WreakXHavoc416 Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 I'm sure this sounds like a broken record but oh well, I think this case may be a little bit different. We shall see. Cheating is wrong, Obviously, I know this. Last night, I went out, Got fall down drunk. It doesn't happen often, rarely actually. Anyway, you guessed it. I cheated:(. With more than one partner too. I feel like the biggest piece of poo in the world, But Sadly the deed is done and I cant change it, No time machines yet. But, My lover is in the prison, Ive been with him for about a month, The catch is I never met him. (I know, I know) Awhile ago, a friend wanted to know If i wanted to be someones pen pal and I felt bad and said sure. No one wants to feel unloved. We start writing alot, and hes amazing. Hes really smart, Has a great personality and a big heart. I dont care about his past, people make mistakes, most people just never get caught. I am never judgmental and I always give people the benefit of the doubt. His crime wasn't even that bad, Could be worse. He told me he loved me and all that awesome stuff, Said he'd go go crazy with out me and all that stuff. Which is a little weird and all But I am a awesome pen-pal and I feel the same. I don't expect people to understand, Nor Do I want to. It's hard to explain. But anyway what I am asking is, Should I tell him? Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 I think you need to get checked for STD's immediately. You screwed two separate men when you were blind drunk. This is major self-destructive behavior. You need to seek out counseling at once. Your self-esteem must be at all time low. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 (edited) Uhm.... ok all that aside, I just want to address the situation with your BF in jail....yes it has been only a month but back in a time not so long ago called the 80's and 90's I spent several calendar years as an guest in one of those places called "home away form home". I will be upfront about it with you because luckily you have only been a pen pal with this guy for a month. A litlle bit dicey with the explanation but normally I would say please tell your BF but I have actually been where he is so I have some reservations about this, especially if he has your home address or has any inkling as to where you live. be careful in telling him for a number of reasons. Number one of which is being behind bars and learning this kind of news means he will not be in a very healthy place to even overcome the initial shock. The Pen Pal thing is a minefield at best but I would consider holding back a little bit before you reveal any of this to him. Yes its only been a month but the world behind the bars is so far removed from anything your mind can really fathom that even if he is in a lower security place than I was, he is literally rolling the dice each and every day to keep his heart beating and his ass in tact(I am not joking about that one bit). so the last thing he needs right now is a Dear John Letter from you telling him any of this. Prison is not the place to show any emotion that may be misconstrued as weakness, and bad news like this has to be handled in a way that his safety is first and foremost. so for now, if I were you I would hold back any nuggets of info about your recent exploits. I can only concur with Bryan as far as the STD testing right now. You need to do this Tomorrow!. I am extremely serious when I tell you that if you have any concerns about this guy at all, now is not the time to tell him. Yeah it may have been only a month and to some, it may seem like I am overstating this but if he has any enemies in their and catch him at a time when he is affected by the news of your actions it could spell disaster for the guy in a real world sense. Unless you have actually been stupid enough to wind up there like I was, you will not be truly able to understand it...just take my word for it...hold off for a bit. Good Luck Edited October 17, 2011 by Space Ritual Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted October 17, 2011 Share Posted October 17, 2011 You're right, I don't understand. You call him your lover; yet, you've never met him face to face. He's not your lover, he's a pen pal. I'm not gonna judge the guy, because a jury of his peers already has done that. But, it is what it is, and this is not a traditional relationship at all. You write him and maybe talk to him on the phone, but most people need more out of a relationship than that and I think you might be short changing yourself in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
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