PegNosePete Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 No they don't. They show that she is using you as an emotional tampon. As we've been saying since the start. If there was hope then she would have said "move back in please" when she kissed you in the bar all that time ago or when you had sex the other day. If YOU are not prepared to start kicking some butt and standing up for yourself then she will continue doing this indefinitely. Good luck dude. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 because her actions kinda give me hope that there's still a chance. And that is exactly what she wants. You are her back up option, fail safe system. It's also a massive ego boost to her, having multiple guys including you wanting her. She probably thinks she's so good that her sh*t doesn't smell. The only, I repeat the only way to move from the status quo is for you to remove yourself as an option. Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 If YOU are not prepared to start kicking some butt and standing up for yourself then she will continue doing this indefinitely. This times 10!!! And you don't have to be a jerk to stand up for yourself either, in fact the less you say, the better. Actions are key ie lawyer up and protect yourself. You can be really nice to her and say, "I get it now, you want to be free, I want you to be free, so I've filed for 50/50 custody of our kids" Good luck with OM. You then need to ignore her unless it's about kids or finances, that's real NC!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoeyHurting81 Posted October 31, 2011 Author Share Posted October 31, 2011 Well I got a text from her yesterday saying that she loves me and misses me. She asked me to come over last night because she wanted to talk. As it turns out, she asked me to move back in and take things slow and see where they go from there. We had sex for the second time this week. What should I do? Should I move back in? Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 You should be f'ing careful. I would personally not move back in yet. If you must, take it slow - stop having sex with her until you guys are solid again. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted October 31, 2011 Share Posted October 31, 2011 Maybe suggest counseling before you take any steps forward? I would knock off the intimacy as well for now, that just further complicates things. TAKE IT SLOW. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Right. As if any of you would turn down sex with a woman they still cared about. Good advice but he isn't going to take it. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 As if any of you would turn down sex with a woman Fixed for you Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer203 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Right on, PNP! hahaha Link to post Share on other sites
Author JoeyHurting81 Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 That one actually made me laugh guys! Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted November 3, 2011 Share Posted November 3, 2011 Fixed for you You got me there. Link to post Share on other sites
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