AZNNTYCE Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 ok something confusing has come up in my relationship, which i need to understand. my gf broke up with her last bf because he was too attached. can someone explain this to me? heres some info about us; my longest relationship was 2 years, so im not affraid of commitment. but hers was about 7 months. she's a commitmaphobe and has never been in love, she is very open, and recently we had a discussion about going out to clubs and she said if she saw me with another girl she wouldnt do anything, is this because she has feeling but nothing strong enough to come up and say something? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 my gf broke up with her last bf because he was too attached. No, your g/f broke up with her last b/f because she didn't love him. we had a discussion about going out to clubs and she said if she saw me with another girl she wouldnt do anything, is this because she has feeling but nothing strong enough to come up and say something No, she could have strong feelings, but it sounds like she does not love you. Unless you've been with her for over 2 years you have nothing to worry about. DO NOT GET TOO ATTACHED to this CHICK! Link to post Share on other sites
MsLandon Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 She could either be all of the things that people have previously said, or she could simply be a girl who is attracted to men who are complete in themselves. She has a life, interests, friends, activities that she enjoys, etc., and probably enjoys men who demonstrate the same. A person who is too clingy or attached is a person who's friends probably say always disappears when they have a boy or girl friend. They make their life about the other person. Mistakenly people think that's what a relationship is about. It isn't. A relationship is about two whole people coming together and sharing their individual lives, opinions, experiences with one another. Ever see two people out to dinner and they aren't talking to one another? Its because they have nothing new to say, describe or share with the other person because all of their experiences are the same. You can't share or grow when the two of you are only talking to one another or always going to the same places at the same times and seeing the same things. While it's wonderful to share you're life, you can't stiffle growth by sacrificing your friendships, interests etc. It's only that way that you can grow personally - which will translate in to growth in your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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