CocoaBrown Posted October 5, 2011 Share Posted October 5, 2011 I was told by a friend that a man should ALWAYS pay for the dates. She even went as far as telling me that I can pretend to be reaching for my wallet to "test" him to see if he is going to let me pay for it and that I should always be ready to pay for myself but never pay for him. Her thought on this is I'm teaching him how to treat me. I also have a strong personality so she said this is a way for me to show my softer side...that I am letting him pay for me so in a sense showing he can take care of me. If I really like a guy, I personally don't mind paying for a date. I have never thought twice about it. But what is the "rule"? I have only had one real relationship and that was when I was young so I expected him to always pay. That was just my attitude at the time. I haven't dated in a long time....I've only been back at it for 9 months. We have been dating for 2 months. He paid for the first couple of dates and then I treated him to breakfast. He bought me dinner the next time and this past week I bought dinner and paid for the bowling games. Is that bad? Am I being too "manly" by paying for dates or something? Will it "ruin" any future relationship we may have if I continue doing this? Also, should there be times we just pay for ourselves? I'm asking all this cause this is what has been thrown my way and quite frankly I'm confused. Link to post Share on other sites
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