firsttyme32 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Hello Everyone, I have never done anything like this before, but I am needing your opinion. I would like to know if my marriage is able to be saved. I have been married for 5 years and we have 2 children. My husband left my 2 1/2 months ago. He has been living at his parents home and will move into his own apartment next week. My husband has been telling me he want a divorce for 2 years now, but only after we have an argument. He tell me he is not happy. He don't feel loved and he don't feel appreciatied. At that time I could not undertand how he could feel that way because I do love my husband. I have been going to MC and have learned about the love languange. My way of showing my husband love was not the way he saw it. My husband said that we lost our connection and I agree. We have put the children first and with everything else going on we have not had time for each other. I also agree that we have a problem with communication. My husband has going outside a marriage a couple of times and was caught talking to other women. He said that it was only talking on the phone because he could not talk to me. I think he maybe talking to someone now because of things I have found, but he says he is not with anyone. I love my husband and I really want out marriage to work. I tried to change him throughout our marriage, but now I know I could not do that I can only change myself. I know there are things that I could have done differently regarding my husbands feelings. He blame me for the failing of our marriage. I know things would be different with me if he come back. My husband has never really opened up to me about his feeling until after he lefted. He would always tell me that we have been together long enough I should know what make him happy of loved without him telling me. What should I do? Can my marriage be saved? Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Hello Everyone, I have never done anything like this before, but I am needing your opinion. I would like to know if my marriage is able to be saved. I have been married for 5 years and we have 2 children. My husband left my 2 1/2 months ago. He has been living at his parents home and will move into his own apartment next week. My husband has been telling me he want a divorce for 2 years now, but only after we have an argument. He tell me he is not happy. He don't feel loved and he don't feel appreciatied. At that time I could not undertand how he could feel that way because I do love my husband. I have been going to MC and have learned about the love languange. My way of showing my husband love was not the way he saw it. My husband said that we lost our connection and I agree. We have put the children first and with everything else going on we have not had time for each other. I also agree that we have a problem with communication. My husband has going outside a marriage a couple of times and was caught talking to other women. He said that it was only talking on the phone because he could not talk to me. I think he maybe talking to someone now because of things I have found, but he says he is not with anyone. I love my husband and I really want out marriage to work. I tried to change him throughout our marriage, but now I know I could not do that I can only change myself. I know there are things that I could have done differently regarding my husbands feelings. He blame me for the failing of our marriage. I know things would be different with me if he come back. My husband has never really opened up to me about his feeling until after he lefted. He would always tell me that we have been together long enough I should know what make him happy of loved without him telling me. What should I do? Can my marriage be saved? If you've gone to counseling yourself and are aware of the problems you had that caused your marriage to break up, then you need to let him know what insights you've received from counseling, how you plan to change to be a better wife, and ask for another chance to try to make it work. Apologize for not being the wife that you should have been, and let him know you want to show him that you have changed. Ask him if he would consider dating you to see if you could rekindle the feelings you had for each other, and to see if there is any chance you could make it work. Tell him you love him and you don't want to lose him. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted October 1, 2011 Share Posted October 1, 2011 My husband has going outside a marriage a couple of times and was caught talking to other women. He said that it was only talking on the phone because he could not talk to me. I think he maybe talking to someone now because of things I have found, but he says he is not with anyone. Write this out 100 times. Say this in your head 100 times. Get a lawyer. He's moved out but is keeping you on a string in case things don't work out with his new life, which includes, new woman. Protect yourself and your kids from this selfish sob. My husband said that we lost our connection Textbook BS. What he really means to say is his W and kids are no longer exciting to him. He will always seek excitement, with or without you. Make it without you and file. Link to post Share on other sites
Leslie5007 Posted October 1, 2011 Share Posted October 1, 2011 It doesn't sound like anything sinister is going on. He wants out of the marriage. I doubt better communication, the love language and all that will help. The mc will help you deal with the breakup, but I wouldn't get my hopes up for the marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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