Mangomonkey Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 How would you feel about him afterward? Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 How would you feel about him afterward? This is a question worth making a thread about? I would feel the same about him and I'd nurse him back to health. That's my answer. Dumb question though:rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mangomonkey Posted October 8, 2011 Author Share Posted October 8, 2011 Actually its not a dumb question. I've met women (and men) who get rid of the other person because they got beat up. And justified for whatever reason. Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Actually its not a dumb question. I've met women (and men) who get rid of the other person because they got beat up. And justified for whatever reason. Wow interesting. A good question would be: would you dump a SO if they lost a limb? It would be interesting to see what people say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mangomonkey Posted October 8, 2011 Author Share Posted October 8, 2011 In life we never know what we would do until it happens. That is an interesting question but also an extreme one. Its like me asking you what would you do if your boyfriend raped someone. I know i girl who is still with the guy in this situation (I know. Crazy.) But whatever. Life is interesting. No one knows nothing until it happens Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 What's your reason for asking this? Has your bf gotten beat up, or did you get beaten up? Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 In life we never know what we would do until it happens. That is an interesting question but also an extreme one. Its like me asking you what would you do if your boyfriend raped someone. I know i girl who is still with the guy in this situation (I know. Crazy.) But whatever. Life is interesting. No one knows nothing until it happens Just out of curiosity, why did these men/women break up with their SO after they were beaten up? Because they thought they were weak or pussies? I can't imagine doing that to someone I care about. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Just out of curiosity, why did these men/women break up with their SO after they were beaten up? Because they thought they were weak or pussies? I can't imagine doing that to someone I care about. In some cases yes. I have actually witnessed fights between two men where the woman goes home with the guy who beat up her boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 In some cases yes. I have actually witnessed fights between two men where the woman goes home with the guy who beat up her boyfriend. Hahahahahaha omg. Because the guy who beat the sh*t out of the other one is more manly? That's awful. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Hahahahahaha omg. Because the guy who beat the sh*t out of the other one is more manly? That's awful. I agree but it happens. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 How would you feel about him afterward?What's the point of asking this question. I would feel terrible if someone I care for or love gets beaten. Why would I laugh about this? Anyone that finds this funny or would dump someone for this... needs to seek help and isn't even worth being considered relationship material. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mangomonkey Posted October 8, 2011 Author Share Posted October 8, 2011 I wont even lie i can see that the way i phrased this question has gonna go horribly wrong. So Ill just point everyone to this video. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 It depends what his part in the altercation was. Did he start it, or was he equally poised to get into a fist fight with another guy, or was he targeted and forced to defend himself. I wouldn't be impressed with a guy that wanted to pick a fight or happily engaged in one. If he was targeted and beaten, I'd be pissed at the other guy and I'd stand by my guys side. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mangomonkey Posted October 8, 2011 Author Share Posted October 8, 2011 This is actually something i studied. Not the relationship part but just male confrontation masculinity itself. To sum it up for you. If your not tough -cant win a confrontation- your not gonna be respected. Honestly Ill say that women seem to be on the more compassionate side of this kind of argument. But when its two men talking about this kind of thing. Its different. That is when masculinity and toughness come in the most. Being strong among your peers is important. Its been too long since i last talked about this so i might be off. Also it depends on certain social circles also. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Seeing how you live on the Jersey Shore, somehow it doesn't surprise me Who needs tv when you can see two over tanned guidos fighting over an overly made up woman egging them on? I know I say this any time Jersey is mentioned but please believe me when I say most of us are not like this. Link to post Share on other sites
ShannonMI Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Seeing how you live on the Jersey Shore, somehow it doesn't surprise me Hahahahahahaha yeah the girls are vapid and the guys are gorilla juice heads:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
SteveC80 Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 lol ive never heard of this, ive met some f'd up women but none who would leave their man for getting beat up,ive seen women leave their man for maybe fightign too much but not for gettign beat up lol Maybe in some urban communities where being a criminal and "thug" is looked highly upon and glorified and a turn on to some women but most of the female population is not like that at all Link to post Share on other sites
