Author buckeye Posted November 2, 2011 Author Share Posted November 2, 2011 Maybe I should be starting a new thread on the dating forum, but I wanted to share this. (I hate the share thing) lol Anyway, I was chatting on FB last night with the lady I met last weekend. I asked if she'd like to go for a bite & a drink Friday and she texted her phone #. I called her and during the conversation she brought up my ex "bumping in to us last weekend. They apparently have met on a couple of occasions. She said she was about to say hi to my ex, who abruptly turned her back. I didn't see it, but wasn't surprised. I hope you're all doing good. buckeye Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 3, 2011 Author Share Posted November 3, 2011 Coop, I don't know what direction I'm heading! I have been "chatting" on FB with her each night and we're to go out for a bite tomorrow night. I'm having mixed feelings about all of this. On one hand it is very nice to have met someone who is easy to talk to and feel comfortable with, but, I'm finally getting used to being single and I rather enjoy the freedom. I like being able to do what I want and when I want. I just don't want anybody to get hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Coop, I don't know what direction I'm heading! I have been "chatting" on FB with her each night and we're to go out for a bite tomorrow night. I'm having mixed feelings about all of this. On one hand it is very nice to have met someone who is easy to talk to and feel comfortable with, but, I'm finally getting used to being single and I rather enjoy the freedom. I like being able to do what I want and when I want. I just don't want anybody to get hurt. Buckeye scr*w what anyone else thinks!! You have been to hell and back, treat yourself to some enjoyment. You thoroughly deserve it...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 3, 2011 Author Share Posted November 3, 2011 Well Gorilla, you nailed it! it took longer than I thought, but I got an email from the ex today. Some stuff about the kids then was that.... at the restaurant? She said they had met a couple of times and she's a peach. I wonder why she didn't say hello instead of turning her back on my friend. I think I'll take my time answering Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Too funny. Even though I shouldn't be, I'm still a little amazed at how scripted all this stuff seems. I'd probably wait a day or two to respond, and then keep it almost entirely about the kids, except for one sentence: "Yep, _________ is a peach alright. " Okay, it might seem like gamesmanship, and probably is. But what the hell. Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 3, 2011 Author Share Posted November 3, 2011 Yep, so predictable. I waited a couple of hours before I replied. As you said, I kept it about the kids and the last sentence, yes, that was.... Got another email 2 hrs later just about one of the kids. Didn't feel it needed a response. As I typing this I got a call from her. Some of my mail somehow was delivered there. Lots of pauses, very awkward. I just said sorry, I'll pick it up from your mail box after work. Weird Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 It's just a variation of "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to want you." I hope you're not reading too much into it. Like I said, I really think you're doing well and I'd hate to see you get dragged back into her drama. You know best how strong you are at this point, and how much you can comfortably engage with your ex. Just be careful. You may not even need to be told that, but hey, that's an advice forum for you. Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 Buckeye You are doing great. Doing what you want, when you want and with whom you want is one of the advantages of living alone. At one time I even had a TV in the bathroom, for Sunday morning football. I'd fill up the tub, take the Sunday paper, an ice bucket for my coke, a bottle of rum, crackers, cheese and a good cigar. A gal friend for a joke game me some bubble bath, I loved it The truth is I ended up liking living alone so much, that I found it difficult to give it up when I did find myself a good woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 4, 2011 Author Share Posted November 4, 2011 Gorilla, Thanks, I don't think I would ever want to go back. She did email again today asking that I talk to the youngest. They fight often and quite frankly at times, I don't blame my Daughter one bit. Sometimes it's tough to tell who is the adult! 2.50, what a hoot bubble bath football, now that's a first!! I have a diner date with my new friend tonight. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 I have a diner date with my new friend tonight. Have a great time! And make your bed and clean your bathroom, just in case you have an overnight guest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 4, 2011 Author Share Posted November 4, 2011 HAHA Gorilla, you're bad!! I think I'll just take things slow. As I said, I'm not even sure I want to get tied down. I'm kinda of liking my freedom, but I guess you never know. Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 8, 2011 Author Share Posted November 8, 2011 I guess it's one step forward, 2 steps back. The date was ok, but the conversation somewhat boring. Ended up meeting mutual friends for drinks after and she spent more time talking to my buddy with her back turned to me. Not a very good sign huh? The whole thing left me feeling disappointed. I don't know if I really want to date. My buddy said you can just hang out as friends and that is true, but I can't see me dropping 50 bucks on a friend each weekend. At this time, I can't afford that. Oh well life goes on..... Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 Buckeye So the date wasn't that great. Did you really expect it to be? The point is you went on a date. From the attitude of your latest posts, I get the feeling that you are starting to see some of the advantages of living alone. Good for you, you are moving on. Just go about living your life, be happy enjoying what you like. It is the attitude that counts, if you are enjoying life a great attitude will just naturally flow from you, and others will pick up on it and gravitate to you. Just be yourself Link to post Share on other sites
Author buckeye Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 2.50, I didn't expect much but I was left feeling well, disappointed. Yea, I did go on a date. Don't know if I will again for a while. I once again have hit the trough of the roller coaster. I see a picture of my ex and it still hurts. I know I never could or even would go back, but I am still taken by her beauty. I hear a song and the pain washes over me again. I am learning to live with out her but I sometimes think back to happier times and I'm right back to the place I've fought so hard to escape. I have read on other threads that this is normal and part of healing. I get caught up in the feeling, hey, you're 57, it's too late, the train has left. You'll have to learn to be happy on your own now. I see this old man across the street. He lives alone. I see me in the future and it scares me. I know only I can control that. But there are times that I wonder how much control we really do have in our lives. So many factors and circumstances can so quickly change the course of our lives. How does one learn to love life when there has been so much pain. Attitude, how does one change an attitude after the betrayal and hurt? Do you pretend life is wonderful until you actually believe it? Do you put on a mask everyday hoping that people think you're doing fine? Link to post Share on other sites
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