phineas Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I'm 39 1/2. I let all potential partners know before relations that I require sex twice a week minimum if they expect me to stick around. Once during the week & on weekends. Fair is fair. If they expect me to do the BF thing, stay faithful & pay attention to them I expect regular sex in return. This way, i'm not stuck wasting my time on a woman that won't sleep with me while she is in the process of monkey branching.
Mrowka Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 22 and 28 for over 2 years... We usually see each other 3 or 4 times a week and the number really depends....but usually twice each time so about 6-8 times a week or sometimes more.
Highness Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 We're 30 and 29, been together for over a year. We average about one to two times a week and we're both happy with that (I check in with him regularly on this - guess Im lucky to have finally found someone who matches my libido).
Els Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) I'm in a LDR, so not really in the kind of relationship where we can produce weekly averages. However, like CPF, on thread like these, I'm always amazed at the huge discrepancy between what studies say are couple's averages and the average of people who report here. Most studies report that long term couples have sex on an average of 2 to 4 times a month. It could be that on here, only the posters who have a very active sex-life will be likely to speak up. I agree with this. 24 and 25, 3 years into the R, I'll shamelessly say that we do it on average 3-4 times a week. It's everyday when we're both on holidays, but life being life, that does not occur very often. I don't understand how people with demanding jobs can want sex everyday. Sure, the first few months of your R, first year even... but after that? You get back at 8, by the time you're done with dinner it's 9pm. You have to wake up at 6am the next day, so you only have 2 hours between dinner and bed. A good sex romp typically takes about 30 minutes. If you only had 2 hours of free time a day, would you take 30 minutes out of that for sex every single day? I guess some would, I know I wouldn't. So I don't get upset when the bf doesn't want it as often as I would like, seeing as he works 60+ hour weeks. Honestly, if I were to work that much, we would probably get sex once a week, for the month or so before I end up in the asylum. :/ Fair is fair. If they expect me to do the BF thing, stay faithful & pay attention to them I expect regular sex in return. Huh. Not that I see anything wrong with wanting regular sex, but this logic seems a little skewed. Isn't the payment for being faithful and paying attention, receiving fidelity and attention in return? Or is it okay for her to be unfaithful and inattentive because she is already 'giving you regular sex in return for being faithful and attentive'? Edited October 4, 2011 by Elswyth
Andy_K Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 If I were getting up at 6 and getting back at 8, I'd seriously be considering whether my quality of life would improve if I either moved much closer to work, or took a less demanding job. What's the point of working for nice things if you've only 2 hours a day to enjoy yourself?
Cee Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I don't understand how people with demanding jobs can want sex everyday. Sure, the first few months of your R, first year even... but after that? You get back at 8, by the time you're done with dinner it's 9pm. You have to wake up at 6am the next day, so you only have 2 hours between dinner and bed. A good sex romp typically takes about 30 minutes. If you only had 2 hours of free time a day, would you take 30 minutes out of that for sex every single day? I agree that a couples' schedule comes into play. If I was under constant stress, I'd probably not be up for sex as much. But I have a 9/5 desk job with ample vacation, so I feel like I'm working part-time. And my boyfriend has flex-time and works from home 1-2 days a week, so he's got a mellow schedule as well. Ah, the sex-filled lifestyles of the less ambitious.
sumdude Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 In a 7 1/2 relationship that went to marriage.,.. then divorce. First year: Holy smokes! Almost every night and I would often go 3 - 5 rounds myself. It was like some crazy athletic event. Second Year: 3 -4 times a week After that: Trickled down to 1 - 3 times a week. No kids, we had the time. She just wasn't interested anymore. It started to wear on me and the relationship. She didn't like morning sex. My advances were constantly being rejected. In the end she cheated and left me though I was still willing. Looking back I often wonder if she was getting it on the side for a while there.
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