karmaqueen Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 Hi everyone, It will help me immensely to share my story so here we go- I met him 15 months online- He's 400km away in a different country. Anyway, we hit it off immediately and 6 weeks later I flew out to meet him. It was real crazy love and the relationship progressed. We chatted on and off all day every day on the phone and by messaging. Every 6 to 8 weeks I flew to see him. He started off paying for half or my costs etc- he said he could not come to me as he worked 2 jobs and had so little spare time. Anyway, I always had doubts over why he would not visit me and about whether I could completely trust him. I felt that I was giving 100 percent to this relationship but not getting it in return. We had so many arguments about these 2 issues. I really wanted to know if I could trust him for my own sanity. Out of the blue, I found him on a thing similar to facebook- there was a photo of him with a girl on there. I questioned him about it and he said it was his ex (it was indeed an old photo). Still, I felt I could not trust him so I contacted this woman 3 weeks ago- turns out she is pregnant with his kid and they have been living together for 9 years!!! Well, he has lost us both. The only good thing to come out of it for me is that I know to always trust my instincts. I put so much time, energy and money into this relationship and I'm left with a huge amount of pain and anger. Thanks if anyone has read this! It just helps to get it off my chest- I have no one to talk to about it as all my friends had forewarned me of these consequences:( Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 Wow that's a pretty crazy story sorry that happened to you can't believe how horrible you must feel, I have 1 question how did he manage to hide it all while you went to visit him? again sorry this happened to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author karmaqueen Posted October 19, 2011 Author Share Posted October 19, 2011 Sighhhh. We stayed in hotels most of the time- the times we didn't his live in girlfriend was away. They say love is blind and yes, looking back, I was blind. Link to post Share on other sites
binny Posted October 19, 2011 Share Posted October 19, 2011 Wow, I'm so sorry this had to happen to you.. *hugs* I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel.. It's amazing what someone can hide from you.. I'm not sure how you didn't suspect something if you were staying in hotels though.. But at least you are rid of him now - you are MUCH better off with him out of your life Link to post Share on other sites
Author karmaqueen Posted October 20, 2011 Author Share Posted October 20, 2011 Yea,with hindsight I was stupid and he really did have an answer for everything. I'm glad I saw through it eventually. Link to post Share on other sites
PrissyDixie Posted October 21, 2011 Share Posted October 21, 2011 Yea,with hindsight I was stupid You are never and were never stupid; if so no one has a brain...hindsight is always clearer...you are human and you put your trust in someone...I'm so sorry he turned out to be a "turd" but don't ever put down on yourself! Be true to you and I'm thankful you trusted your instincts, sometimes it has to be gut over heart! Best Wishes!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author karmaqueen Posted October 22, 2011 Author Share Posted October 22, 2011 Thank You Prissydixie and everyone else. I do feel much stronger now and can breathe a sigh of relief. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted October 23, 2011 Share Posted October 23, 2011 Sorry, that is unconscionable. He knew damn well how much you were investing. That is a scummy thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author karmaqueen Posted October 23, 2011 Author Share Posted October 23, 2011 Sorry, that is unconscionable. He knew damn well how much you were investing. That is a scummy thing to do. Haha I love that word! Yes you are right and I'm feeling so much better without him! Link to post Share on other sites
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