lost09 Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 (edited) so i recently got out of a very long term relationship - i almost feel as if i just got out of a divorce (used to live togeather). im still not sure if its the right thing to do. this girl loves me more than i can imagine anyone ever will. unfortunatly we both have different priorities in life right now as we enter our late 20's. i wasnt ready for marriage. to me marriage has so many negative aspects. signing a contract to be with someone just doesnt make sense to me - especially knowing what happens to most marriages. is it possible for two people to spend their whole lives togeather without getting sick of eachother? on the other side of the fence, there is single life. transitioning from girl to girl. i like being in a solid relationship... but when it eventually just turns into bickering more than anything else, what kind of life is that. anybody have any input on these thoughts? agree/disagree. relationships have always confused me Edited October 2, 2011 by lost09 Link to post Share on other sites
Viking Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 What is the point of going from girl to girl? You get the initial high when you first start and then you break up and hit an all time low. Rinse and repeat... That doesn't sound like a good way to spend my life. I'd rather share it with someone who will want to be with me through thick and thin, the good and the bad-not just go from one to the other. Obviously there was something worthwhile in the person you were seeing. Was she pushing for marriage? If she wasn't, why did you bail? Link to post Share on other sites
LynnieBear Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 What is the problem with signing something to be with the person you love? The government is going to be involved in your life at some point in everyone's lives no matter what you do about it. You have to fill out paper work after paper work every time you go to a new doctor, because it's the law. We have to abide by the law every day and a lot of it involved signing papers. You have to go to the DMV (or MVD) to get your license and you have to sign papers... you go to school for how many years of your life where you have to fill out TONS of "paper". what is the big deal over actually making it legal and saying "yes I am married to this person because I love them" by signing a piece of paper? Seriously? When someone can come up with a good reason as to why this seems so life shattering, please enlighten me. To me, the biggest deal would be waiting somewhere for a long time to change my friggin' name. At the same time, I'd find it incredibly romantic to take my future hubby's name. It'd be something we could 'share', I'd feel "apart" of his family, apart of him, etc. His family had that name and it goes way back in history and I wanna carry it on. People look at life so negatively because they are usually afraid of something and usually what they are afraid of is success, not failure. Yes, marriage comes with a lot of responsibility and you will not always see eye to eye, but that's apart of life. Marriage isn't all romance and fun and games (using "fun and games" in reference to.. ahem... I think you know what ) but that's the journey of life. I have known I wanted to be married since the time I was 16. I used to hate women telling me that most women are waiting till they are 30. What's to wait for? You find someone you love, get hitched! Life doesn't scare me. Love doesn't scare me. Because I am not afraid of being hurt. Life comes with pain. They are not mutually exclusive. But it also comes with a lot of fulfilling rewards and a bunch of other good stuff. Why cheat yourself out of it? Idk what else to say other than, if you love her, marry her, stupid. and stop worrying about what will happen in the future. Most marriages end because people cheat and don't live their lives according to how God intended them to live their lives. Idk if you are religious or not, but the majority of marriages that work have a relationship with God. Believe it or not, He created you and the world (and marriage) for a reason. (Tried to keep religion out of this, but I'm a firm believer, and couldn't help it). Link to post Share on other sites
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