self doubt

[Beachygirl]

Hi,

I'm new here. But I'm looking for some advice. My bf and I have been together for about 1 yrs and 1/2. Were very much in love and 99% of the time I have no worries. Except when I'm not around. He goes to chat rooms and tries to hide it from me. Its hard to except because we are so great together and when I am around were so busy doing stuff he doesnt bother w/ the computer. I'm not saying were perfect. In the beginning he lied to me about another girl but that ended (emotional affair) pretty quick. And I let it go since it was just the beginning of us. But he'll do things that make me question him like its been a year and he looked up her website. He said he was bored and he was just surfing and just wanted to see what was going on. Is it bad that I believe him. I tell him I think he thinks I'm a schmuck. He says no and I know he wants to be with me. Were best friends. Sooo my whole question is...is it bad to let those kind of things go if your certain the person loves you? I dont want to worry about things that I shouldnt and ruin what we have. He admits to doing naughty things but their harmless internet stuff.

I guess I'm just doubting my instincts....is that normal?

 

Thank you

Helene

[singa]

I think your instincts told you something was wrong and that's why you're writing. If he's writing other people on the internet in a sexual manner that's just wrong. And I don't think it's harmless as it seems to bother you and that matters. Also, if he does things when your not around or is hiding something from you to me that means he knows he's doing something wrong and knows or feels he shouldn't be doing. You usually hide something when you know it's wrong. I don't know how the 2 of you are together enough to say what I think you should do, but I think at the very least you should think about what it is that bothers you about his behavior and address it.