HIM vs. HIM

[yoyo67]

I HAVE PROBLEMS.......

During difficult times with my husband of 1 year (we've been together 6 years), a longtime guy friend at work (who I talked to often) asked me if we could get together outside of work and just talk. He did not know of my troubles with my husband at the time. We met at a local bookstore and talked a couple of hours. He told me that he has had feelings for me for the last 4 years. He was in the process of getting a divorce. There has always been an attraction between us, but neither of us acted on it because of involvement with others.

 

That night outside the bookstore (3 mos. ago), I did hug him. A week later, we met again, this time in a local park. We talked about different goals and dreams we had in life. We really just cliqued like I never have with any man before. The third time we met (at the park again), we kissed. Since then we meet in the park once a week or maybe walk around the mall or go out for a few drinks.

 

I have fallen in love with this man...hard. I never imagined there was someone out there so perfect for me, or that he had feelings for me for so long. We did have one sexual encounter a few weeks ago, but he failed to get an erection. That really bothered him, of course, but did not make a difference to me. Just to be together and holding, kissing, carressing each other was good enough to me.

 

Now, my husband has decided he doesn't want to lose me and will compromise about the problems we had previously. He tells me that no marriage is perfect, and he knows we care about each other enough that we should do whatever it takes to make our marriage work. He has no idea that I have been seeing the OM.

 

Today when I met my OM in the park, we walked and talked. I told him of my torn feelings between the two of them. He was very understanding. We were both crying. He told me that he loves me and that he will miss me. He called me at the start of this letter to see if I was OK.

 

MY HEART IS SO BROKEN THAT I DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM DOING. I LOVE THEM BOTH. HELP!

[shamen]

Yoyo, you probably want to seek some counseling with your husband to see what the root of the problem is. Obviously something deeper is going on if you have already started to see someone else.

 

Being with two people like this can't do you, your husband, or this OM any good. I hope that you break it off with the OM! You are already married.

 

Walk away from it before things get any more involved than they already are. Yes, you may be going through difficult times with your husband, but you shouldn't get involved with someone while you are still married.

 

Yeah, walking away is going to be yucky and sad. But you probably know in your heart that something is wrong with it or you wouldn't have posted here...