guitaristVLADIMIR Posted October 11, 2011 Share Posted October 11, 2011 SORRY FOR THE LENGTH BUT PLEASE READ BEFORE YOU REPLY AS I NEED ADVICE there was this girl ( shpresa)i worked with who i was quite enamored with and we used to flirt openly very very often and i made her laugh so easily which is easier to say then to do...and i used to be able to do it incredibly easy (mind you no other guy i work with could get out of her responses of the same or nearly the same magnitude that i could and I've been told this)whenever i was at my workstation she would stand around where i was currently at even when there were other places she could stand..she would joke around with me. she would let me get away with mispronouncing her name..no one else got away with it...we used to fool around (not sexually) and she trusted me more then other people...she had a sister (besa) and i got chummy with her (which i think was my mistake). and she basically told her sis not to talk to me....well time flies by shpresa's actions have changed... then she leaves for Europe and resigns (she told me that she was doing this well before it perspired..). Well i got friendly with her sister ( only as a friend) she gives me a second chance but posts up on her facebook a thing about trust which i think was about me, she defriends me so i asked around as me and her don't get many hours together we usually work opposing shifts well the answer i got was in her words this ( I would love to be his friend he is a very funny,interesting and cool guy but my sister isn't cool with it) so what i want to know is what does that mean i think ( from being a man) its either one of three things which are: --either her sis (shpresa is mad at me ( which i am opposed to as i asked the besa if shpresa ( the girl i like) is mad at me and she said in a swift frank response NO SHE ISN'T MAD AT YOU AND SHE DOESN'T HATE YOU) OR --she is getting jealous ( i think its this as she used to get flustered when i talked to another female at work( i get alot of attention just by my personality alone let alone my sense of humor) but the little sister (besa) always watches me when i walk by... she sometimes does a double take... and i showed her a picture of the gold necklace i bought my mom for her birthday and she seemed very impressed( in a good like wow this guy buys jewelry for his mom it means he is a good guy ..lol) like i said above ( in the bold and italicised paragraph) my acquaintance who i asked to ask her (besa) if she was cool with being friends ( i know it is better when you do it yourself and i usually do but i just cant right now as i work multiple jobs and both of these girls know this fact through word of mouth from others as i don't like bragging). but he said what i wrote above (that she does but shpresa aint cool with it)and then he says i dont know what happened between you two (meaning me and shpresa) as you and her seemed to hit it off he also said he thought from what he saw and heard that we kinda had a spark ( me and shpresa)..and i still feel lke that.. i try to forget her (shpresa)and for a while it worked but the people who didn't seem to notice or even care ask about me and kind of lead me on to certain facts....( i want to know if she could be asking about me) i mean they ask me if i miss her.. to which i reply i do but i have to move on maybe later i will get a second chance.. ( she was a self described party girl and she asked me what my opinions on children were (VERY unusual for her)) i posted this on yahooanswers and got this response: its really very confusing especial this part " but he said what i wrote above and then he says i dont know what happened between you two as you and her seemed to hit it off he also said he thought from what he saw and heard that we kinda had a spark ( me and the girl)..and i still feel lke that.." who is he ?? ok lemme tell you one thing if you really like that girl stop talking to her sister. she likes you man its obvious that she is jealous and possessive (you can see that while talking 2 other female @ work, even its her sister). and that children thing. try to talk to her and let her know that she is important for you than her sister and any other may be she don't have any idea that you like her... so dont try to forget try to talk try sorting things good luck now i forgot to add that whenever i talk to another girl the younger sister (besa)glances over cause i make girls and women laugh easily...the older sister who i have posted about before her name is shpresa she got a little angry look in her eyes whenever i talked to, hugger or kidded around with another lady.... Link to post Share on other sites
beauty0815 Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 The worst thing you can ever do to a female that likes you and that you like as well is A. talk/flirt with her bestfreind B. talk/flirt with family member . No disrespect but i can see where she is comming from with putting up the ''trust issue'' thing on her page. Regardless of her moving or not her sister is totally off limits , its really a female thing its just what you DONT do. Im sure she and her sister has talked about the same. For men its different an ex is an ex (not saying thats your ex) and they believe in ''sharing'' but not females. It hurts when someone you liked does that to you and then you start to wonder if the feelings were really real. Thats a hurt peice on her part right there. And Im pretty sure this girl still had feelings for you because if she didnt she would have never defriended you from her page. The only advice i can tell you is to stop talking to her sister avoid contact . Oh yeah and her sister should no better ! why would you want a girl that knows you've liked her sister and is still willing to give you a chance because from the looks of it (besa) likes you too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author guitaristVLADIMIR Posted October 13, 2011 Author Share Posted October 13, 2011 The worst thing you can ever do to a female that likes you and that you like as well is A. talk/flirt with her bestfreind B. talk/flirt with family member . No disrespect but i can see where she is comming from with putting up the ''trust issue'' thing on her page. Regardless of her moving or not her sister is totally off limits , its really a female thing its just what you DONT do. Im sure she and her sister has talked about the same. For men its different an ex is an ex (not saying thats your ex) and they believe in ''sharing'' but not females. It hurts when someone you liked does that to you and then you start to wonder if the feelings were really real. Thats a hurt peice on her part right there. And Im pretty sure this girl still had feelings for you because if she didnt she would have never defriended you from her page. The only advice i can tell you is to stop talking to her sister avoid contact . Oh yeah and her sister should no better ! why would you want a girl that knows you've liked her sister and is still willing to give you a chance because from the looks of it (besa) likes you too. thing is shpresa told me she had a bf...rejected me numerous times...buti still let her see i was interested...i see her sis besa as a friend at least for now...besa is basically my way of keeping the whole shpresa and i possibility open.....if that makes sense...and its besa who is doing the whole myspace thing......not shpresa... i Link to post Share on other sites
Author guitaristVLADIMIR Posted October 14, 2011 Author Share Posted October 14, 2011 The worst thing you can ever do to a female that likes you and that you like as well is A. talk/flirt with her bestfreind B. talk/flirt with family member . No disrespect but i can see where she is comming from with putting up the ''trust issue'' thing on her page. Regardless of her moving or not her sister is totally off limits , its really a female thing its just what you DONT do. Im sure she and her sister has talked about the same. For men its different an ex is an ex (not saying thats your ex) and they believe in ''sharing'' but not females. It hurts when someone you liked does that to you and then you start to wonder if the feelings were really real. Thats a hurt peice on her part right there. And Im pretty sure this girl still had feelings for you because if she didnt she would have never defriended you from her page. The only advice i can tell you is to stop talking to her sister avoid contact . Oh yeah and her sister should no better ! why would you want a girl that knows you've liked her sister and is still willing to give you a chance because from the looks of it (besa) likes you too. so basically your saying they BOTH like me....huh i thought shpresa hated me as when she left she didnt even say goodbye...which hurt and like i said earlier people who didnt even seem to care one moment (when she was there) now all ask stuff like.....do you still like her / do you mis her.(meaning shpresa)and then they will say something like did you see her she was here the other day.... so maybe in my opinion she might be asking around although it is a slim chance...... one more thing is she responded to me much more like a girlfriend or fiancee or wife would...and we had arguments over the most ridiculous things.( i.e. like a box she asked me to move and i got busy and forgot). she never seemed to care about other guys and got defensive when our names were mentioned together... do you think that by some small tiny chance she might still like me...cause im crazy about her... it hurts as usually i dont get emotionally attached to someone or something....call it what you like but its my way of carrying on to the next day...but her...noooooo i can remember what her face looks like, what her voice sounds like, her walk, her mannerisms...etc Link to post Share on other sites
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