jenpanda Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 Hi guys.. I'm wondering if anyone cares to share an opinion about a friendship nearly destroyed by emotion and circumstance. My friend, "Pete", and I have been fighting a lot lately, and we're currently not speaking at all. Last year alone, Pete was diagnosed with Hep C, sold his house, broke up with his girl, and has temporarily moved back in with his aging and cranky mother. Any one of these things, much less all of them in quick succession, is enough to cut the boy (man, age 40) some slack, which I believe I have done in spades. He is increasingly hostile, and is cutting himself off from people. I thought I'd be the exception, but that is not the case. He gets angry extremely easily and refuses to talk about anything - I can see he's depressed, and know I couldn't do anything to help even if he would talk about it, but why is he saying hurtful things and pushing me away? I have told him I'm here for him, written nice letters, tried to make him laugh, but everything is growing dark too quickly. I love him so much and am so afraid for him. Any advice on where to go from here? I'd sure appreciate it. Thanks, Jen Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Friendship kills depression. Even so, happiness is an inside job, but you can do plenty to help him get out of his rut. I think something more than letters are needed - I don't know if you live close to hime, but you should perhaps draw him out, drag him to movies, and so on. Your friendship is going to have to be more powerful than his depression. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 21, 2004 Share Posted May 21, 2004 Tell him to talk to his doc about it. The fact of having a rather nasty ailment coupled with the ailment itself may easily have unbalanced his body chemicals. He should talk to someone professional about all this and get help to sort it out. Link to post Share on other sites
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