lack of interest-a detriment in the long run?

[fortyninethousand322]

This thread was sort of inspired by all those “virginity this, virginity that” threads, iris’ thread about not being interested in anyone for a long time, and Mr.Nate’s (backwards or forwards) thread about not being interested in relationships.

 

I spent most of the spring and summer pretty bummed that I didn’t have a girlfriend, pretty bummed that I couldn’t even seem to be able to get a date. A funny thing happened though in the last month or so. I’ve become completely disinterested in dating, sex, relationships, etc. I mean I still feel like it’s pretty hopeless, and all of that stuff. But, it really doesn’t seem to bother me as it used to. I don’t know if it’s because football season has started, or because I’ve got other things distracting me, but I just don’t have any motivation to go out and try to meet girls and/or ask them out, etc. I don’t even really use my Okcupid account anymore (women don’t write back anyway so it doesn’t matter). I wouldn’t even be interested in casual sex if an attractive woman was interested. The desire just isn’t there. I want it to be, but it isn’t.

 

Anyway, what I think I’d like to know is whether or not this will hurt me in the long run. While I may not be interested in dating right now, I’d be lying if I said that I knew that would always be the case. So I guess my question is if I change my mind in a few years and decide that I do want to start dating, will my prolonged period of singledom/celibacy/avoidance of women be a detriment to me? And I don’t mean only “will women be turned off”, but also “will it affect me personally/psychologically/whatever”? Basically will a prolonged period of not trying/not being interested affect my ability to have the confidence (or whatever) to approach and attract women?