joystickd Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 I probably would have friend zoned (cut communication) her after third date. I'm not big on conversation but big on practicing procreation lol . There are too many women out here to be wasting time on one. He was just too lazy to even say anything before then Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 So these douchebags keeps pulling these shenanigans on you, and you're the one who keeps falling for them. Who's the stupid one? If you date one douche after another, then that makes you someone who accepts invites from douches to date them. You see, a nice guy won't do those things to you. But you don't date them. Impossible. She can't resist my charm. ---- A conversation between some lady and I. Her: Well, I don't want to do it with just anybody. I want there to be feelings. Me: Well guess what? With men, there are no feelings. At least not in the beginning. Men just want to get laid. Her: So what do I do about this? Me: Well, you can date all the dweebs and nerds. These are guys that you don't want to have sex with, but they will wait for as long as you make them wait. The more popular guys, the more charismatic guys can have sex with whoever they want and they dont' have to wait for anybody. You see, you want what you can't have. You want a guy who's in demand. You want the guy who can get any girl he wants to sit there and get to "know you" before he has sex with you. The problem with that way of doing it, is that that guy can have sex with whoever he wants. And while he waits for you to put out, he's getting it somewhere else. Why would any desirable guy wait for you? Think about it: He's desireable. Let's take a guy out of thin air. Think of a famous guy you have the hots for. (Let's take Geroge Clooney as an example. If you don't like him, then replace him with a famous guy you do have the hots for.) Geroge Clooney can have any girl in the world. Anytime he wants them. Let's say he meets you. Do you think he's going to sit there and get to know you for a few months and do without sex for that time? Her: Probably not. Me: Right. So the guys who are going to wait are the dweebs and the nerds. And that's because they're not getting it anywhere else. Those guys will wait for as long as you want them to wait. But you don't want THEM. You want what you can't have. A lot of men would LOVE to have the newest Mercedes-Bendz, but they can't have it. Speaking of cars, would you buy a car without test driving it? Her: No. Me: Most guys wouldn't either. So if there's someone who you really, really think has potential for a relationship, you have to take your chances and have sex with him. You have to do it. No guy is going to sit there and have his face pressed against the glass waiting for your O.K. if he's in demand. Realize that there are women who will do what you won't do. And these guys will go to those women. Her: But they're dirty... Me: No, they're not all dirty. You have to look at guys who you think have potential as a relationship, have sex with him and take the chance that he won't be interested anymore. By the way, guys who don't call you after the date don't do it because they're rude. They do it because they're not interested. The sex wasn't that good, or you're not that interesting or whatever. So you have to get over your ego trip, realize that you might sleep with someone who may never call you again. And if he doesn't call you is because he doesn't like you. This is the rejection women have to live with. When you see someone who looks lilke a long term boyfriend, a future husband, you have to give it up to him. And then you have to hope that he really likes it. And some guys might not. That's the risk you have to take. The risk men have to take is that they have to come up to you and ask you out on a date. And women laugh at them or make fun of them behind their backs and brush them off most of the time. Don't you? But you don't want any rejection at all. You want things to be all in your favor: every guy thinks you have the Golden Vagina, you want them to think that sleeping with you is the best thing ever. In the meantime, men have to go through rejection all the time. Guys who don't call you are not into you. Don't let that be the reason that you don't put out anymore. While there are guys who like what you have to offer, there will be others who won't. Her: But I just want to keep it clean and not dirty. Me: Ugh! Listen, you are using them for time, you are using them for meals, you are using them for drinks, you are using them for attention, you are using them for concert tickets, or whatever it is you do with these guys on dates. You're using THEM. What happens if a guy invites you out to a concert and he spends $200 on tickets? Would you feel bad enough to get in the sack with him? Her: Um ..... Um ..... Me: That's my point. So you see, you're not the only one being used. Very valid points there. I agree 100% Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Didnt you say you live in Britain? How do you know its my people picker not the lack of women with that certain quality in the place where I live? Yes, I do, so that could be it. All the women in your area could have unenlightened views. Where are you? Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Yes, I do, so that could be it. All the women in your area could have unenlightened views. Where are you? California. Link to post Share on other sites
Author louise_23 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 Ewww. I don't have any rules involving an arbitrary number of meetings, and I expect a guy with a decent head on his shoulders to not have them either. IMO you dodged a bullet. yeah nice way of putting it Sounds like he's got a clumsy way of suggesting sex. Not surprising, given he's recently out of a relationship and may actually be a bit afraid of intimacy at the moment. If you were up for having a nothing serious, scratch an itch, in-between thing, he'd be ideal for that. But seems you're not looking for what he's looking for. Probably best to step back a bit. yeah i agree 100% Yeah, we women know all men who ask us out want to have sex with us. It's called chemistry. It's just that we want a guy who also wants to be with the WHOLE woman, and get to know us. It's great to have an emotional and physical connection, plus an intellectual/mental one. Any guy who expects me to put out and not consider my (emotional) needs isn't worth my time. Any smart guy knows in order for a woman to feel wild and uninhibited she must "trust" the guy she is with so she can let go. It's worth it on both sides. I realize guys need sex to feel close and emotional with a woman. It's what drives the intimacy. No guy is going out on a date with a woman he doesn't want to sleep with. We women are the same. I wouldn't date a guy I didn't envision sleeping with if all else goes well. My checklist on a guy is longer than #1: Do I want to sleep with him? That's important, but not the whole story. I just want the same consideration from a guy. A lot of men want to have sex with me, but I want the ones who also want a relationship on other levels, too. Too much to ask? I don't think so. i dont think so either!!! and very good points. ahh well, here's to hopefully more effective creep dodging in future Link to post Share on other sites
Author louise_23 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Share Posted October 21, 2011 tbh i just want to shag. girls do have a function outside that but mostly i just want a skinny woman to keep in my home and shag when i'm horny. thats y ppl get married at least you're honest about it. Link to post Share on other sites
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