chance to talk to her, ask her about herself, tease her a little but don't ask her out yet. Plant the seeds first and when an opportunity arises, ask her out casually to lunch. But, if you do ask her, which I probably would do if I were me now, ask her directly in person and if she says no, shrug it off and say you'll see her in class. What Im supposed to ask her about with others around? Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 What Im supposed to ask her about with others around? Walk with her after class. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 30, 2011 Author Share Posted September 30, 2011 Walk with her after class. but what if the others walk with us too. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 but what if the others walk with us too. Then ask them out. Dude, it's not that complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Just try not to obsess over her, and just talk to her. Link to post Share on other sites
counterman Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Just what you would normally ask other people, you'll be right. A bit of small talk, how was your weekend, it really that one question alone has gotten me off into long conversations before. Just don't overthink it and treat her normally. If you can walk with her to class, good. If others around, walk together and if talk is directed to you from the others, just answer and if you get the chance to talk to her, good. If not, go out together as a group, have a bit of fun. I have spoken to girls after class before. Usually after class, they're off to another or going home or going to meet friends, I walk with them for a bit and just talk and ask them for coffee. Not too hard! Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 30, 2011 Author Share Posted September 30, 2011 When I start working with her more, is it okay to start texting more and start talking to her in text? Link to post Share on other sites
Professor X Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 You guys really giving him advice? You people like never learn, do you? So one goal, let us know what you texted her and how she called you a creep in return. I haven't seen your tears/rage in a while. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 but what if the others walk with us too. holy shi.t! Chill out. Look, get to know the girls and guys as a GROUP, instead of pushing yourself onto her and into her life so quickly. DO NOT ASK HER OUT. Hang out, establish your group of friends and then start going to parties and stuff with the 'gang' and then get to know her that way. What you've done in the past has NOT worked. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 When I start working with her more, is it okay to start texting more and start talking to her in text? Why the heck do you want to text her? Why not just talk to her in person? WTF is it these days that people can't communicate face to face or on the phone! Texting is NON PERSONAL and things can be taken out of context so easily online (texting, IM'ing, emails) as you can't hear the persons voice, nor intention, mannerisms etc.. So I say, NO. don't be textin' her. You'll just creep her out if you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted September 30, 2011 Author Share Posted September 30, 2011 Why the heck do you want to text her? Why not just talk to her in person? WTF is it these days that people can't communicate face to face or on the phone! Texting is NON PERSONAL and things can be taken out of context so easily online (texting, IM'ing, emails) as you can't hear the persons voice, nor intention, mannerisms etc.. So I say, NO. don't be textin' her. You'll just creep her out if you do. I only see her twice a week. Link to post Share on other sites
counterman Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Set group work outside of class and then ask them if they'll like to do something afterwards, like lunch. With my previous experiences with group work, it was always just strictly group work, with a few exceptions where I had friends in the group. Get the know the group, talk to each one of them, stand out by being more prepared and lead in discussions but don't dominate the group. Let her get to know you better and see how cool you can be, and how you interact outside a classroom environment. If you ask her out, it might make her uncomfortable and put your group in an awkward situation. Just be cool bro And talk to other girls, there's plenty of hot chicks at uni not in your class. I learnt my mistakes about texting and emailing... it's definitely not for more personal stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
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