alli2233 Posted October 7, 2011 Share Posted October 7, 2011 I've been in a long distance relationship for almost a year. Me and boyfriend were great together. He loved me, I loved him. Then things got a little rocky. We started fighting a lot. I became really pushy and i started to nag him all the time. I guess I just became a insecure psychopath for bit and he just didn't tell me that he was unhappy. Anyways, one fine day, he just called me and told me he doesn't love me anymore. He doesn't feel the same way and he doesn't want to fool me by continuing this relationship. I was shocked and it didn't make any sense to me, but later after speaking to him and a couple of friends. I found out that he felt like my nagging was horrible and I was always pushing him to do something he didn't want to do. It made sense, even I knew I had been going over board with the pushing. So I called him up and said that we should start again as friends and see where this goes. When we meet in December, we can see if the magic is still there and if it is then we shall see what happens. But for now, let's just be like we were a long time back, before we got into this relationship. I said all of this to get him on board with the friendship thing. I mean I don't really want to be friends per se. I just want him to see me as me. I'm a nagging psycho. That was just a rough patch in our relationship. And it worked i think, he was totally on board with it, he's been calling me and its been better. But it's not the same.' I'm wondering, if this is worth a try. I love him, He is the one for me in my mind. I know there are other men out there. But I would really like to be with him. Could something like this work? opinions? Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted October 7, 2011 Share Posted October 7, 2011 It depends on what your reasons were for nagging him and whether you can have a relationship with him and cut out the nagging. Sometimes nagging is a sign of a bad dynamic in a relationship. He obviously wasn't happy and has now admitted it. You obviously weren't happy either but, for some reason, you're pretending that you were. If he made you happy, you wouldn't have been pushing and nagging him all the time. The only way this can work is if you figure out what made you unhappy enough to push and nag, then talk to him about it and, if you're both in agreement, you can make changes and start the relationship over again. If it's going to work though, it has to be an entirely different relationship than the one he just ended. Link to post Share on other sites
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