jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Will she, and how can I get her to at least talk to me again? She said she needed time...but then called and IM'd me Wednesday about a phone message... Link to post Share on other sites
pixiegrrl28 Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Let her get in contact with you! She has asked you to give her some space, do it. If you keep pushing her to talk to you she will run in the other direction. You might ruin any chance of you getting back together let alone being friends. My ex broke up with me two weeks ago, and I did the no contact thing. Then just this past Thursday he called me and we hung out. So, just be strong. I know this is easier said than done. Who knows what may happen? She knows that you love her so, don't think what if I would of told her this. Let go of the what if's! The ball is in her court now. If you keep bugging her, you will be bordering on stalker-like status. Let go and let God! We are all here for you , if you need us. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 She came online twice today. Once she came on, and got off, no message. Second time she came on, I got off shortly after she came on...so she was still on when I signed off. I am just struggling with a lot right now...I totalled my car, my dad has not found one yet, so I will have to rely on the Metro...money is tight... and I miss my best friend. Link to post Share on other sites
pixiegrrl28 Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I know it seems like when it rains it pours. I was having problems too when my ex broke up with me. But, I am seeing this as the chance to really take the initiative to do something about what is going on. Be strong! Tomorrow is another day. Don't let her see you are desperate. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 She doesn't even know what my dad said today...I have left her alone like she has asked. Link to post Share on other sites
pixiegrrl28 Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I miss my best friend, too. I will pray for you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 Thank you... if you want to chat by AOL IM or something..let me know... This so hard... "I just really, really need some time away from you. I do not know how long it will be. Please respect me and give me that time." ARGGHH!!! Link to post Share on other sites
pixiegrrl28 Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 That is exactly what my ex said to me. But, I really truly believe that is what he needs. How is your girl going to miss you and remember how wonderful you really are if you are constantly around. Remember people don't know what they have until it is gone! Take comfort in your friends and family. I know how hard it is to not be able to talk to and be with the one you love. It feels like there is an empty spot in your heart and soul. I never thought one person could cry so, much. But, I did and still do occasionally. But, I have to start doing stuff for myself, and become that strong person that I used to be. You really need to take this time to focus on yourself. It is okay to be sad, and grieve. It is much like a death because, that part of your life is over. You will show her that this is not going to kill you if you remain strong and drop all contact. This might start making her think about what she lost if you are not available to her anymore. I am not saying go out with other people. This would be a bad idea. I am just saying keep yourself occupied. Remember, my ex broke up with me two weeks ago, and I did the no contact. This past Thursday he called me and we hung out. This will be hard for you but, you will get through it. This break might be just what your relationship needed. Come on here and read other stories. It makes me feel good to know that I am not alone. When something like this happens it makes you feel like you are the only one experiencing it. But, you aren't! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 True true...I think because we used to fight a lot over the fiance, and the mixed messages...she is a little weary, and has forgotten all my good qualities and the good times we have had. But she is (was?) my best friend...and I miss her...friends say she will be back...just give her the time she wants... Link to post Share on other sites
pixiegrrl28 Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 She probably will be back but, only if you give her the space she has asked for. She more than likely misses her best friend also. But, because she is trying to figure out what she wants she can't let you know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 14, 2004 Author Share Posted May 14, 2004 Well..she has the fiance and her daughter to fill the empty holes....so I really wonder how much she misses me... I find it interesting she hasn't blocked me from seeing her on IM... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted May 15, 2004 Author Share Posted May 15, 2004 I actually wondered if her not blocking me on IM (like she has before) so I could see she was on, was an invitation to talk, but since she didn't say anything...I left her alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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