danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 When you walk past people in large groups (most notably girls), even in other towns where they don't even know you, do they mock your appearance and laugh? I get that alot and have learned to avoid people as much as I possibly can. I'm not fat. I dress clean (much cleaner than these guys that don't get mocked) I don't go out and act ugly (I just act like a regular guy) Just recently there, a woman mocked my appearance as I walked past her house -"Hey sexy!" Mocked all the time Link to post Share on other sites
mike111 Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Just recently there, a woman mocked my appearance as I walked past her house -"Hey sexy!" Damn. That's rough mike Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Damn. That's rough mike Yeah, and her boyfriend was there. She was rippin' the pish out of my appearance. I think she tried to start a fight. I told her 'Shut the **** up bitch' but the guy didn't do nothing. I'm guessing he had sympathy for me because I'm not exactly big built. Link to post Share on other sites
mike111 Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I don't really get it. Usually when a woman says "hi sexy", I would think she might be liking me. mike Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) No she was mocking my sppearance. I tried talking to her via Facebook, basically telling her that there is more to a person than his/her looks, but she's just as sarcastic as ever. In other words, she feels that I deserve it because she thinks I'm ugly. Where I come from it's common for women to say "Hey Sexy" with a sarcastic tone if you're totally ugly. They whistle and laugh too when their friends are there. Edited October 15, 2011 by danmorisson Link to post Share on other sites
mike111 Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Ok, Dan. I am sorry about this. I thought you were joking. Is this a woman you know? You mentioned about her being on facebook too. Man.........if there is anyway you can stay away from losers like this, do so. She's a horrible human being, I am sorry to say. Is there a way of avoiding people like this? Are some of these people that you know personally? mike Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) Yes there are alot of these women where I live. That's what makes it so hard, wouldn't be so bad if there was just a handful, but there are alot.... Decent people with strong moral beliefs, but you don't apply if you're too ugly. You can be ugly but not hideous. Edit: What is wrong with me is that not only am I ugly but I was born with a deformity as well -- severe flat head syndrome. Impossible to make any friends, especially female friends. Edited October 15, 2011 by danmorisson Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Not when they are clearly saying it as joke and laughing, usually with mates, what they mean is you *don't* look sexy. I don't really get it. Usually when a woman says "hi sexy", I would think she might be liking me. mike Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Not sure why you thought he was joking! It doesn't matter if we know the people who mock us or not, I get comments from random strangers as I'm unconventional looking and my hair is thin. You can't avoid them, unless you never go out. Ok, Dan. I am sorry about this. I thought you were joking. Is this a woman you know? You mentioned about her being on facebook too. Man.........if there is anyway you can stay away from losers like this, do so. She's a horrible human being, I am sorry to say. Is there a way of avoiding people like this? Are some of these people that you know personally? mike Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Dan, they are not decent people with strong moral beliefs if they are mocking you, if you wouldn't dream of mocking someone's appearance then you are worth a million of them. I tend to feel sorry for these numbskulls these days, and think how sad and miserable it must to be someone who has to make themselves feel better by making others feel bad, I would hate to be them. Yes there are alot of these women where I live. That's what makes it so hard, wouldn't be so bad if there was just a handful, but there are alot.... Decent people with strong moral beliefs, but you don't apply if you're too ugly. You can be ugly but not hideous. Edit: What is wrong with me is that not only am I ugly but I was born with a deformity as well -- severe flat head syndrome. Impossible to make any friends, especially female friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 And it's annoying when people online make out that it's our fault. I don't act like a weirdo outside, I just act like your regular guy. I'm not that shy either. I use to be when I was very little but not anymore. People everywhere just dislike you if you don't look socially acceptable, if your ugliness is outside social norms. A lot of popular people are ugly, true, but they don't have deformities or anything like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ross MwcFan Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I'm sorry that you experience this. These people just show how hideous they're on the inside. No, I don't really get comments from large groups of girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Wow an attractive young girl just said 'Hiya' to me outside. Why can't the majority be like this? That's just proof that the majority are just arseholes. I think alot of people on here just like to put the blame on you because they hang about with these *******s IRL. Also I've been caught defending fat women over the Internet to strangers. I was 'harassing' and they texed messaged random people in my home town and posted a link to my Twitter where you could see me defending fat women -- hating on those who hate on fat women. Proof that I don't just say these things for attention. So hopefully that'll make a difference Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Dan - have been to therapy at all for dealing with your syndrome? I ask because you have started multiple threads about the way you look so it is obvious that it is an obsession of yours. I mentioned in another thread that a good friendship isn't based on someone's looks and you mocked me. You are carrying your deformity as a banner to not building and establishing healthy relationships, but dwelling on the negative reactions you receive due to your looks. This is something that a therapist can help you work through. Every person has something they feel makes them unattractive or a cause for ridicule. I grew up with large breasts and when I was 12 years old, I had boys hold me down and stick pins in them because they assumed I was stuffing my bra with balloons. Please understand that as an adolescent, to me they were a deformity that made me reviled by girls and a source of abuse by boys. My point is that as we grow older, we learn to accept what the fates have provided with dignity. We learn that one's mind and personality is far more important than one's appearance and that you dismissed that when I mentioned it before displays tremendous immaturity on your part by only dwelling on the physical. Yes, there will always be shallow and nasty people in the world, but they are NOT the majority - but somehow your interaction with those people is what you are focusing your attention on and that is not healthy. Which is why I asked if you have considered therapy. So my two questions are: How old are you and have you had therapy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 What? I am the immature one? I need therapy? Not the majority? Tell me: Why do you trolls always have to reply to my threads? It's getting you can't come online and post a message without having some troll dissing you. This is the point where I just start ignoring your posts. Goodbye. