TxTechGirl04 Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 So ex broke up with me and it was a pretty messy breakup... Basically he said that he didn't love me anymore, didn't have feelings for me anymore blah blah blah...I tried to contact him several times and he would always tell me "don't call me, people who are broke up shouldn't talk very much"... Here's the confusing part...he has just started calling me every couple of days...although he still says he just wants to be "friends" he also says that he wants to start over and strictly have a friendship for now and just see what happens...we are even going to go to dinner and hang out when we both return to school... I just don't know what to do! I want to eventually have some sort of relationship, but I am lost as to how to handle the situation when we do see each other. Why does he all of a sudden want to start talking again? Why is he so adamant about being just "Friends" yet wants to start over?! Also, he says he isnt going to see anyone else and doesn't want me to see anyone else either! Im so confused....HELP!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=39156 Link to post Share on other sites
BoyinWonder Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 From the male side...and it even can be a females side, it sounds like the boy is confused completely. Said didn't have feelings b/c he couldn't say anything like I think we should break up for a while and not speak and then start again. That wouldn't be fair to anyone. Instead people choose to cop out and say hurtful things they don't really mean or felt like it was the only way to jusitfy what they have done. I know how you must feel. The girl I have loved said almost the exact same thing to me about a month ago. You have to judge your own heart, feelings and what you want from this person. Ask the important questions to you and to him. If it still feels right after all is said and done, then do it. People who are confused and give the "I don't know" response to things have to be left alone and figure it out for themselves. If you love them enough, and love was there to begin with, then love will be back with them. Time really does heal. You just have to let them live and make their own mistakes. People eventually always do. Hope that helps, little insight that I have learned from my situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TxTechGirl04 Posted May 17, 2004 Author Share Posted May 17, 2004 Wow...very insightful...its just very hurtful for him to tell me over and over that he doesn't have feelings for me anymore...he knows that I want to work things out but he just keeps repeating that we're only "friends", yet calls me and wants to talk like we used too... I am sooooo confused...but your post was very helpful! Just think I'm gonna wait and see...try to get over him... Link to post Share on other sites
fulsteredinluv Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 i'd tell him to (thoughtfully) get lost. as hard as it is to say that, it sounds like he wants all the benefits of having a relationship with out the commitment, and ultimately you will be the one feeling used and really hurt. you have to make the decision for him, and ultimately you'll respect yourself more for it. Link to post Share on other sites
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