How to proceed

[someguy123]

Hi,

 

I would like to get some insight on a situation I have. I met this woman at a dermatolgy office. Actually she is my dermatologist. Anyway, at first I really didn't care or think about asking her out but after about the 3rd or 4th appointment, I started to feel/notice that there was some sort of tension between us during that conversation. At least it seemed that way. She kept bumping into my arm as I was laying down. So during the session, she made a tiny mistake which she felt bad for doing but it wasn't anything serious but she gave me her cell phone number in case I needed something. I don't think dermatologists for cosmetic improvement carry work cell phones and the number is not on her business card. She gave it to me without me asking for it which kind of made me think about the situation even more. She obviously felt comfortable with me if she gave it to me, right? I never blew up her phone with texts or calls or anything, only called when I had a question which was only like 3 times. Never worked up the courage to just ask her out. I have had at least 2 or 3 appts since I got her number.

 

Recently we were at the same bar but didn't even know it. My firend happened to see her after I just had left, (go figure), and told me about it. I had question for her anyway so I texted her the next day and she asked me what I've been up to and I mentioned that I went to that bar and she said how she was there too, not knowing that I knew about it. So we ended up texting that night for 2 hours which I really didn't plan on doing but it just happened. There were some flirty texts back and forth. A few days later I texted her to meet me out at that same bar (not a night club, its a low key sports bar with tables good place to chill and talk and watch TV). I know that was a weak move on my part using texts, but she never replied. She usually bad at returning calls, (could be an excuse), but even when I had questions about treatment too I would have to make an effort to get a hold of her.

 

So I just had an appt with her and was going to see what she was doing the next few days and see if she wanted to hang out but each day I had in mind she already had plans, (didn't officially ask, just wanted to get a feel of her schedule). Also she has a lot of guy friends and she was hanging out with one of them at a bar watching the game. This kind of worries me but when talking to her I don't get the impression that she is that kind of woman. Most of her guy friends seem to be old friends she has known for awhile.

 

So that's the history of the situation. I would like to see if she can hang out Sunday but unsure if I should just make a bold move and call her and ask her to come out and meet me for some coffee. If she doesn't answer or return the call then I'm stuck. I could also text her to make a comment about our converstation we had during my last appointment, because she told me I should look up some YouTube videos, and get a conversation going that way. Then segway to a phone call from texting to ask her out for a cup of coffee. But if she says "no" then I feel that my next appointment in 2 months might be a little weird but I then again I will try to act like nothing happened but at least I tried.

 

Side Note: If anyone watches the Big Bang Theory then you might know this, I recently started watching it but they said something that is kind of sticking to me and changing the way I think. Sheldon told Penny about Schrödinger's cat....and the point of the story is, If you don't try you will never know the answer. You will always wonder what could of happened. That's what has been running through my mind lately.

 

Sorry for the long post, any advice is appreciated.

[Leegh]

I would text her and ask for a date. It sounds as if she is interested, but if you text her and you don't get a reply, then you could call her. If it doesn't work out, then you could always get another dermatologist.