EgoJoe Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 Daaaaamn Betterdeal! Yous a cold blooded mofo... Naw, my biggest regret was not going through with the breakups, holding my tongue to spare her feelings thinking there would be a better time and doubting my gut instinct which was correct the entire time. Yet and I learned this from a smart man. Whatever your regret is it is always a POWERFUL learning tool. Link to post Share on other sites
fuzzbella Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 Been so caught up in the moment of falling in love with him that i didnt pay attention to the gut feelings i had that turned out to be right. Letting him away with things i would never normally put up with because i thought he was the one. Link to post Share on other sites
Indira1987 Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 that I bought him a ****ing iphone a few MONTH after the break up....! at least I never told anyone until now now I could need that money so much....ahhhh Link to post Share on other sites
lymtal1 Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 regret that i got sucked in from the begining of this fantasy that i created and not knowing what the fu** gigs was at that time. if i would have know then what i know now i wouldn't be here. sounds like a song. Link to post Share on other sites
ffw Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I am going to play devils advocate in this thread... and I am serious. I do not regret anything that happened in my past relationship. I picked the worst of the worst but I made that decision. I made a decision to be a doormat too. I finally learned how to start making decisions for myself based on my past decisions so I do not regret anything. I am actually glad that everything happened the way it did. I learned from my own bad decision making how to make better decisions for me. If I did not learn this, I would continue making the same mistakes over and over and over again I agree with wilson. The person I am today is because of my failures and success. Instead of regertting on the past mistakes, its better to learn & not to repeat in the future. If taken too seriously, regret can become a heavy burden on the chest. "It was redundant to mourning on destruction, so I went to on celebrating. I kept on bringing my heart where the difference between joy and sorrow is not felt" Link to post Share on other sites
jenjen83 Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I don't regret anything I did during my relationship but I do regret some of my behaviour after it ended. I wish I had shown myself a bit more pride. Link to post Share on other sites
TheDovic Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 My girlfriend of 2.5 years and I just split up. My biggest regret was that I took her for granted. She even told me that. She told me that I didn't seem to care about her. I suppose I didn't. I did things I shouldn't have and it hurt her very deeply. I now know exactly what it means by, "you don't know what you've got until it's gone." So, what's your biggest regret? On the night I first kissed my ex I was sitting with an absolute stunner who I knew was very interested in me, but when my ex walked past I left this other girl sitting at a table in a bar. Now four years later I realise what I could have had compared to what I got! Link to post Share on other sites
leoc1973 Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I agree with wilson and jenjen. I do not regret anything during the relationship I did my best treated her the best I knew how. Never tried to stop her from going out with friends and having a life too. I guess I only regret what I did after the breakup of how I lowered myself and tried to win her back. I regret that I can not go back in time and slap myself but I guess then I would regret that I did not at least try. Link to post Share on other sites
Wesker Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I regret not wrapping my hands around her throat, and seeing the life go out of her cold, heartless eyes. Kidding of course. That's what my punching bag, GTA IV is for. I regret not calling my ex out on the the lies she was telling me for the past year. But since she's mentally immature, needy, and desperate to not be alone, I'm sure she actually does believe all the lies she's living, so really, I guess I regret nothing too. Link to post Share on other sites
jenjen83 Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I agree with wilson and jenjen. I do not regret anything during the relationship I did my best treated her the best I knew how. Never tried to stop her from going out with friends and having a life too. I guess I only regret what I did after the breakup of how I lowered myself and tried to win her back. I regret that I can not go back in time and slap myself but I guess then I would regret that I did not at least try. That's a good point. Although I went about it the wrong way I have confidence that I never bailed on the relationship and I don't have any what ifs. Link to post Share on other sites
dicky_fish Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Letting my job embed itself so much in my life and have it be what started to drive her away. When was with her I should have ignored any incoming calls from anyone to do with work. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Chalk me down for not walking sooner too. I should have walled her out after the first major betrayal of trust and never looked back. Link to post Share on other sites
