skillzilla44 Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 There is a girl at school that I have wanted to hook up with since the beginning of the year. Everyone thinks that we are already a couple because we are always together, but due to some weird circumstances we arent. She already told me that she wants a relationship with me but has never asked me out. Every time I take the chance and ask her out though, she says that it is not the right time. Im absolutely crazy over her ,so could someone help me out? Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 Your the man, make it the right time. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 thats right. if she claims she doesnt have the "time" then go ask someone else who can make the time for you, soon she'll be regretting it. c'mon seriously, you cant expect to be waiting forever for her to say yes usually ppl dont know what they really cherish until they realize they've lost it. human beings are the strangest creatures. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 true, nice monkey00. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 playing hard to get is so annoying, especially when the girl really wants you or thinks she does, lol I usually allow myself 3 attempts then nothing. Sad thing is, girls who do this and find I stop pursuing will hang around all the time, try to talk to you when they tried to ignore you before, mention getting a new cell phone # or pager hoping you'll ask for it and then realize you won't so they'll stand there silent for 30 seconds not knowing what to do....*snaps out of it* eeh, yeah...for me it gets annoying...yalls had your chance. It's in my belief that MY "hard to get" girls only pursue me because they like playing the game, not that they are really interested in me...I'm humble Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 Try not asking. "hey, we are on a date on saturday. Together. Pickin'you up at 8.00" Or try with the "you said you wanted to have a relationship with me. Well, will you be my girlfriend?" stuff. Or ask her what her 'it is not the right time'means. Hopefully she'll explain.... Or inform her that since she seems only to play you around and won't go out with you you are going to ask out someone else. Perhaps this will wake her up. Aren't people who play games terrible? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 Tell her to be careful which games she plays because sometimes people who play hard-to-get never get 'got'! Don't waste your time playing silly games -- ask someone else out. Don't threaten this girl by telling her that you are going to date others--that is another game. Just date others. She'll get the message. If she says anything to you about it just remind her that she is the one who wouldn't make time for you. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 I don't like the hard to get thing or the game playing thing either. If we feel for each other, lets just get togther and discard all the pomposity and garbage. The best relationship is like a friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 I agree, capitald, best relationships I had involved friendship. But how are you supposed to get passed people's insecurities? You can't really... it's their job So my advice is to actually do something, 'cause you seem to be waisting your time... and alone in the mean time Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Stop asking her out. Sorry to say this, but don't waste your time on a game player. Aren't there other attractive girls who you like? Ask out one of them--you might find that another girl thinks it is a great time to get to know you. You may lose your interest in the girl who never has time for you. Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted May 23, 2004 Share Posted May 23, 2004 Curlyiam, I like what you said about insecurities and how people have to work through them on their own. Thats so true and I can relate to that with what I am going through. I give people time to work through their fears and I let them get back to me. I don't know if I am playing hard to get but in a sense I guess I am. Really however I am protecting myself and my dignity from unjustice harm. I am not going to stand around and listen to someone hang their insecurities on my neck. You go work that crap out on your own and come back to me when you feel better about yourself or don't get back to me if I am no longer what you are looking for. Some fears and insecurities are justifiable however, for example if you are in a relationshiop with a person, that person may feel that they are no longer in love with you or that you can no longer meet their needs for one reason or another. Not everyone is perfect for everyone and no one is superman. There is alot to think about here. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 24, 2004 Share Posted May 24, 2004 Heed the advice you've received so far. Always remember to judge people by their actions, not by their words. A woman may say a thousand times "I want to date you," but if she hasn't said yes to a single date, then you need to step back and acknowledge that the actions don't match the words. I believe that if someone wants to date you, they don't want to play games. They don't want to risk losing you to someone else. In this case, she's just telling you that she'll arbitrarily decide when it's the right time to go out on a date. And why would she change her attitude with you fawning all over her? Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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