Kageytn Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 I went out with my ex last night. I knew, logically, it was a mistake but wanted to see if he had really changed. He hasn't. We went to dinner and a movie. In that timespan, he: 1. Said my car was dirty 2. Tried to groom me during dinner (wipe your face, you have something in your teeth-like I was a child) 3. Tried to ferret out information about me dating 4. Said I should stay home with my children more (That stung at first. He always criticized my parenting but then I took a deep breath and realized it was his issue not mine. I am a fantastic mother that spends a lot of time with my children) 5. Lied to me-said he was not dating anyone but later told me he was 6. Assumed I went on a vacation with a man and introduced him to my children (I am very picky about introducing my children to men I date. In fact, he is the only person I have ever introduced to my kids) 7. Said I would be engaged by spring 8. Said it was weird I was dating and it made him uncomfortable (uh, OK. It made me feel really sad and I almost had a nervous breakdown when you broke up with me in the therapist office after telling me you had lied to me for four years) 9. After all that, asked me to go out with him again. I can not believe I tolerated this behavior for so long. I think the adage about being a frog in boiling water holds true. I was the frog and he was the water. The excellent thing is I have definitely changed. I can see him so clearly now. Link to post Share on other sites
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