Boyfriend's online fooling around

[Vinn91]

My boyfriend had been acting different lately- not interested in sex, working late and for a few hours on the weekend, hiding his cell phone from me, etc. lately so I figured something wasn't right. I brought it up and he just got mad at me and he made excuses. He decided to stay out late with his buddy. I had an awful feeling so I checked into his email (even though I know I shouldn't have). What did I find? Several emails between him and different girls talking dirty. Pictures they've sent eachother, and videos he's sent them.

I was extremely upset, and figured it was the end of things. I confronted him when he came home late, and at first he got mad until he realized he was caught and then didn't even try deny it. He said the reason he did it was because he was bored in he relationship but didn't give me answers to why he's bored.

I was devastated. I turned to many friends for support and advice, most said to kick him to the curb, others asked if I could work through it with him cause we've been together for two years. The problem is it's not the first time we've had a road bump because of him and another girl. He hasn't physically touched them, but it's been online and texting.

I've tried talking about it with him last night and he tries to avoid it. He tries to act like nothing happened and everything is perfectly fine. I told him he has to understand that it's going to take quite a while to get over. He made comments about how some of the pictures were off putting of the girls, and why. He promised before not to look at porn because it bothers me, and now he says that I don't have a choice he needs to look at it.

I'm not quite sure what to do, how i should feel, and I feel pretty awful about myself even though i know I shouldn't.

 

Any comments?

[reboot]

He's cheating on you and lying about it.

 

Run away.

[skywriter]

You said, you've been together two yrs. I'm thinking you must be fairly young, because I don't think two years is that long of a relationship.

 

Consider investing twenty-two years of your life into this man, children, mortgages and so on.

 

In other words, if you decide to go now, at least you haven't got alot invested & you don't have to hire an atty to settle those issues.

 

You shouldn't feel bad about yourself, do right by yourself and expect him to do right by you as well.