purplepanda Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 Okay, so I've been contacting this guy I used to hook up with. Other than my being in love with him 6 months ago, we actually had a pretty good friendship. I think we talked about things he didn't really share with anyone else, or not many. We've established that we are ONLY friends...until he tries to remind me how horny he is. It's so frustrating! Sometimes I'll say something back, then I'll change the subject, or just not text him back at all. It's so annoying. I'm celebate and he knows that, but he likes to hint at stuff, and once asked me for naked pictures. I said no you're not going to disrespect me like that. I even said, "Do you really think that's a good idea? It wasn't before" and he agreed with me. Then it started up again a few days later. It's not constant nagging, but it's difficult to carry on a conversation without him saying something about sex, even if he says, "I need a girlfriend", it makes me feel like he's always hinting at something. Last night we were talking, and I said, 'The moon looks pretty tonight'. He said, "yeah it does". I said, "When I look at the moon I don't feel so alone. Because the moon found me." He said, "you're not trying to be romantic are you?" "What do you mean?" "Forget it". "You mean towards you? No." "Thank god" "Didn't know I was so repulsive." "Would i want to get in your pants again if I didn't think you were sexy? God no. Would I talk to you if you were annoying? no." I said something along the lines of "Romance isn't the same as lusting after someone" and he said, "I know I said it, didn't I? I don't like you like that. Nothing against you." UGH! What a jerk! I kind of have feelings for him, but not enough to go see him or anything, we just talk here and there. I've tried to make myself clear that we won't ever be hooking up. I've even said "We don't want the same things. i want a relationship, you don't." But it still hurt. No one wants to be told by an attractive guy, "I want to get in your pants, but you're not for me". Seriously! Like i haven't been rejected enough?! What could i say to make him stop? Link to post Share on other sites
blueskyday Posted October 4, 2011 Share Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) Oh, he's just saying that because you are rejecting him! He's good to go if you gave him the green light to have sex with you. Good for you holding out for what you want. I've got a guy friend like this, too. We dated, broke up, and are now friends. He hints all the time about having sex, asks me to send him naked pics, and has even mentioned us trying a relationship again. If I take him seriously on the relationship offer and consider it for a micro-moment, he will then say what good friends we are and that he just wants someone to hang out with (and sleep with! ha! Not happening) Truth is, I'm not sure about anything right now, so I'm in man-detox... Your guy is giving you mixed signals because he is horny and you are saying no! I wouldn't believe a word his wounded ego says. Just be his friend. Ignore anything sexual. He will calm down. Edited October 4, 2011 by blueskyday Link to post Share on other sites
Author purplepanda Posted October 4, 2011 Author Share Posted October 4, 2011 Oh, he's just saying that because you are rejecting him! He's good to go if you gave him the green light to have sex with you. Good for you holding out for what you want. I've got a guy friend like this, too. We dated, broke up, and are now friends. He hints all the time about having sex, asks me to send him naked pics, and has even mentioned us trying a relationship again. If I take him seriously on the relationship offer and consider it for a micro-moment, he will then say what good friends we are and that he just wants someone to hang out with (and sleep with! ha! Not happening) Truth is, I'm not sure about anything right now, so I'm in man-detox... Your guy is giving you mixed signals because he is horny and you are saying no! I wouldn't believe a word his wounded ego says. Just be his friend. Ignore anything sexual. He will calm down. I don't know... He's just saying the things he's always said. 'I want you. Just not all of you.' Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2011 Share Posted October 5, 2011 Okay, so I've been contacting this guy I used to hook up with. What could i say to make him stop? "Good-bye." That would be the best thing to tell him. He is making it pretty obvious that he is not interested in a relationship with you, and he isn't interested in a friendship with you. You keep putting yourself into this situation by contacting him. He may know you are "now" celibate, but he also knows that only a mere 6 months ago you would screw him whenever he wanted. If you want him to stop, then stop calling him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author purplepanda Posted October 5, 2011 Author Share Posted October 5, 2011 "Good-bye." That would be the best thing to tell him. He is making it pretty obvious that he is not interested in a relationship with you, and he isn't interested in a friendship with you. You keep putting yourself into this situation by contacting him. He may know you are "now" celibate, but he also knows that only a mere 6 months ago you would screw him whenever he wanted. If you want him to stop, then stop calling him. I'm not initiating every conversation. O.o He says he misses my friendship and I quote "Even if we don't have sex anymore". He's a lonely dude, yes, and I don't think it's okay by any means, but he is. :/ Thanks for your advice. I plan on just ignoring him. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts