Author D-Lish Posted October 24, 2011 Author Share Posted October 24, 2011 The guy is a control freak (at best.) I'll diagnose. If he has you nervously gulping down supplements to avoid his wrath, then something is wrong. Seriously, who would be on his cucumber eating wave-length? The only woman on his wave length is as messed up as he is. I don't think it has anything to do with wave-lengths. For example, to say that I'm not on the same wave length as an abuser or controlling guy is putting it mildly, and assumes mutual culpability...abuse and control is always ONE sided. D-Lish has nothing to do with this situation -- except she sees his game and rejects it. No reason to try to understand WHY he acts the way he does. His behavior is troublesome on the face of it. Bin it! New loveshack catch phrase. I used to say "shelf it"... But as you get older, you need more room than shelves can provide, so the "bin" is resonating with me. It would be great if you could call up 1-800 -Got-Baggage and have a pretty pink truck pull up and haul it all away for you- but I can't imagine how much that would cost me if they charged by weight;) Go for it.. Hope the talk goes well. Is this a joke? Let's not compare "gifts" that get tossed around and not opened to a piece of cucumber given to a dog. That's totally apples and oranges. Bananas and pineapples. I already did use your example line gf:p I think PP has her own baggage having to do with her mom being unappreciative of the things she's done for her and is transferring her issues onto my situation, which is completely different, but if she views me feeding my dogs cucumbers I got as a gift as being disrespectful to the person doing the gifting, so be it. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 I have a schedule he printed off on when to take "what" and how often... ... that isn't an interest D-lish.. that is flat out control Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 ... that isn't an interest D-lish.. that is flat out control Yeah, that's what my boss said as well... Everyone is noticing I am getting too thin again, myself included- But him pointing it out and trying to make me into a project is making things worse, not better. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 But him pointing it out and trying to make me into a project is making things worse, not better. Yeah.. it sounds like he went wayyyyyy overboard too.. Taking that number of supplements takes a certain kind of person.. I'm more into the Flinstone characters myself.. I have always done things thru humor.. "geez.. you are getting a little thin, it looks like your sperm count is getting low?, we need to work on that" would have been something I would have said... Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Yeah.. it sounds like he went wayyyyyy overboard too.. Taking that number of supplements takes a certain kind of person.. I'm more into the Flinstone characters myself.. I have always done things thru humor.. "geez.. you are getting a little thin, it looks like your sperm count is getting low?, we need to work on that" would have been something I would have said... I joke a lot, he has trouble understanding my humour. I have told lots of stories that make him laugh, but the sarcasm and one-liners never resonate with him- I have to explain I am kidding. I guess one thing I can pull from this is that he's yet to make me laugh. We laugh together because I am funny and he responds, I can't recall anything he's said that has made me laugh. That just hit me now. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I can't recall anything he's said that has made me laugh. Poor Guy.... Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I guess one thing I can pull from this is that he's yet to make me laugh. We laugh together because I am funny and he responds, I can't recall anything he's said that has made me laugh. That just hit me now. That's the deal break right there. Cucumbers aside, after -- what, three weeks? -- he hasn't made you laugh? No hope. No future. End it now... <<< hugs >>> Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Some of the supplements that he gave you, D-Lish, are sort of "alternative" things, not things that people typically take. Astaxanthin is one, and bitter apricot kernels are another. (Can't remember list off top of my head, but those are two for sure.) He sounds like one of those fanatical, organic, crunchy sort of people, who are petrified of diseases. (Any chance he is a conspiracy theorist? I met a guy last week who is convinced that every world government knows that bitter apricot kernels cure cancer, but that the gov'ts don't want you to know that because cancer is such a money producer for the economy.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Some of the supplements that he gave you, D-Lish, are sort of "alternative" things, not things that people typically take. Astaxanthin is one, and bitter apricot kernels are another. (Can't remember list off top of my head, but those are two for sure.) He sounds like one of those fanatical, organic, crunchy sort of people, who are petrified of diseases. (Any chance he is a conspiracy theorist? I met a guy last week who is convinced that every world government knows that bitter apricot kernels cure cancer, but that the gov'ts don't want you to know that because cancer is such a money producer for the economy.) Total conspiracy theorist- 100%. When I said he talks too much- it's 1/3 about conspiracies. I think he spent 4 hours trying to convince me 911 was an inside job... Same with the cancer thing and the bitter apricot kernals. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Ditch him. No laughing, won't put your dogs in his lap, pissy over a cuke, and is a conspiracy theorist. 1 strike past being back in the dugout. Make him ride the pine. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Alright conspiracy theories are probably over most people's line you win. I'm still disappointed I can't come up with catchy ways to talk about masturbation lol. