lightstar86 Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 Hi, I need some advice i've been with my OH for nearly 5 years now, we are saving to move out together and eventually get married. The problem is his mum she has never made me feel welcome. When i first meet her i was talking to her and she turned up the TV while i was talking this was on the 1st meeting. She has never made me feel welcome in her home she knows i have a fear of dogs but lets them jump all over me and laughs. I think my bf has had arguments with her over this. Then a year into our relationship his mum said i was exactly like his exes meaning i was a bitch when i have tried to be polite to her. Then the other night my OH said his mum thinks i am a goody two shoes which to me means i'm stuck up and do no wrong. I try to be a good person and treats others as i want to be treated and i don't see a problem with that, I've tried to get along with his mum as i know he really wants me to but i'm really getting sick of the little digs. That their a dog family and that i'm not a dog person, turning up the TV, making comments to my bf if i have bad skin its just childish comments. I really am beginning to hate this woman for making things difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 What is an OH? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 You have been with him for 5 years? And you are still upset about the fact that she cut the TV on while you were talking to her the first time you met? Yes, I agree that is bordering on rude, but I also think that people do things without thinking - not necessarily to be mean. She could be used to having the TV on as background noise, or it could have been Gray's Anatomy (God forbid you try to talk to my sister when that show is on). She also may just not understand why in the world anyone would be afraid of dogs, and she believes that the best way for you to get over your phobia is to put you in direct contact with them. After 5 years of being jumped on, aren't you less afraid of them, now that you are certain they aren't going to attack you? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 Welcome to LS How old are you? IMO, it's up to your OH to erect healthy boundaries with his mother in regards to how she treats you or talks to and about you. This is what an adult man does with his mother. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 Welcome to LS How old are you? IMO, it's up to your OH to erect healthy boundaries with his mother in regards to how she treats you or talks to and about you. This is what an adult man does with his mother. This. Why are you with a man who allows anyone to disrespect you, the woman he loves? Why are you with a man who has his balls in him mommy's purse to the point of putting her and her opinions above his supposed partner, woman who provides him with emotional and physical satisfaction, future mother of his children? You need to tell your OH to stay at home with his mommy until he can grow a pair. Put him on a time out until he can respect you and does not allow others to disrespect you. Then you both need to put his mother into a time out until she can behave like a human with proper boundaries and has a sincere absolutely no excuses apology. Your problem is with you OH, not his mother. She will continue to misbehave and treat you like poo until her son no longer allows her to crap all over you. Link to post Share on other sites
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