Barrsitter Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 To everyone who posted fantastic advice on being the OW, I have this to say about myself. I have been some kind of stupid! My xMM has said the exact same things I've read here on LS that other MMs say. Is there some sort of Dumb-ass MM Play Book??? My xMM loved to say "we'll have our day". I asked him recently "How will we have our day when you are living with your wife?" MM: "I just know". Ok Bud...here is what I know: You're a coward and a liar and a thief. You stole my emotions, my love, my time and my good will. You wasted 2+ years of my life with your bull about "I never stopped loving you." Really? Then why didn't you leave your wife over the past 30 years and find me? We only lived 50 km apart the entire time! Sorry Dude...not buying that crap any longer. You might have loved me all your life but your actions spoke otherwise. Take your dumb-ass excuses and go @#$% yourself. Ladies and Gentleman...I have an announcement. This guy will never be good enough for me. Not even if he is single. I'm going back to my mantras that have stood the test of time until I fell in love with MM and my brains melted: "Oh, you're interested in me? Prove it." "What's in it for me?" "Actions speak" Man: I love you Me: So what? New rule: Absolutely no MMs ever again. EVER. Calling all OWs! Take back your power and close the castle gates. Draw up the bridges and stalk the motes with alligators. You are the princess in the castle and only the most noble, single man who walks the talk will be allowed into the castle. Thank you LS posters! There is power in sharing! Link to post Share on other sites
yeszombie Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 I was told by the man I'm seeing that 'our day will come soon' last week. I didn't know what that meant but it's interesting that you got told the same thing :-( Link to post Share on other sites
cavedweller Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Barrsitter, There are a lot of single men out there.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barrsitter Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 Yeszombie! You don't suppose we are seeing the same MM, do you??? Link to post Share on other sites
yeszombie Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Yeszombie! You don't suppose we are seeing the same MM, do you??? Lol mine isn't married, he's with a pregnant girlfriend. I don't know what they mean by 'our time will come'. For what exactly? And then they have no answer. We should get rid of them Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barrsitter Posted October 16, 2011 Author Share Posted October 16, 2011 Oh...I punted my MM to the end zone earlier this week. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 To everyone who posted fantastic advice on being the OW, I have this to say about myself. I have been some kind of stupid! My xMM has said the exact same things I've read here on LS that other MMs say. Is there some sort of Dumb-ass MM Play Book??? My xMM loved to say "we'll have our day". I asked him recently "How will we have our day when you are living with your wife?" MM: "I just know". Ok Bud...here is what I know: You're a coward and a liar and a thief. You stole my emotions, my love, my time and my good will. You wasted 2+ years of my life with your bull about "I never stopped loving you." Really? Then why didn't you leave your wife over the past 30 years and find me? We only lived 50 km apart the entire time! Sorry Dude...not buying that crap any longer. You might have loved me all your life but your actions spoke otherwise. Take your dumb-ass excuses and go @#$% yourself. Ladies and Gentleman...I have an announcement. This guy will never be good enough for me. Not even if he is single. I'm going back to my mantras that have stood the test of time until I fell in love with MM and my brains melted: "Oh, you're interested in me? Prove it." "What's in it for me?" "Actions speak" Man: I love you Me: So what? New rule: Absolutely no MMs ever again. EVER. Calling all OWs! Take back your power and close the castle gates. Draw up the bridges and stalk the motes with alligators. You are the princess in the castle and only the most noble, single man who walks the talk will be allowed into the castle. Thank you LS posters! There is power in sharing! Great for you! A great step in moving forward as well, that usually comes later, is not only realizing all that the other person did wrong but also realizing where you went wrong in choosing what you chose....that is the most illuminating of all! Believe me! Because others are free to be a-holes, jerks, liars, etc...but at the end of the day, we don't have to live in their skin, but we have to live in our own, and we carry ourselves with us everywhere we go, in every relationship we enter...so when you learn about why you did what you did, and your own responsibility in the matter it opens up a new level of growth! Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 Barrsitter I love your post. Even though it made me laugh your points are clear. It's sad when you have to live like that with your guard up but it is for a reason. Best of luck to all of us. Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl Posted October 16, 2011 Share Posted October 16, 2011 'Our time will come.". I asked xMM what he meant and he told me specifically. "When nature takes its course , I will be with you ." NOT INTERESTED Pal. Find somebody else to fill the vacancy. That demonstrates how highly he regards his wife and I would say , in hindsight, women in general, GG Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barrsitter Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 GG: good for you for asking him what he meant. The answer shows that he is not prepared to take action to be with you. Best to step aside and wait for the man who wants to be with you AND takes steps to be with you. Words + Actions = A Real Man See my new Thread entitled "Broken Heart? Look here..." It's in OM/OW. Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 GG: good for you for asking him what he meant. The answer shows that he is not prepared to take action to be with you. Best to step aside and wait for the man who wants to be with you AND takes steps to be with you. Words + Actions = A Real Man See my new Thread entitled "Broken Heart? Look here..." It's in OM/OW. Enjoy! This one was waiting for his poor wife to die! GG Link to post Share on other sites
Author Barrsitter Posted October 17, 2011 Author Share Posted October 17, 2011 (edited) GG - say what? Your xMM is waiting for his wife to die before being with you? Is her name Clarice, by any chance? Girlfriend...this guy is on drugs. Run far...run free... Edited October 17, 2011 by Barrsitter Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 GG - say what? Your xMM is waiting for his wife to die before being with you? Is her name Clarice, by any chance? Girlfriend...this guy is on drugs. Run far...run free... That's exactly what he meant. When nature makes things right, he would be able to be with me. He's not on drugs to my knowledge and they are both in their late sixties. He's back on a dating website stating he's married but looking for a long term serious relationship because he lacks intimacy in his marriage. DUH! Wonder why she wouldn't have anything to do with a man who would like her dead????????? The only drugs he takes are regular doses of self delusion and entitlement. I HAVE run. A jewel in the crown of humanity.? Link to post Share on other sites
Gentlegirl Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 GG - say what? Your xMM is waiting for his wife to die before being with you? Is her name Clarice, by any chance? Girlfriend...this guy is on drugs. Run far...run free... That's exactly what he meant. When nature makes things right, he would be able to be with me. He's not on drugs to my knowledge and they are both in their late sixties. He's back on a dating website stating he's married but looking for a long term serious relationship because he lacks intimacy in his marriage. DUH! Wonder why she wouldn't have anything to do with a man who would like her dead????????? The only drugs he takes are regular doses of self delusion and entitlement. I HAVE run. A jewel in the crown of humanity.? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 That's exactly what he meant. When nature makes things right, he would be able to be with me. He's not on drugs to my knowledge and they are both in their late sixties. He's back on a dating website stating he's married but looking for a long term serious relationship because he lacks intimacy in his marriage. DUH! Wonder why she wouldn't have anything to do with a man who would like her dead????????? The only drugs he takes are regular doses of self delusion and entitlement. I HAVE run. A jewel in the crown of humanity.? Smh...what a mess! Link to post Share on other sites
mzdolphin Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 'Our time will come.". I asked xMM what he meant and he told me specifically. "When nature takes its course , I will be with you ." NOT INTERESTED Pal. Find somebody else to fill the vacancy. That demonstrates how highly he regards his wife and I would say , in hindsight, women in general, GG Never heard the Our Day Will Come. Probably because he was lying about being divorced. After I found out the truth I got all the lies, excuses about how his marriage was more like a business partnership, how he couldn't stop thinking about me and how he thinks of me all the time, blah blah blah. Bottom line: It didn't even matter if those things were true. Being involved with a married man just didn't work for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts