To tell him or not to tell him

[beckinator1120]

There is this guy... his name is Eddie. Eddie and I met because we went to high school together and he is my best friends cousin. We dated for a while off and in throughout high school but nothing long term, then Eddie gradutated and went into the marines. (He is a year older than me.) Once he went away, we didn't talk or see each other very much. He would call once about every two months and we would talk for 3 to 4 hours catching up and stuff. Then this past year I went away to college and was really homesick. Eddie called one night while I was at school and I told him about how I was homesick. We talked for hours. He was there for me and told me it was going to be okay. I felt so much better talking to him. From that night on he would call to make sure I was doing okay, just to check on me. We would talk every night for 2 or 3 hours. Talking every night made us really close. We continue to talk almost everynight. It is hard for me to trust people because I have been hurt in relationships in the past so trusting him was a big step for me. I tell him everything... we have no secrets. Right now Eddie is stationed in North Carolina, however, in July he is going to be stationed in Japan for a year. Now, Eddie and I arent dating but there are definately feelings between us. He is truely my best friend... he is always there for me no matter how far away he is. Eddie and I have talked a lot about him leaving and he has said many times that he cant wait to see the world and meet many new people. He has also said that he is glad he is not in a realtionship right now either because he doesnt feel that it would be fair to a girlfriend if he cant see her. He is coming home in June for a month (we live in the same city) before he leaves for Japan. We have many plans to get together while he is home and to spentd lots of time together before he leaves. This brings me to my question... I care very much about Eddie and I want to be in a relationship with him no matter how far away he is. My question then is knowing how he feel about not wanting to have a relationship while he is gone, should I tell him how I feel about him when he comes home or not? And if so how do I tell him? I care about him so much. I love him and I want him to know this before he leaves because there is the chance that something could happen to him and I will never see him again. Am I pursuing something unreal? Should I tell him or not? Please help.

[average guy]

How would you feel if something happened to him and you never told him? This is your answer. Tell him if you will regret not having told him for the rest of your life!

 

Otherwise, just as an aletrnative, just telling him that you love him as a friend could be very helpful to him in times of need if he comes across them. Just knowing that someone loves him could keep him going through hardship.

 

I would do what your heart tells you to do

 

Good luck

 

A.G.

[beckinator1120]

I thought I might add that I live in Michigan and Eddie is in North Carolina.

 

Also, how would I go about telling him how I feel without making it awkward between us? I want to have a good time with him while he is home and I dont want to deal with things being awkward.

 

Another question I have is that none of my friends approve of him... they all think he isnt worth my time and that I should just forget about him and find someone that is worth while. Any tips on dealing with unaccepting friends?

 

Thanks a bunch.