smokenz Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 Hi I thought I'd post this to see if anyone may have some ideas about this. This is really just your typical confused sort of help question thing, part lame I guess too. Anyway. Just last weekend I was at my girlfriends flat, and they had a party going on. Just your usual university type party, although half of us there work and not study. After the party a few of us decided we would go check out the clubs. There was 4 of us, my friend, his girlfriend, this girl who is married and myself ( we are all friends and couple friends etc). My girl stayed at home and went to sleep, and this married girls husband was passed out on the sofa. Anyway, went to the clubs and danced. I found myself ending up dancing with this married girl. Nothing bad happened. Like no cheating or hooking up etc. But I just found that we started to dance closer, sort of rubbing a bit I guess. Then when we danced and I would hold her from behind she would take my hands and clasp her fingers with mine, then it sort of seem like we were getting close, but we didn't want our friends to see that were with us. I know this seems pretty lame, no big exciting affair type story, but I'm just wondering what people think. I know that while this was happening and we were dancing I was having fun and I was NOT totally drunk, and niether was she, so we knew what we were doing. I guess I'm just a bit unsure as I know that I will come in contact with this girl again as she is in my girls group of friends, and we usually catch up for a meal or drink at times. And yeah, I am not a player type, but when stuff like this happens with me it usually ends up going a bit furthur, but I want to be on the lookout. Yeah I'm just confused. But any feedback would be appreciated. Cheers Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 and what exactly are you trying to tell us? Link to post Share on other sites
Author smokenz Posted May 18, 2004 Author Share Posted May 18, 2004 Sorry. I'm just unsure what to think of what happened. Does it sound like we may have started off some kind of affection or just 2 people dancing together? I mean, I don't think it's much affection if you dance with a friend. But if you start getting a bit closer and your hands hold close that seems a bit more than normal dancing. Or maybe I am just paranoid? Cheers Link to post Share on other sites
capitald Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 So what your saying is that you want two girlfriends who are good friends with each other. Thats crazy. That will end in tears, i'll bet on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smokenz Posted May 18, 2004 Author Share Posted May 18, 2004 No. I don't want 2 girlfriends at all. Thats why I'm posting here. I'm confused about what happened. I danced with this girl, as the 4 of us went out to the clubs, and we just danced. But then the dancing got a bit close, and as I don't go to clubs much I'm not sure if that sort of dancing is normal. I want to know what people think. Does it sound like something could come from this? Cos I don't want it to, and I really want to know what I should do if something seems as if it could. I'm not exactly going to be able to ignore this girl as she is my gf's friend and as we all just met recently we will all start to go out more as a group to restaurants and stuff, and plus I don't want to ignore her as we got along great, just like my gf's other gf's, so it would just seem more obvious if I wasn't as nice to her wouldn't it? Sorry I've been unclear, I knew this post would end up confusing. Cheers Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 she's prolly a skank looking to cheat and if you're a jerk you'll want to bump her nasties. I knew a girl who wasn't quite married but was on that road, had a fiancee...and was looking around to cheat. She wanted to cheat with me but that ain't my game. Needless to say, such people disgust me. Yeah sure she's cute and all but ugliness really overpowers all when it comes from within. But if you have good morals and a decent person you'll confront her. Just ask her and let her husband know what transpired. Anyways, that's what I'd do and I have done that when girls who were attached did that to me. For some reason attached women assume I'll cheat with them, just because I'm hot! eheheheheh! I'm on vacation baby. Just lounging about though Link to post Share on other sites
Author smokenz Posted May 18, 2004 Author Share Posted May 18, 2004 hope your vacation is all good bro. I see what u mean about all that. But that's a thing which sorta confuses me, because she isn't actually a skank. I've seen her at parties before and what my girl friends say about her, she is pretty normal settled chick. But yeah, I've had a talk to a friend and I think I'll just go along like normal and see what happens, but not make any moves or give any looks. Cheers for help Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 I've had a boyfriend hold a friends hands before and it SUCKS to be on the receiving end. You owe your gf more respect than that, and to do it with her best friend says a lot about you. Men can be such scumbags. Leave her if she doesn't satisfy you PLEASE. Spare her the hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
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