Sugar_Cube Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 Hello, I have a question. I was wondering if anyone knew how much alcohol should be mixed together with say coke or ginger ale? The reason I'm asking is, my husband isn't an acoholic, however every night i guess to unwind he'll mix whiskey or bourbon with ginger ale coke or whatever he has. The cups he puts it in are like 32 oz. cups or bigger? he'll put half alcohol and have ginger ale for example. He usually has maybe one or two. I was just wondering if mixing a half cup of alcohol was to much for about a 32 oz size cup or was that ok ? Just seemed a bit much to me. Anyway even though he may only have 1 or 2 drinks, i notice his personality becomes different within a matter of 30 mintues to an hour after he has had the drinks. He becomes kinda snappy, not abusive or anything, just short tempered. It's as different as night and day. Before the drink he's ok, after the drinks hes different. He's not an alcoholic, falling down drunk or anything, I just notice a change after he has a drink or 2. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 Originally posted by Sugar_Cube Hello, I have a question. I was wondering if anyone knew how much alcohol should be mixed together with say coke or ginger ale? The reason I'm asking is, my husband isn't an acoholic, however every night i guess to unwind he'll mix whiskey or bourbon with ginger ale coke or whatever he has. Let me tell you. I did this. I drank every night. I am an alcoholic. If your husband wants and needs a drink every night to "unwind", there is a problem. The cups he puts it in are like 32 oz. cups or bigger? he'll put half alcohol and have ginger ale for example. He usually has maybe one or two. Wow. That is quite a lot, and sadly I did much of the same every evening myself. I was just wondering if mixing a half cup of alcohol was to much for about a 32 oz size cup or was that ok ? Just seemed a bit much to me. Anyway even though he may only have 1 or 2 drinks, i notice his personality becomes different within a matter of 30 mintues to an hour after he has had the drinks. Alcohol does that. It changes you. In my case, it made me really relaxed, outgoing, and humorous. I never got angry, and never did anything to hurt anyone. The fact remains, however, that I was using alcohol to self medicate, and that was quite unhealthy. Even if my attitude was pleasant, the fact that I would go through a pint or a bit more of vodka each night was a BIG PROBLEM. He becomes kinda snappy, not abusive or anything, just short tempered. It's as different as night and day. Before the drink he's ok, after the drinks hes different. That would be a bad thing then. He's not an alcoholic, falling down drunk or anything, I just notice a change after he has a drink or 2. Any thoughts on this would be helpful. Thanks. Alcoholics don't have to get so drunk that they fall down. Alcoholics are people who want to drink, and many times feel that they have to have a drink. Your husband wants a drink every evening, and what he is drinking is on the heavy side. I know... I was doing it for the past year up until recently. I have only drank to passing out, or falling down, a very few times. The point is that I still drank, and I wanted to have my drink every night. It is possible that your husband is an alcoholic, but I don't know enough about the situation. Your husband may be drowning away some of the pain or stress with alcohol, which is a very bad thing to do. I think you should approach your husband about this, and perhaps ask him to go one week without a drink. I may be wrong in my thinking, but if he can't stay sober for one week there is definitely a problem. I had one HELL of a time remaining sober just one week, but I did make it. Hopefully, he will be understanding and make it one week for you. Then, hopefully he will learn that there are ways of dealing with stress, or just being able to unwind, without having a drink. Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 I agree with faux here...you should talk to him about it. And faux...way to go! I'm glad you made it through that week. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugar_Cube Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Hi, thanks to both of you for your replys. I will talk to him again. I have in the past, and hes like "Its only a drink or two". I don't have a problem with him having an occassional drink, my thing is the amount he puts in and his snappiness he has sometimes afterwards. maybe the real test would be for me to ask if he can go a week without it and see what happens. Then if he can't, maybe I'll know for sure he has a problem. Which I feel he does anyway with the amount he puts in it, but I was meaning wheather or not he could do without as well. Thanks again to you both. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 The medically accepted daily intake of alcohol for a man is two standard drinks. A standard drink is: 12 ounces of regular beer 5 ounces of wine 1.5 ounces of 80 proof distilled spirits so if his "drink or two" matches these measurements then he should be fine. If not & he's drinking like that everyday then he most certainly has a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugar_Cube Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Hey blue, thanks for your reply. Is 1.5 oz, is that considered like a shot glass full? I'm sorry not trying to sound dumb, I was just wondering. I don't drink so I'm not familar with that. Anyway, for a32 oz cup or bigger, I would say that half a cup of liquor is alot. he did have about 3 beers last night, no big deal I don't guess. its not beer that usually makes him snappy its the liquor. You know the odd thing is, I see it in the cabinet, but I never see him bring it in. Guess I should pay more attention. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugar_Cube Posted May 26, 2004 Share Posted May 26, 2004 Ok I have now come to the conclusion that he does have a problem. And even though he may not be a falling down kinda drunk, the amount he mixed last night was alot! 32 oz cup filled almost to the very top with liquor, and about 1 inch of ginger ale, theres really a problem here! I think I'll go pour out all the bottles. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Sorry - I didn't see your post. Yes - a standard drink is a shot glass - but it sounds like you figured that out. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugar-Cube Posted May 27, 2004 Share Posted May 27, 2004 Hi blue thanks for your reply. I was wondering when you were going to get back to me...lol..thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
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