piggyoink Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saving_My_Hubby Former volleyball star Guem-sun is now a married housewife with a young daughter. Her husband, Ju-tae, is starting the first day of his new job, when Guem-sun receives word that her in-laws are going to visit the following morning. While she struggles to get their house ready, Ju-tae is taken out for a drink with his new colleagues. Later that evening, Guem-sun gets a phone call from a nightclub owner who is holding her husband hostage, claiming that he has run up a huge bill and doesn't have the money to pay for it. Strapping her baby to her back, Guem-sun sets out to rescue her husband. Link to post Share on other sites
OnyxSnowfall Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 In some cases yes. I have actually witnessed fights between two men where the woman goes home with the guy who beat up her boyfriend. Woggle, are you talking about 11 year olds? You have sure "witnessed" a lot of bizarre things... --------- and any rate, I agree with D-Lish. It depends upon the details behind it... I don't care about who is the "strongest" at all... but rather, who has the better "character". Link to post Share on other sites
WhiteChocolate Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I agree that it depends on the intentions and the circumstances. If he was defending someone, that's noble. If he was being dumb...whatever, not so noble but it isn't worth dumping him over. If he was hitting on another girl and that girl's boyfriend beat him up, he is out the door. About the SO losing a limb, it would depend on how he dealt with it. If he was positive, I would stay with him and admire him all the more. I understand there will be ups and downs, which is fine, but I think you guys understand what I mean. I think highly of someone who isn't willing to give up and mope and think his life is over just because he lost his right arm, and I would be proud to stay by his side. The physical doesn't really bother me. If he lost all four limbs however, getting busy in bed might be a tad tricky. Same with cancer, Alzhiemer's, Parkinson's, and any other disease. I love people with a strong desire to live, and live life fully Link to post Share on other sites
leftfordead2 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I'd dump him if he lost the fight. Just kidding. Link to post Share on other sites
camper15935 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 everyone loses a fight. Even if you win (if you can call that) You still lose. aches pains the next day or days. Plus fines court cost ect. Link to post Share on other sites
Arasae Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Depends on the situation. If... BF is walking down the street and gets mugged, then holy s**t, I'm calling the cops and nursing him back to health. BF is at a bar having a good time and some random drunk jerk walks up and decks him for NO REASON, then I'm calling the cops and nursing him back to health. BF is looking for a fight, then I dump him for being a childish twit and don't even wait to see if he wins/loses. BF doesn't walk away from a situation that looks like it will turn physical, then I dump him for being a childish twit and maybe call the paramedics for him. Essentially, if BF instigates or encourages a fight in ANY way, I'm over it. I don't care if he wins or loses--that BS just doesn't fly with me. Any man of mine will be secure enough in himself that he doesn't NEED to fight. Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I dealt with this situation in a serious relationship. My BF wasn't violent, but he had this deep anger and acid tongue. He'd say things to angry men and these men would swing at him. It was almost like he wanted somebody to beat him up - he had some sort of internalized anger. Maybe due to his father beating him as a kid. I was terrified my boyfriend would get himself killed. Maybe I over-exaggerated it, but before I met him, he was jumped on the street and nearly died. He had a permanent facial injury (Bell's palsy) because of it and it was a daily reminder of his near death experience. I didn't break up with him, but I had an uneasiness when he'd get sarcastic in public. There were times when violence brewed around him, but it wasn't an every day occurrence. I wanted him to get therapy for it, but he never did. The relationship ended for other reasons, although likely connected to his internalized anger. Link to post Share on other sites
udolipixie Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 How would you feel about him afterward? Depends on 3 things. 1. What the fight was about If it over something I think is petty- I bail since we have different opinions on what is violence worthy. If it was an attack- whether I bail is based on factor #2 2. Who the fight was with If it was with a person male or female I thought wouldn't have been able to beat him- I bail since he didn't measure up to my standards. If it was with a person male or female I thought he wouldn't have been able to beat- whether I bail is based on factor #3 3. Was he injured If he was disabled (lost a limb, etc), affected his appearance permanently, or affected greatly for the rest of his life- I bail. Basically the only time I don't bail if he wasn't greatly injured/permanently affected medically or apperance wise and the person he got beat up by was with someone I didn't think he could beat and it was over something I view nonpetty or an attack. Link to post Share on other sites
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