stillhurt Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 I regret the way I acted post break up. How I deluded myself into thinking he cared about me and still wanted us back together, when in reality, he was just using me and fooling his new girlfriend. Lesson learned. Link to post Share on other sites
TLCbear Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 So, what's your biggest regret? Definitely not leaving the relationship alot sooner than I did. I know, 3 yrs down the drain...but hey, it's a learning experience. Link to post Share on other sites
antz2411 Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 dont regret anything... with regret comes a better understanding of ones situation and its called lesson learned. so how can you really regret a lesson learned that betters yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
sun_moon Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Seems like there are lots of " not leaving sooner" Yup, add me to that list please. I should have left the relationship a lot sooner than I did, but I kept hoping for change and trying to "fix" things. Link to post Share on other sites
Thieves Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Mine is sort of "You don't know what you got till it's gone", too. He was so passionate about me, so very into me. I mean, he was everything I wanted in a man - my dream man, even. Handsome, sweet, kind, romantic, awesome accent, same music taste, a musician, a hard-working laborer, etc. And there he was, desiring me. Me of all people! MAJOR chemistry. And what did I do? I kind of freezed up. I mean, I showed him that I was into him too, but... not like he did with me. I held so much of myself back because I never had someone amazing like him actually like me and me like them back too. On the outside I was very composed and level-headed, but inside I was raving like a little teenage girl. Writing in my journal about him, thinking about him 24/7, telling my mom and brother and friends about him, which is something I DO NOT do with men at all unless the person is really something. It was one of those things where everyone else around me knew how just crazy I was about him, but he didn't. He knew I liked him a lot, but not how much. He eventually started to move on and told me that he never felt I wanted him the way he wanted me. That hurt me so much, but I understand now. And it taught me not to hold back so much when I do feel something for someone. He had the potential to be a great boyfriend, and I missed out because I didn't express myself to him. So note to all, when you have someone special you're crazy about, tell them.. even if you stumble over the words. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 after 1.5 years together, it was letting the relationship get boring and routine which led to her walking out on me and immediately into a relationship with a new guy. Its hard though, I would always ask her how she felt and whats wrong but she never told me. Guess thats what I get for being 28 dating a 21 year old. I also dated a 21 year old. HUGE mistake! Link to post Share on other sites
melenkurion Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 My biggest regret is not ending the relationship years earlier when I found out about the "first" lot of cheating. It would have hurt a lot less, cost a lot less. I would have got over it a lot quicker than it's taken me five years later. Link to post Share on other sites
Mack05 Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Staying in every single relationship I have ever been in too long (hoping things/feelings would change), when deep down on every occasion I knew it wasn't right for me. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Not taking my granny home when she was diagnosed with cancer so she could die at home. She was very proud and didn't want the grandkids seeing her ill tho. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Probably ever meeting them and wasting my time on them. Link to post Share on other sites
Zabs Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 IBiggest regret... Didn't spend as much time with him as I should..didn't recognise the signals he was sending..didn't value myself enough to understand. good Question!!!!! Zabs xx Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 You took your girlfriend for granted for specific reasons only you can know. Were you at a stage in your life where it was actually impossible for you to truly let someone into it? Did you, for some reason, prefer to keep her separate from other spheres of your life? You can't live with regrets. You can learn from everything, but regrets will only have you going around in useless circles. Ask yourself this: what have learned? What will I do differently next time? Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 I am going to play devils advocate in this thread... and I am serious. I do not regret anything that happened in my past relationship. I picked the worst of the worst but I made that decision. I made a decision to be a doormat too. I finally learned how to start making decisions for myself based on my past decisions so I do not regret anything. I am actually glad that everything happened the way it did. I learned from my own bad decision making how to make better decisions for me. If I did not learn this, I would continue making the same mistakes over and over and over again This is it. The only thing that works. Regret is useless. Mistakes are natural and lead to life lessons. I do have a couple of straight up regrets but I have to become comfortable with them and embrace them as part of road that has led me to be me. Link to post Share on other sites
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