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 If I spent the amount of time needed to understand when and how to take all these vitamins, I'd have to cut my work day in half. I have a schedule he printed off on when to take "what" and how often... Like I said, it's nice to feel like someone is taking an interest in your well being- but wouldn't a multi-vitamin suffice? Preferably one that tastes like candy, shaped like the cast of the Flintstones? Yeah, this is a guy whose still trying to impress you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Alright conspiracy theories are probably over most people's line you win. I'm still disappointed I can't come up with catchy ways to talk about masturbation lol. Well what the hell do you think I do when he leaves every morning... Sip a cranberry juice and take all those vitamins? No, I pull out my vibrator.... Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Well what the hell do you think I do when he leaves every morning... Sip a cranberry juice and take all those vitamins? No, I pull out my vibrator.... yikes. Honest reply..... Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Well what the hell do you think I do when he leaves every morning... Sip a cranberry juice and take all those vitamins? No, I pull out my vibrator.... :bunny: LIKE :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author D-Lish Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 :bunny: LIKE :bunny: Honesty! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 hahahahahaha... It's a freakin cucumber from a market... .60 to .80 cents... hahahahahahaYeah but the Farmer's market organic ones are not pesticide, all natural, blah blah blah. D-lish deserves all natural stuff and no fillers; I mean eat better stuff. Well what the hell do you think I do when he leaves every morning... Sip a cranberry juice and take all those vitamins? No, I pull out my vibrator....NICE!!! Schedule to take the supplements is just way strange. Sounds like a the guy in "Sleeping with the Enemy" Everything in its place, neat clean, and cans all facing a certain way; no deviations. The 1/3 conspiracy when talking, it is like paranoia. Phobias or maybe OCD? OCD behavior can drive a non-OCD person insane. Link to post Share on other sites
Nexus One Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) Well what the hell do you think I do when he leaves every morning... Sip a cranberry juice and take all those vitamins? No, I pull out my vibrator.... I'll bet it's a silver one, with Nexus written on it. That reminds me, when I was a kid I went over to a friend to play at his house. His parents weren't home and we found his mother's vibrator in a drawer. My friend smelled it, uttering "Ugh!", then he tried to shove it in my face, after which I ran and he kept chasing me with the damn thing throughout the house. Good times. Edited October 25, 2011 by Nexus One Link to post Share on other sites
snug.bunny Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I think he spent 4 hours trying to convince me 911 was an inside job... Oh no he didn't!! Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 OCD behavior can drive a non-OCD person insane. He sounds like a possible germaphobe. Which tends to be a control freak, like the last guy I dated. Who also screamed at me for not taking his Walmart argument seriously. And made no bones about doing it again if the occasion arose. He would also be helpful and send me weird things like the germ count in the average person's navel. I say run for the f***ing hills. Life's too short for controlling, potentially abusive looney tunes. Link to post Share on other sites
OliveOyl Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 He sounds like a possible germaphobe. Which tends to be a control freak, like the last guy I dated. Who also screamed at me for not taking his Walmart argument seriously. And made no bones about doing it again if the occasion arose. He would also be helpful and send me weird things like the germ count in the average person's navel. I say run for the f***ing hills. Life's too short for controlling, potentially abusive looney tunes. I remember that incident and was thinking of it when D mentioned the cuke incident. I wonder if Walmart sells organic cucumbers.... ??? Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I'll bet it's a silver one, with Nexus written on it. That reminds me, when I was a kid I went over to a friend to play at his house. His parents weren't home and we found his mother's vibrator in a drawer. My friend smelled it, uttering "Ugh!", then he tried to shove it in my face, after which I ran and he kept chasing me with the damn thing throughout the house. Good times. Yikes! And then you spent the next 5 years in therapy? Eye bleach, please! Well what the hell do you think I do when he leaves every morning... Sip a cranberry juice and take all those vitamins? No, I pull out my vibrator.... Now, somewhere I read a list of reasons that "A cucumber is better than a man..." Stuff like, "With a cucumber, you never have to sleep on the wet spot." Makes you think. I've been waiting for the right time in the thread to bring that up, and you gave me a fastball right over the plate... Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 This guilt thing, that's interesting. I can understand feeling a bit guilty because his hearts in the right place (bring gifts and caring for your welfare) but at the same time, you feel imposed upon and don't want to do it. But there's no need to feel guilty - it's just a mismatch, that's all. Explaining it to him is one option: "Thanks for thinking of me and for all the nutritional supplements, but I feel pressured by the amount of attention you're paying to my diet and I'd appreciate it of you'd back off a bit." Even if this relationship is about to reach its natural end, what a good opportunity to practice expressing your feelings and wishes (i.e. asserting your self). Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Total conspiracy theorist- 100%. When I said he talks too much- it's 1/3 about conspiracies. I think he spent 4 hours trying to convince me 911 was an inside job... Same with the cancer thing and the bitter apricot kernals. All conspiracy theorists are pretty much insane. I had bad luck of meeting 2 via online dating last year. Both turned out to be total psychos. Link to post Share on other sites
blueskyday Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Agreed. I think there may be a conspiracy on the part conspiracy theorists make normal intelligent people go crazy. Really, let me explain my theory here for the next sixteen hours while I hold you hostage....hehe:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
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