issohard Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Hi again... When I thought I'm done and think its over etc... There is xMM just appears out of nowhere. I was going for a drink with my female colleague today and when we were dropping my shoes to the car I saw him wondering around. He saw us too in a non work uniform outfit. We pretend we didn't see him.. Earlier today he was asking her what she is doing after work. She replied I'm going for a drink. I believe he knew straight away she is going with me. Few minutes later on our way to the pub we meet his good friend. We say hello and she out of politeness said come over to the pub. We having a drink out of nowhere he appears with his friend, sits at our table. He asked me one question if the others are coming. I could not help myself and started laughing. I replied I don't know. Few minutes later I couldn't take the pressure I picked my bag and said I have to go home and run off amost slipping on the wet spillage. I should have been stronger and pretend I don't care but this was too much. His eyes had still feelings for me.... Did I do the right thing? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Does your friend know about the affair? If yes, then she should NOT have invited him along for a drink. You did do the right thing for YOURSELF by leaving, what would be the point of staying? Give him an ego feed, give him a chance to play a game to see how you'd react? If she doesn't know about the A, you STILL did the right thing by leaving. The A is over, you're in NC mode, so again, there's absolutely NO point in being around him. WHO cares what he thinks or feels. So he looked at you with bedroom eyes, with feelings.. does that change anything? Is he leaving his wife? My guess is no.. Do you feel you did the right thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Whatever you choose to do to make yourself more comfortable is the right thing. You put on your track shoes. More power to yah!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 1, 2011 Share Posted October 1, 2011 When I thought I'm done and think its over etc... His eyes had still feelings for me.... Did I do the right thing? You are still done and it still is over - if you want it to be. Some manufactured meeting doesn't mean that anything has changed. At the end of the evening, he still went home to his "fat wife" as you so often called her and to his house and family that he does not want to divorce. His eyes had feelings for you? His eyes said that some no-strings attached sex would be hunky-dory, preferably in a car so that he doesn't have to pay for a hotel room. Link to post Share on other sites
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