DonTomaso Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 So, I've been in a relationship with a wonderful girl for about 4.5 months now. We are both 25 years old. She is truly everything I would want in a woman. She is smart, kind, funny and very pretty. The only problem is that I find myself looking at other women constantly. I have always had a bit of a wandering eye, but it is worse now than it has been in past relationships. I am afraid I will slip up at some point and act out on my lust for other women. Do any women or men out there have any advice for me... thanks very much! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Only advice I can think about is: try to understand what is it that attracts you in other women that your girlfriend lacks..... is it only the fact that they are female and NOT your girlfriend that makes you desire them? think about the prettiest woman you looked at lately:if she were your girlfriend, would you feel like looking at other women? (I assumed from your post that the problem is not looking at other girls, but that you are attracted by them and you are afraid you will end up acting on it and cheating on your gf.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author DonTomaso Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 I guess I would still look at other women even if my girlfriend was, say, Heidi Klum. I guess part of the problem is that I'm pretty sure my GF realizes that I look at other women and she doesn't get mad, which makes it easier to look at women... It's an easy cycle to get into... arghhhhhh. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Wait. Looking in itself is not a problem, as long as you would not go with the women you look at if you had the chance to. Looking is one thing. Looking around is another. Anyway I suggest that you do not look at them in a blatant way while you are with your girlfriend. Even if she does not say anything, chances are that she is getting hurt (most women will). Even if she genuinely does not mind, it is still pretty rude. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DonTomaso Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 I totally agree.. it is very rude of me and I feel bad about it, but I can't seem to help myself... It's even worse when she's not around. Maybe I'm jsut yound and stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Originally posted by DonTomaso Maybe I'm jsut yound and stupid. Nah. Just take into consideration your GF and why you are with *her*. Also take into consideration how it would feel if she were checking out guys while sitting with you. That's enough to make me not do it to my boyfriend. The way I look at it, there's nothing to check out or look at, I have everything that I'd ever want. Just reevaluate the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted May 15, 2004 Share Posted May 15, 2004 Looking is only human nature, however the fact that you're afraid you might act on it is another story. You might want to seek counseling or something to try and find what the root of the problem is for why you feel you might act on it. You're the only one that can control your urges if you feel the need to act on it. If you're girlfriend is everything you say she is then, hopefully you wont act on it. best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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