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NC is harder than I thought. Lost all ties??


Troubles

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Well pretty much about a month and a week ago me and my ex girlfriend broke up..it was a mutual break up in a way although she initiated it. It has been a stressful year for me as I am batteling lung cancer and fell into depression..to wrap it up I pushed her away slightly by always being sad and depressed and she couldn't stick around as I wasn't letting her support me. In the past month I have gone to therapy, taken up new hobbies and tried to keep myself as busy as I can I've been NC the entire time but she has contacted my family about 3-4 times since and only up till the one month mark of being broken up she checked my blog about 7-9x a day to see what I was up too..now that she has stopped checking my blog I feel like i've lost all ties with her. I know she was seeing someone so maybe they're official now and that's why she doesn't check my blog anymore to see what I am too..in a way I feel like ive officially lost all ties with her and it sucks.....Im beginning to feel like the breakup just happened all over again...how do I get through this??

 

Also, she is going to have an important appointment for surgery next monday and I was wondering if its a bad idea to send her a text wishing her well that day?

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It is hard when you finally feel the tie has been broken, but things do get easier. I don't know whether or not you ought to send her that text (or an actual card, by post, preferably) and that's up to you. You said the break up was mutual and you pushed her away. That could be a way to open up again. But it could also be you overcompensating now that it is over. Your call.

 

Best wishes.

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