sweetmind20 Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 i know there has been a lot of discussion on porn at this forum, but i have a question that may be different from what you have been asked. i admit, before, i did have somewhat of a problem with my guy watching porn, but since then have learned to accept it, and not go haywire. the thing is, even though i realize that it is natural for a man to be curious about the "forbidden", i have found myself secretly pissed off that he has taken his porn viewing beyond moderation. whenever i am away for a couple hours, he watches hours and hours of porn. i know this because i see it in the real audio player on our computer. then he has the nerve to be too tired to have sex with me.. this is not all the time but almost every time he has been by himself and watched porn for a few hours. he also has no tact with hiding it, at least some of it. it's everywhere on the computer. so, i decided to give him a taste of his own medicine: i started downloading my own porn, featuring hot guys doing things. i know it seems childish but i downloaded them intentionally in the real player on the computer cuz i knew the next time he went to view his porn, he would find it. was this a bad idea? Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 haha! i think that is a good lesson for him! is he the type to say something about it when he finds it? or will he pretend not to even know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetmind20 Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 i think he would be too embarassed to bring it up cuz then i could ask about his little collection. lol Link to post Share on other sites
InmannRoshi Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 What if he doesn't respond because he doesn't think its a big deal? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 That'd be ironic. hilariously so. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 well, he could be watching it for the guys. Going off this closet gay thing I'm working on...hehe. You know that could be the thing. But if he's straight he's prolly hoping you'll want to give in and be pornish, inviting other females into play. Hell I've never got that whole porn thing when you're in a relationship, the real deal should be enough. I can see whacking out some sessions when you don't have anybody but when you do? That's just odd. And I'm a dude...that's outrageous thinking ain't it? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Not really. Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. No pun intended. I could never possibly find a woman as horny as me, so yanking is a necessity for me. I'm ready to go 24/7 basically. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 but what IF he will think you are totally into porn now too? then he will be like *whew*, and expect you to perform like a porn star! or make you watch it with him. that could suck, and you might very well have to also! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I don't think it's a good idea. It's not that it's inherently destructive behavior, it's just that your motivations are cloudy--you're trying to get 'back' at him, and it's not the way you should deal with problems in your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
wideawake Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Passive agressive behavior Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I have thought of doing that myself to my husband. I know it would be strictly to get back at him, however, i do wonder what would happen if I did that. I guess its a risk you take though if you want to see what will happen. I guess its no difference in him taking a risk of looking at it and it possibly destroying your relationship, if it continues. And props to you too dudesomewhere for saying you never got the whole porn thing when you're in a relationship and it should be enough. I don't get it either. Anyway whatever you decide I hope it works out. Maybe we should both try it and compare notes on what happened..lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author sweetmind20 Posted May 15, 2004 Author Share Posted May 15, 2004 so.. my guy found the porn.. and he said he didn't care if i looked at naked guys.. he went off about how i can do whatever cuz he does it all the time- he spoke a mile a minute and acted very strange.. he said that since i'll start taking night classes, he might as well borrow his friend's porn and put in some "overtime". i laughed it off and told him that was fine cuz frankly, i just masturbated to porn the other day. (even though it wasn't true) see, i don't mind my guy's viewing as long as it is in moderation and not detracting from our sex life.. but it is detracting from it. he gets all used up and hardly has any concentration for me. plus, i believe some tact would be tasteful when it comes to his "personal time". he doesn't need to reveal every little thing about it. i find that half the time he brings it up, he is trying to make me jealous on purpose. that i do not like. and i do not understand his reasons for wanting to make me feel jealous. lastly, after i told him i had masturbated, he smirked and said, " god, you're lucky, you never give me the chance to do that.. you seem to think sex is all i need." i have no words... Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly_Queen Posted May 15, 2004 Share Posted May 15, 2004 Props to you sweetmind. I think its great you did that. Now I think I'll try that tonight as well. However, even though he may seem fine with it, I bet inside its burning him up. The old saying I used to here people say to to others was, "He can dish it, but can't take it". I doubt he'll admit to you though if it's really bothering him. I hope it doesn't turn into a battle of who can watch the most porn now though. Anyway, I hope all works out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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