rubyjuly Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 (edited) my bf and i always have been intimate at least 4 times week...over past 2 weeks i noticed we didnt, then few days ago we started to and he seemed to lose interest halfway thru and stopped..i didnt make a big deal of it, but felt hurt..today he initiated then after 5 minutes or less, stopped and i asked him what happened. he said i dont know then something about he wasnt that into it bc of a discussion we'd been having about teenage daughter..it wasnt an argument but it was a disagreement of sorts, should i just wait a while, and see? or? it was very hurtful that he just got up after a few minutes as tho Im not good enough or something..i was extremely hurt and its bothered me all day..i dont want to make whatever it is worse, so i dont want to say the wrong thing..just not sure if i shoulld let it go for now, or ? all I said to him was that I want to feel like his woman, not his roommate..he said he loved me and was holding me, but this is a man who normaly has a higher than average sex drive and is pretty passionate we recently started living together and there have been some issues w daughter that are stressful, but i want to feel like my time with him is a safe place to get away from all that, not make me feel sad or unwanted. any advice apreciated i asked him if he wants to stay with me, is he happy together, and he said he does not want to leave, he emphasized to me he wants to stay w me, so im confused bc intimacy is a way of showing love and bonding, he even said it himself before...again, i dont want to make this a big deal if its not, i guess im worried and also i want to feel loved and wanted, today when this happened i felt so ugly when i looked in the mirror, it realy affected me Edited October 8, 2011 by rubyjuly Link to post Share on other sites
thatone Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 ask yourself how frustrated and out of your comfort zone you would be if when you were living alone, two men suddenly showed up and you were trying to please both of them, while they lived in your house. it's not a sexual issue. Link to post Share on other sites
bigmomma1974 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I am not sure what the issue is with him. However think about this, whos daughter is she? Is he trying to help with making sure she does the right thing? Did you shoot him down when he tried to get involved. A lot of things could come into play. Maybe he doesn't feel like he is an equal. I dont know but you have to keep the lines of communication open, So tell him how you felt when he just stopped. How long have you been living with him? Remember moving in with one another is a big adjustment. Link to post Share on other sites
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