Exasperating date....

[Nexus One]

 

All conspiracy theorists are pretty much insane. I had bad luck of meeting 2 via online dating last year. Both turned out to be total psychos.

 

Agreed. I think there may be a conspiracy on the part conspiracy theorists make normal intelligent people go crazy. Really, let me explain my theory here for the next sixteen hours while I hold you hostage....hehe:laugh:

 

Sheeple...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Just kidding ladies, just kidding.

Edited October 25, 2011 by Nexus One

[blueskyday]

Wow, scary to think some people actually believe that crap. And how sad for the families of the victims. I usually reject fanatical people with highly polarized thinking. Leaves no room for logic or new information that is contrarian to whatever their original belief is.

 

I have also found that die-hard multiple conspiracy theorists are paranoid people in general without much capacity for original thought or analytical thinking. They also tend to OD on vitamin supplements and push them on otherwise healthy people like D-Lish. (joking!)

[wheream_i]

No, he's not on drugs. He's just the type that loves to hear himself talk. Let me guess, he's in sales? Trust me, he won't change. I know guys like this. A good friend of mine is an incessant talker and an extreme attention-whore. He cannot stand and will not let anybody have a word or attention on themselves. It has to be him at all times. He got married last year to a great girl who is a good friend of mine now as well. When they first met, she thought he was just a ball, a laugh riot because he was always "on". We all went out to a baseball game not too long ago and he's heckling the players from the stands. Him alone, no one else. He has EVERYBODY looking at him and some people are getting angry telling him to shut up... and he's loving it. His wife looked at me and said with a seriously depressed look on her face, "there is no off switch with him." My thought to her was she knew what he was like before they got married.

 

The only reason I spilled that out is because the description of your guy is just like my friend. That's his personality. He won't change.

[daphne]

I remember that incident and was thinking of it when D mentioned the cuke incident.

 

I wonder if Walmart sells organic cucumbers.... ???

 

Lol. Actually, the more she writes about him, the more he reminds me of control freak OCD guy. I thought it was cool that he worked out of his home, until I realized that's one of the top suggestions for employment for a germaphobe since they can't be around other people's germs. Fanatical people are kinda creepy to me.

[dasein]

Have never dated a conspiracy theorist, always wanted to but they are hard to find in female. Always wanted to make up a fake passport with my picture but a different name and let them "find" it in my place.

 

"Truth is honey, I don't actually remember my past or who I am, just woke up here one day... hey what was that? did you hear that? sounds like something moving in the wall... Hey have you ever seen the movie 'The Conversation?' you will love it, I have a copy right here."

[CarrieT]

Have never dated a conspiracy theorist, always wanted to but they are hard to find in female.

 

I've been considered a conspiracy theorist - but mostly because I've been involved with the occult and know things about L. Ron Hubbard and Jack Parsons (the guy who helped start the Jet Propulsion Laboratory).

 

Oh yeah - and the Illuminati... I know stuff 'bout them too...

[threebyfate]

I joke a lot, he has trouble understanding my humour. I have told lots of stories that make him laugh, but the sarcasm and one-liners never resonate with him- I have to explain I am kidding.

 

I guess one thing I can pull from this is that he's yet to make me laugh. We laugh together because I am funny and he responds, I can't recall anything he's said that has made me laugh.

 

That just hit me now.

Absent all his other issues (which appear to be many), this one's a major deal breaker!

[Star Gazer]

I joke a lot, he has trouble understanding my humour. I have told lots of stories that make him laugh, but the sarcasm and one-liners never resonate with him- I have to explain I am kidding.

 

I guess one thing I can pull from this is that he's yet to make me laugh. We laugh together because I am funny and he responds, I can't recall anything he's said that has made me laugh.

 

That just hit me now.

 

That sucks. I recently went on a few dates with a guy just like that. He had said he was fluent in sarcasm and liked being a smartass (both which I love!), and while I found myself laughing on our dates... I realized it was because I was cracking myself up, and he either didn't get my humor or just didn't find it funny enough to warrant an audible chuckle. I don't know what his definition of sarcasm and smartass-ness is, but we obviously don't share the same definition. Too bad too, because he was a nice guy.

[betterdeal]

Talking of paranoid delusions (you weren't, but the conspiracy theory stuff reminded me of it) I remember a guy on the mental health ward who had great paranoid delusions. The police were listening to him via the electricity sockets in his room. And the police helicopter, hovering nearby, had high powered lenses in it that could read the label on the back of your shirt, and were watching us in the gardens. He always said this stuff with good humour, but there was always more than a trace of sincerity in his voice.

