Jagger341 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I stress again, that I am a 20 year old male. Recently, cuddling with a woman is something I really want to do, and this might surprise you, but I could care less whether it leads to sex or not. Maybe it's because I'm a virgin that I currently don't care whether or not I will ever have sex. I do know for sure that I would really love to cuddle. It sounds very nice and very comfortable. I am really hoping that it's true that women like to do this a lot, because I would do it everyday if I were with someone.
mike111 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 You might want to place a personal ad just for that specific purpose you have of wanting to cuddle with someone. And yes, it's nice
Author Jagger341 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 You might want to place a personal ad just for that specific purpose you have of wanting to cuddle with someone. And yes, it's nice Wow, I never really thought of doing that. Not sure if I would get results, though.
mike111 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Wow, I never really thought of doing that. Not sure if I would get results, though. Might get good results depending where you place you ad. For instance, don't do so on craigslist! lol mike
Author Jagger341 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Might get good results depending where you place you ad. For instance, don't do so on craigslist! lol mike Ah, okay. If not craigslist, then where?
mike111 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I would guess plentyoffish? But I am not up on these things. Someone else maybe help out here? What are the best boards these days?
tetrapod Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You are certainly not alone in that. Cuddling rocks. For both men and women.
Cypress25 Posted October 9, 2011 Posted October 9, 2011 Yes, most women love this. But if she's willing to cuddle with you, then she's probably also willing to do other intimate stuff with you. So don't be that guy who gets dumped because all he ever did was cuddle the girl and never made a move to kiss her. That would be frustrating to her.
skylarkjv Posted October 12, 2011 Posted October 12, 2011 Yes, most women love this. But if she's willing to cuddle with you, then she's probably also willing to do other intimate stuff with you. So don't be that guy who gets dumped because all he ever did was cuddle the girl and never made a move to kiss her. That would be frustrating to her. Interesting. Because I'm with a girl who likes to cuddle. But she wants to take it slow. We've been on a few dates, but she says she's too damaged for a relationship. Its for that very reason I haven't kissed her yet. Sorry for the thread hijack here, but I'm curious as to if I should attempt an actual kiss. I've kissed her on the cheek before and she always blushes and murmurs a thank you. I just didn't think she was ready for that yet.
Cypress25 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 We've been on a few dates, but she says she's too damaged for a relationship. Well, this is a unique situation. Have you asked her to elaborate on that? If she has a history of trauma or abuse, you need to talk to her to find out what she's ready for.
skylarkjv Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Well, this is a unique situation. Have you asked her to elaborate on that? If she has a history of trauma or abuse, you need to talk to her to find out what she's ready for. Yeah she's separated from her husband, who from what talks we have, cheated on her. More than once. I'm not sure if there was physical abuse, but the emotional abuse is definitely there. She's in a very confused place. And I was very willing to take it slow and see how it goes. Until we went to the movies. I had my arm around her, and then she starts twirling her fingers on my leg, then gradually moves up to my thigh, squeezing it, twirling her hands into mine, etc. I asked her about it later and she said, "Oh that was just movie cuddling". Movie cuddling my ass.
