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Brother seeking "cheap" forgiveness


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My brother was always my mother's favourite. He grew up feeling entitled and later led a life of crime to afford the kind of lifestyle he thought was due him. He stole from all of us. I went to visit him in prison and tried to help him get his life in shape but he wasn't interested. So I stopped bothering. My mother still thought he was wonderful and kept contact, but the rest of us gave up on him seeing as he wasn't interested in getting his life back on track.

 

Many years later, he thinks he can just walk back into our lives. He has never expressed any kind of remorse nor has he even accepted that he did wrong, lying and stealing and committing fraud and getting us into a whole bunch of trouble. He thinks it's time to make peace with the past and move on, and that we owe him that because he wants it.

 

But I can't forgive someone who is not even sorry for what they did. I can never trust him and I don't like him and it's my choice not to have him in my life while he is the way he chooses to be. My mother thinks we are at fault here, that he's served his time in prison even though he still claims he was innocent despite forensic evidence and witnesses and being found guilty with aggravating circumstances. She thinks the least we can do is forgive him and allow him to move on with his life "in the bosom of his family".

Is this fair?

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