 

Even when it was pointed out to him that if the police wanted to watch him, they could pop stand by the fence around the garden, or even pop into the ward, and what would the police be interested in anyway? They'd find a bunch of people having a smoke and a cup of tea in plastic beakers, pacing around a hospital garden to stave off the boredom. Hardly worth the effort, eh? Such considerations were ignored, or taken on board for a couple of minutes then forgotten.

 

There's something curious about paranoia: it simultaneously elevates the importance of the person expressing it (the victim) and the abilities of people attacking them (the aggressors). It;s a very curious state of mind generally.

[Lucky_One]

How did the ftf go last night?

[D-Lish]

How did the ftf go last night?

 

Well, he was here until 4am...Talking.

I had to be up for work at 8. I actually fell asleep:o

 

I don't think he's a bad guy- but I don't think he understands the first thing about being in a relationship because he's never actually had one.

 

He wanted to grab dinner, so we went out for a bite after work and then came back here to "talk". I was pretty specific about my issue with never being heard, being talked over, interrupted, etc... And while trying to explain, he was talking over me, interrupting me, and not giving me a chance to get a word in.

[Art_Critic]

D-lish.. why are you doing this ? an experiment

 

He obviously doesn't have a problem rolling right over every one of your normal boundaries.. 4 am.. who does that ?

[D-Lish]

D-lish.. why are you doing this ? an experiment

 

He obviously doesn't have a problem rolling right over every one of your normal boundaries.. 4 am.. who does that ?

 

Feeling bad I guess. He showed up with a 2012 calender he picked up for me that featured my breed of dogs. I don't know how someone can be so thoughtful in one sense, yet so thoughtless in another. It's evident that he's thinking about me when he's not with me, because he goes out of his way to pick me up things... But when we're together, I feel invisible sometimes because he talks and brags so much about himself.

 

Dinner was going okay, then when our food came, he was disappointed with the portion of his steak, and not only did he call over our waitress, but asked to speak to the manager and the cook. I was mortified as he made a big deal over it, and I was embarrassed.

 

Yes, I do have a problem being the bad guy. I don't want to make him feel the way I felt when my ex dumped me. I told him around 11pm I had to get to bed, the rest was a blur.

[EasyHeart]

This guy wreaks of narcissism.

 

The gift-giving isn't a sign of thoughtfulness. It's an exchange in which he is giving you a gift in exchange for your gratitude, which feeds his voracious ego.

[Art_Critic]

What was the deal with the steak.. portion size ? who does that while on a date..

When I was dating I would've eaten a burnt steak than make a big deal over it and cast my date in embarrassment..

 

If you feel invisible while in his presence then think of how it will feel if you were really together, or living together...

 

He does sound like a fairly nice guy... but being nice doesn't always equal a good fit..

[D-Lish]

What was the deal with the steak.. portion size ? who does that while on a date..

When I was dating I would've eaten a burnt steak than make a big deal over it and cast my date in embarrassment..

 

If you feel invisible while in his presence then think of how it will feel if you were really together, or living together...

 

He does sound like a fairly nice guy... but being nice doesn't always equal a good fit..

 

I know, I tried to explain that. There's been a lot of gift giving in such a short period of knowing one another. I have to admit, everytime he gives me something I feel an obligation to him.

 

As for the meal, yes, it was portion size. Apparantly he always orders the same thing and this time it seemed like there was "less" and he felt short-changed.

 

I'd ignore a hair in my pasta, maybe even a fingernail:laugh:, to avoid anything being uncomfortable.

 

He paid me cash and I went up to pay the rest in debit with the waitress, she completely ignored me, wouldn't even make eye contact. I tipped her $20.

[D-Lish]

This guy wreaks of narcissism.

 

The gift-giving isn't a sign of thoughtfulness. It's an exchange in which he is giving you a gift in exchange for your gratitude, which feeds his voracious ego.

 

That might be. I thought it might be nerves at first.... But after listening to how he's been "almost famous" so many times, how many accolaides he's recieved in his lifetime, how many important politicians he's given advice to that has changed Legislature, the fact that he helped "heal" his own family Dr. from cancer with his vitamin knowledge.... I find myself recovering from fatigue after each date. That's all I listen to, how important he is.

 

A part of me wondered if he was over-compensating initially... One thing I know for sure is that it's not working out and it's not healthy if I have to limit our dates because I know I need a day for recovery afterward.

[whichwayisup]

Feeling bad I guess. He showed up with a 2012 calender he picked up for me that featured my breed of dogs. I don't know how someone can be so thoughtful in one sense, yet so thoughtless in another. It's evident that he's thinking about me when he's not with me, because he goes out of his way to pick me up things... But when we're together, I feel invisible sometimes because he talks and brags so much about himself.