B Champman Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Yeah she's separated from her husband, who from what talks we have, cheated on her. More than once. I'm not sure if there was physical abuse, but the emotional abuse is definitely there. She's in a very confused place. And I was very willing to take it slow and see how it goes. Until we went to the movies. I had my arm around her, and then she starts twirling her fingers on my leg, then gradually moves up to my thigh, squeezing it, twirling her hands into mine, etc. I asked her about it later and she said, "Oh that was just movie cuddling". Movie cuddling my ass. sounds like you just need to give her time to get used to you and keep being nice and kind to her and youll get where you wanna be eventually. just dont put her on the spot about things like the movie cuddling thing. if she said it playfully then thats a good thing but if she said it naturally/normally it means she enjoys that physical contact with you but isnt ready to open up to you mentally. this comes from the mental pain she still has from being cheated on. she doesnt want to say shes interested in you, but she is to put it simply. dont question her or pressure her into anything
skylarkjv Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 sounds like you just need to give her time to get used to you and keep being nice and kind to her and youll get where you wanna be eventually. just dont put her on the spot about things like the movie cuddling thing. if she said it playfully then thats a good thing but if she said it naturally/normally it means she enjoys that physical contact with you but isnt ready to open up to you mentally. this comes from the mental pain she still has from being cheated on. she doesnt want to say shes interested in you, but she is to put it simply. dont question her or pressure her into anything That's what I've been thinking. When she said it, it was borderline playful. I've learned so far her tones of voice when she wants to get a point across without making a big deal out of it. I guess I just needed a bit of reassurance, because I sure as hell am not getting any from her. lmao
Cypress25 Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 I guess I just needed a bit of reassurance, because I sure as hell am not getting any from her. That "movie cuddling" of hers wasn't enough reassurance? Obviously she likes you and wants physical contact with you, she's just shy about initiating it. She said she wants to take it slow, but maybe you're actually taking it too slow. I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you made a move. And you asked her why she was touching you during the movie? Way to put her on the spot and make her feel awkward about it. Now she'll be hesitant to do it again. It's time for you to start initiating a little intimacy. You don't have to be pushy and you can still take it slow and respect her boundaries, but you've gotta do something to move this forward. It sounds like she wants you to. She'll stop you if you start doing something that she doesn't like.
skylarkjv Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 That "movie cuddling" of hers wasn't enough reassurance? Obviously she likes you and wants physical contact with you, she's just shy about initiating it. She said she wants to take it slow, but maybe you're actually taking it too slow. I'm sure she wouldn't mind if you made a move. And you asked her why she was touching you during the movie? Way to put her on the spot and make her feel awkward about it. Now she'll be hesitant to do it again. It's time for you to start initiating a little intimacy. You don't have to be pushy and you can still take it slow and respect her boundaries, but you've gotta do something to move this forward. It sounds like she wants you to. She'll stop you if you start doing something that she doesn't like. Did I mention I was a bit dense when it comes to interpreting my own relationships? I never trust my own judgement.
carhill Posted October 13, 2011 Posted October 13, 2011 Maybe it's because I'm a virgin That's pretty much it. I was an intercourse virgin until 35 and such parameters were the marked difference between pre- and post-virginity. After that point, cuddling was nice but we were going to do some hot and sweaty lovemaking too. Prior, holding hands, cuddling, and kissing etc. were all end-games in themselves. Yes, women like to cuddle. It's marked feature of the friend- and brother-zone.
Cypress25 Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 Yes, women like to cuddle. It's marked feature of the friend- and brother-zone. I don't know about you, but I don't cuddle with my friends. Nor do I cuddle with my brother. I only cuddle with guys that I have a romantic interest in. Even though it's sweet and gentle, there's still a sexual element to it. Especially naked cuddling, that's the best.
carhill Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 figurative dear... Cuddle with someone you like to be with and knows likes you as a substitute when between lovers or when a particular lover isn't quite measuring up in the intimacy (not sex) department. I've got a Carhill list. It's extensive. It started with my best friend's sister when I was 19 and she was 17. I'm 52 now. Hope you have awhile. I completely understand that it might not be *your* style. I'm sharing the 30 something years of data points that *I* have, since I've dated and mated with women, as well as been their friends and 'brothers'; in fact, I think it was a LS'er who impelled me to coin the 'brother-zone' from our interactions. No insult intended. I thought she described it aptly. My exW hated cuddling and all that romantic stuff. Let's get 'busy'. Cruel irony.
KR10N Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 No, not all women like to cuddle. I can't stand to be touched or hugged. It makes me feel awkward. I can't even stand someone being w/in a certain perimeter of me. God forbid if I find a man that always wants to cuddle. Ain't happening! I only give hugs on rare occasions, but cuddling? No way!
notsoleet Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I only enjoy cuddling/being touched if I am in love with (or really like almost to the point of love) the person.
jean2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 every. girl. loves. cuddling. if they dont, im sorry, but they have no soul.
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