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) I'm sorry that you experience this. These people just show how hideous they're on the inside. No, I don't really get comments from large groups of girls. I see that you are not a troll nor a pure ******* so thanks. And a thumb up for acknowledging! Edit: And for the record, anobody that lives in a fantasy world will be ignored, including trolls. I seek real people. Edited October 15, 2011 by danmorisson Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I see that you are not a troll nor a pure ******* so thanks. And a thumb up for acknowledging! Edit: And for the record, anobody that lives in a fantasy world will be ignored, including trolls. I seek real people. I've got news for you - by offering you examples of my own trauma, I was trying to commiserate with you but you can't see that. You will consider a troll anyone who doesn't completely by into your self-pity of message of "poor, poor me" which will only continue to build your wall of doubt. I am very sorry for you - I really am. I am a real person who has experienced much of what you have experienced. And that you do not want to listen to the advice of someone who is sincerely trying to help, but attack those who do not buy into your world of degradation, is truly sad. I wish the best for you, but I can see you will remain where you are in life for a very long time - until you start to at least consider another perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) I don't know if you're trolling or if it's just that you've watched too many Hollywood films. The real world is nothing like a Hollywood film. What you describe is absolutely nothing like real life. Most people don't judge you on the inside. And this is not about pity. Stop saying that just because you feel guilty about hanging round with people that hate on appearance. I'm sorry but most humans really aren't that nice. Edited October 15, 2011 by danmorisson Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 Stop living a fantasy and read up on this guy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseph_Merrick Only a very, very, very small % of the population would accept him. He was 'forced' into hiding most of his life. So you see, it is possible to be too ugly for most of society. That's reality. Wasn't his fault he was born like that, was it? Now I'm nowhere near as ugly as him, but still, I'm just too damn ugly for 'most' people. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 What? I am the immature one? I need therapy? Not the majority? Tell me: Why do you trolls always have to reply to my threads? It's getting you can't come online and post a message without having some troll dissing you. This is the point where I just start ignoring your posts. Goodbye. She isn't a nasty person, and isn't a troll. She's one of the nicer and most helpful people on here! I think you definitely need therapy, man. I've been mocked by women before, but I've also been called hot. Something that has resonated with me is that everyone is either ugly, average, or sexy to someone, and either ugly, average, or sexy to someone else. You could look like the Elephant man, and somewhere there's a mate for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 (edited) @AHardDaysNight Do people people like that not seem a little bit selfish to you, no? Life is hell, you're mocked like heck everwhere you go, people don't want to talk to you, and all you get is "Quit the self pity" or "Stop feeling sorry for yourself" And refusing to aknowledge the scale of the problem when a person actually experiences it. What do they want me to do? Take a camera out with me and record everything? Come over here and I'll show you that most people aren't that nice. Just because you look secially acceptable (and prolly talk to these people) and therefore don't experience this, don't be selfish about it. Forums are a great way to get things off your chest Edited October 15, 2011 by danmorisson Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 @AHardDaysNight Do people people like that not seem a little bit selfish to you, no? Not really. You see, I have been diagnosed with social anxiety and body dismorphic disorder. I also am a 28 year old virgin who has no relationship experience. However, I've had more people call me "average looking" than ugly. Only about 5% of the people I've ever met have called me ugly. I look in the mirror, and I see an attractive geek. That's fine. Geeks rule the world, everyone knows this, and I'd rather be a geek than be a player. You just need to re-examine your self esteem issues. I'm sure you're not as unattractive as you think you are...and if you are, it's not what's preventing you from getting a girlfriend. Blowing up on people that are trying to give you positive advice, however, is what is keeping you from progression. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 I freakin hate that about the Internet, you get these people that like to type alot to make themselves look smart and by doing so they type a load of **** Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 I freakin hate that about the Internet, you get these people that like to type alot to make themselves look smart and by doing so they type a load of **** Ugh. *facepalm* Dude, do whatever you want. You are a product of your own thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author danmorisson Posted October 15, 2011 Author Share Posted October 15, 2011 @AHardDaysNight I feel that you don't fully understand my situation. It's not about finding a mate. How can I enjoy going out when so many people laugh at me? The giggles. The ignoring. The disgusted look on their faces. I am ugly and boy God how a good pertain of the population are very good at reminding me of that. It's relentless. Link to post Share on other sites
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