 

Dinner was going okay, then when our food came, he was disappointed with the portion of his steak, and not only did he call over our waitress, but asked to speak to the manager and the cook. I was mortified as he made a big deal over it, and I was embarrassed.

 

Yes, I do have a problem being the bad guy. I don't want to make him feel the way I felt when my ex dumped me. I told him around 11pm I had to get to bed, the rest was a blur.

 

Yah doesn't he realize that complaining about food in a restaurant (that is, if they remake his food) is a huge mistake?? Hello, some cooks SPIT or do worse in the next batch of food that comes out.. That's awful and it is embarressing.

In some sense he needs anger managment and learn to let go of his control issues..

 

Anyway, because he has no real experience, tha'ts probably why he's acting like a goof ball. I doubt it's intentional, he just doens't know any better. Men who are bach's for too long can forget social graces and certain skills. Like knowing when the shut the F up!

[whichwayisup]

That might be. I thought it might be nerves at first.... But after listening to how he's been "almost famous" so many times, how many accolaides he's recieved in his lifetime, how many important politicians he's given advice to that has changed Legislature, the fact that he helped "heal" his own family Dr. from cancer with his vitamin knowledge.... I find myself recovering from fatigue after each date. That's all I listen to, how important he is.

 

A part of me wondered if he was over-compensating initially... One thing I know for sure is that it's not working out and it's not healthy if I have to limit our dates because I know I need a day for recovery afterward.

 

You know, this doesn't have to end badly.. Seriously, obviously this guy is not the "one" for you.. Hate to say it, but use the "I like you but I can't see this getting serious. I would like to be friends though ... " See where I'm going with this... Then tell him you need space. There's no need to go into details, unless he asks, don't "go" there..

[D-Lish]

You know, this doesn't have to end badly.. Seriously, obviously this guy is not the "one" for you.. Hate to say it, but use the "I like you but I can't see this getting serious. I would like to be friends though ... " See where I'm going with this... Then tell him you need space. There's no need to go into details, unless he asks, don't "go" there..

 

I would be friends with him, but I don't know if that would work out.

 

I think I've enjoyed the part of him that takes an interest in me in the way my ex never did, but it's equal to, or even less than the value of what I got from my ex- it's just a different form of neglect wrapped up in a pretty package of the illusion that I'm treasured. I get a gift at the beginning of the date, and it seems like hush money to sit back and accept being stifled.

[Art_Critic]

and it seems like hush money to sit back and accept being stifled.

 

Pun intended ....... shhhhhhh.. did I tell you that I'm a famous Clown ?

[D-Lish]

Pun intended ....... shhhhhhh.. did I tell you that I'm a famous Clown ?

 

I tried to, but he cut me off....

[D-Lish]

It does irritate you though...he's paying for a service and if the service(portion) is not worth the money then he has a right to complain, but I agree, it was to much what he did in front of you...

 

I'd be to embarrassed to do that....

 

Even going through the MCYDees drive through if I get something I didn't order I just keep going...my sister or mom would say "STOP! go back! I'll say....No:D

 

OMG They gave me medium fries instead of large....STOP THE BUS!!

 

It's all about how you go about complaining. I work in customer service and there is an approach a customer uses that ya' don't mind at all, and a way a customer approaches a complaint that ya' do.

 

Our waitress explained it as a slicing issue- that the volume of meat is consistent, depends on how you slice it. She was gracious, and he made a big deal of going over her head, and when the Manager was just as gracious, he wanted to speak to the cook:eek:. I was mortified.

 

There is that customer that comes at you with indignance, and the customer that approaches you with grace. He was the former. All this happened before I broke up with him, but it solidified why I was breaking up with him for me.

[Art_Critic]

All this happened before I broke up with him, but it solidified why I was breaking up with him for me.

 

So you did break it off... what was his reaction ?

[D-Lish]

It's all about how you go about complaining. I work in customer service and there is an approach a customer uses that ya' don't mind at all, and a way a customer approaches a complaint that ya' do.

 

Our waitress explained it as a slicing issue- that the volume of meat is consistent, depends on how you slice it. She was gracious, and he made a big deal of going over her head, and when the Manager was just as gracious, he wanted to speak to the cook:eek:. I was mortified.

 

There is that customer that comes at you with indignance, and the customer that approaches you with grace. He was the former. All this happened before I broke up with him, but it solidified why I was breaking up with him for me.

 

This ^

 

OH:eek: the cook too?....lol...geezus Christ...... what a goofy bastard.

 

Yes, Eric, he wanted to talk to the cook.

He bought me a gift, we went to dinner, he berrated the wait staff, then I spent 5 hours trying to break up with him as I was falling alseep. Do you know how hard it is to break up with someone that doesn't pay attention to what you're saying?

 

Needless to say, I'm very tired today.